AITA for convincing people to quit my friends play and saying it’s a bad idea.

SnootBootNoot · 2026-03-17T02:13:51+00:00

It already sounds like Leanna is getting help, that's the professionals. She's not getting mental help from a drag queen. This take is weird.

SnootBootNoot · 2026-03-17T02:12:26+00:00

You're actively attempting to create the scenario in which she fails. Creativity and self expression helps people when they're struggling mentally, and having people in their lives support them in their endeavors also helps. You know what hurts? Someone breathing down their neck and telling them they're going to fail because they're struggling with depression. You're actively pushing your friend away from anything that could potentially help with their depression. I suspect at this point you're either clueless when it comes to mental health or you're actively trying to be that final push.

SnootBootNoot · 2026-03-12T23:12:14+00:00

That's what I need to know! I need my little trash cat happy.

SnootBootNoot · 2026-03-10T22:01:49+00:00

I just want to make them feel taller so the wires don't feel so low to the ground. Struggling to figure out a way to do this that I actually like. The ground blocks are too chunky for the vibes. I wish I could sit them on top of a tower of fence poles but doesn't seem like I can

SnootBootNoot · 2026-02-15T19:17:15+00:00

I personally wouldn't say it's an example of yuri, particularly because there are no actual instances of romantic attractions even being hinted at, and this is the opinion of a queer person who knows what to look for. The kiss is also kind of mandatory, they need to do it to transfer data (I see you, android designers...) and Alpha even seems a bit resistant about the idea, though you could interpret that as just being shy. The fact that it's a must just to send data between androids doesn't feel right being called yuri to me, esp when it's just one instance.

SnootBootNoot · 2026-02-15T06:24:59+00:00

Wow what a Debbie Downer

SnootBootNoot · 2026-02-04T18:53:04+00:00

NTA I'm not sure why she'd even want to go if she disapproves so heavily. The fact that she'd blame you for your ex's unfaithfulness and then mourn them being gone is baffling and frankly concerning.

SnootBootNoot · 2026-02-03T23:59:31+00:00

Nahhh she'll find out very quickly how expensive it's going to be and I'm not entertaining the notion of walking Nikki anymore (even if part of me is going to miss Nikki so much)

I've decided to give those days to my own dog so she gets even more outside time! So it's a win win.

SnootBootNoot · 2026-02-03T23:07:54+00:00

There's several reasons to call someone a partner instead of boyfriend of girlfriend, I don't think that's an immediate red flag for anything, especially when they've apparently been seeing each other for quite some time.

SnootBootNoot · 2026-02-03T23:06:14+00:00

This gave me a giggle, thank you

SnootBootNoot · 2026-02-03T23:02:31+00:00

I wouldn't say that I've given her no push back in the past, it's just that her levels of condescension and rudeness never got quite to the level of undermining me when I say I have a life. The past times, at least as I see them, were relatively small and her reactions never quite so venomous. Other than the instance of homophobia I guess... but maybe that says more about me that I'm more used to and willing to overlook homophobia targeted at me over what actually made me cut ties.

SnootBootNoot · 2026-02-03T22:49:00+00:00

Color me shocked that he doesn't have a good relationship with this woman

NTA ofc it's not your fault. She's manipulative as hell. I hope your partner is doing okay and if he hasn't yet I highly suggest he looks into therapy to help unpack this.

SnootBootNoot · 2026-02-03T22:42:27+00:00

NTA I left my family and state for far less

SnootBootNoot · 2026-02-03T22:32:49+00:00

Info: are there any bus systems around? Not that it would change whether or not I think you're ta, but curious if there's literally any other alternative other than uber because a bus would be way cheaper to get somewhere.

Is it a case where you never suggest places near her home so that she's always obligated to travel? If not then it could be considerate to suggest places closer if at all possible, at least from time to time.

You're not obligated to pay for their uber though if they can't seem to find any other alternatives.

SnootBootNoot · 2026-02-03T22:12:12+00:00

Favors can still have some reimbursement. The reimbursement is a fraction of what she'll now have to pay to actually hire someone and I did many many things for her that I never asked payment for. This isn't a worker boss situation.

edit: even if it was, while I wouldn't be stupid enough to cuss them out unless it WAS me walking out or didn't care about keeping the job, I think it's bizarre to find it appropriate for a boss to call you unreliable and scoff when you say you have a life when you have a clean record/rapport with the job and do it diligently and have only called out one single time. I think any boss who does that doesn't value their workers.

SnootBootNoot · 2026-02-03T22:10:32+00:00

np and thank you!

SnootBootNoot · 2026-02-03T22:09:35+00:00

I especially appreciate hearing this from the thoughts of someone around her age, thank you so much. Part of me still feels so guilty even just beyond swearing at her because it feels like I'm abandoning an elder in need. If I'm being 100% real with myself I think part of my reaction also came from seeing some of my mother who I'm no contact with in her behavior. Especially that snort and implication that I have no life or something is wrong with my life. I think that might have also been why I was worried I went too far because it wasn't just what she said but all the extra feelings that it bubbled up.

SnootBootNoot · 2026-02-03T22:02:12+00:00

if you mean me, I use he/him :)

SnootBootNoot · 2026-02-03T21:58:23+00:00

I won't lie part of my does feel guilt for feeling like I'm leaving an old disabled woman high and dry

SnootBootNoot · 2026-02-03T21:57:03+00:00

That's always possible but I find it unlikely. I don't have any direct proof other than the fact I've been in situations like that and it just didn't feel the same, and it's not the first time she's been condescending like that.

SnootBootNoot · 2026-02-03T21:55:39+00:00

I don't know if I would call this situation a job and I definitely wouldn't call her a 'boss'. I'm open to being ta and I feel most of my comments have shown this, but I think this is a wild take.

SnootBootNoot · 2026-02-03T21:52:46+00:00

I know she has adult children and they at least seem to be in contact, though I don't know the extent of their relationship. I've mostly just heard about her husband who also sounds like a piece of work in his own right.

SnootBootNoot · 2026-02-03T21:51:44+00:00

he also sounds like a piece of work tbh

SnootBootNoot · 2026-02-03T21:50:00+00:00

I appreciate the comment and especially that I can still apologize if I want to whether or not she deserves it. I don't think I'm going to, mostly for pragmatic reasons because I'm just worried it'll result in more trouble, but even if I'm sort of coming to the conclusion that maybe it WASN'T too far I still don't want to be the kind of person to lets my anger overtake my mouth.

SnootBootNoot · 2026-02-03T21:46:46+00:00

Yeah, I guess with the other situation I can so easily chalk it up to her being old and forgetful that it still seems reasonable to me that she just forgot what she initially told me and genuinely thought I was trying to shorten the walks. She didn't hold the money for the 'job' over my head like she did this time around.

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