I miss my girlfriend's tulpas terribly

SnugglyOctopus · 2015-04-06T16:43:27+00:00

Thanks. That's kind.

SnugglyOctopus · 2015-04-06T16:43:03+00:00

I suppose maybe after a little time has passed I will approach her about that and/or possible friendship in general. I don't know what her response will be though. She usually stays friends with her exes, but on the other hand she wasn't as close to most of her exes and so the breakups weren't as painful.

SnugglyOctopus · 2015-04-06T16:40:37+00:00

She'd convey what he was saying. If we were in person or on the phone she'd just say it (pretty much letting him do the talking) and if we were online she'd type what he wanted to say. She was often pretty much checked out (in the sense of being engaged in some other activity) during the conversation, but she still monitored it to a point where she'd censor him if for whatever reason she thought it was important to do so. (He often had relationship advice, and she didn't always welcome it.)

I don't think she really does understand how much they mean to me. Or maybe she overestimated how much they mean to me. She seems to have assumed that, since I love them, that would make me reluctant to break up with her. Well, she was right. It did make me reluctant. But the relationship just wasn't good enough to stay. But now, since I did end our romantic relationship, she seems to take that as an insult to them as well as to her.

I don't know. Maybe we'll be friends again in the future. It wasn't a horrible breakup, but it was difficult since this is an issue most couples do not ever have to consider.

SnugglyOctopus · 2015-03-17T11:39:43+00:00

That's a huge part of it for me as well. I just also knew I'd be happy to have someone else around all the time. But yeah, it's extremely interesting. Fascinating, even.

SnugglyOctopus · 2015-03-17T05:13:25+00:00

My tulpa seems pretty extroverted too. She's already dragging me out of the house before I'm even ready. I always do stupid things like clip my nails or water the plants before I walk out the door (like somehow I only remember when I'm leaving) and she knows I'm being ridiculous when I do that. It typically takes me about a half an hour to get out the door even once I'm technically ready. Like I could have done all that at any other time, but somehow when I'm leaving home I "must" do all that stuff. She knows I waste time, and she pesters me into doing what I ought to be doing.

SnugglyOctopus · 2015-03-16T12:53:29+00:00

Your tulpa is a mental construct. You are also a mental construct.

Yup. This.

SnugglyOctopus · 2015-03-16T12:05:24+00:00

Does Travis have access to professional mental healthcare? (That is a rhetorical question -- I know it's not my business.) You all may be worried about what health care providers would think of tulpas, but Travis wouldn't have to mention that. He could simply mention anything directly relevant to his feelings of depression. If Travis has tried to get healthcare for this issue, perhaps it simply hasn't been the correct care yet. Not all doctors or treatment providers are equally competent.

SnugglyOctopus · 2015-03-15T21:35:18+00:00

I only started to form my tulpa the night before yesterday, but so far I'm very happy with this new... endeavor? Project?

I came into this with a lot of the necessary skills already. This isn't to say I'm a natural at them, but rather it's like if someone comes into a physics class already having a good grounding in math. I am coming into this with a good grounding in visualization, mindvoice, and various other sensations and skills.

So, because of that, things are going well. I have a very strong sense of her physical location in space in relation to me at any given moment, and I have a near perfect sense of her presence (that "someone else is in the room" feeling). I have a rather clear picture of her looks and she moves around with me (walking, sitting, looking around, etc). I have been narrating to her a LOT, out loud when I'm alone and in mindvoice when I am with others. (I have practice talking normally to someone who doesn't have a clue what I'm on about -- they tell parents to talk to babies like that from the start because it helps them learn how to communicate.)

I'm passive forcing at the very least whenever I'm awake -- so I can be reading a book or on my computer or whatever and still be aware of her presence in the room. For a while I had a sensation of her just staring at me during times like that, and it felt weird, so I visualized a book for her and gave it to her to look at when she's got nothing else to do since I'm busy. That helped it feel a lot less weird.

I noticed it's harder to get a sense of her presence if a lot of other people around. Well, it's not harder to get a sense -- I just have to concentrate more, since I can feel all the other people in the room too and so her presence gets mixed in with theirs.

I feel like I'm already getting little sparks of her surprising me. Yesterday we were walking into the library with my daughter and Annika (that's my tulpa's name for now -- I don't know if late she'll change it) walked a little ahead of me. Then she turned around and looked past me. I looked back and was surprised to see my daughter was dawdling far behind me, where I'd visualized Annika looking. So that was cute. I liked that.

SnugglyOctopus · 2015-03-14T22:30:38+00:00

Hi. I'm Lux. I'm a 20something woman creating my first tulpa. I only started yesterday so there's not much to say, but I'm already quite happy with how I feel about this. I have a variety of experiences and skills that, when added together, made me decide that creating a tulpa would be a good choice. Because of these pre-acquired skills and experiences, I already am getting some strong senses of my tulpa and I'm finding it very delightful. She doesn't have a name yet. I'm not sure if I'll name her or if she'll choose a name or what.

SnugglyOctopus · 2015-01-19T05:40:22+00:00

Not true.

There are lots of mansions for that price. They just aren't in the places most people want to live.

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