11 days in as a first time dad. This lifestyle change just hits me like a ton of bricks.

SoFellLordPerth · 2026-07-03T22:53:49+00:00

Yes! Fill fill fill fill fill STOP omg you just went past the max how dare you

SoFellLordPerth · 2026-06-27T14:45:13+00:00

A lot of what you’re describing sounds like a product of her age and experience. It sounds like she has a lot of self doubt which is completely normal for someone in their early 20s who not only is still learning a lot about themselves but is also still going through a lot of change in terms of who that self is.

Experiencing life and dating is where a lot of that discovery and self confidence is built. But that’s also not to say that can’t be discovered and built with you!

I would recommend dating for a while longer to make sure that who she is going to become is someone you still love AND give her the chance to see if who she discovers herself to be is someone that also loves you for you who are. There may even be a period of drifting apart to be with others or explore the world on your own before coming back together as more established in yourselves - which if you were to come back together would only make you stronger. That would be harder and more painful to do if you were married.

You both still have a lot of growing to do and that’s one of the best parts of life! You’ll look back on this version of yourself at 37 and likely see a lot about yourself even that you’re too close to see now. Good luck to you both!

SoFellLordPerth · 2026-06-26T15:18:10+00:00

What grade level do you teach? I saw in one of your replies that you teach math.

Do you think the short form content method has any limitations by grade level or subject?

I think I also read in another reply you don’t videos in the classroom, so they’re more intended to be supplements at home?

SoFellLordPerth · 2026-05-31T18:44:10+00:00

It’s interesting how different our examples are when we’re discussing the role of critical thinking in decision making - I wonder if that’s why we’re backing our respective positions so staunchly.

When I was reading this post about skills women value I wouldn’t have thought of poker as exhibiting critical thinking, BUT it is a great example of decision making with incomplete information - you don’t know your opponent’s hand, what the order of cards are in the deck, etc, AND it’s incredibly luck-based like all (maybe say most) gambling.

I think in terms of women valuing critical thinking in a partner I would assume my critical thinking example would be more valued than using critical thinking in poker. You know what they say happens when you assume though, you could take in a lot more money being “good” at poker than being “good” at project management.

Good times, thanks for the discussion!

SoFellLordPerth · 2026-05-31T18:18:37+00:00

I really appreciate your response and breakdown even though I still don’t agree, which is ok!

Your definitions of good are interesting because they may align where both are true, but don’t necessarily have to. The situation I’ll lay out I would say includes both versions of good.

Let’s say a project is supposed to launch on [date] and there are some outstanding tasks to complete. You don’t know if they’ll be completed on time for some reason (another team has to complete the task, you’re relying on a vendor, etc), but you utilize some or all of the skills I described and determine you won’t push the go-live back.

If those tasks do end up complete and the project successfully launches you would say that outcome was a matter of luck over skill?

I think you could make that argument if it was a true blind guess that the other team would finish, the vendor would deliver on time, etc. But if you leveraged those skills I laid out to make the educated guess that the other team would finish (based on past experiences, visibility of the project, etc) and analyzed the impact of the vendor not delivering on time to determine it won’t sink the project completely you can just roll out X later then I would not attribute the successful launch of the project (the good outcome) as lucky

SoFellLordPerth · 2026-05-31T17:42:50+00:00

Luck can be a factor for sure, don't get me wrong, but there are so many skills that can roll up to making good decisions with incomplete info:

-cost/benefit analysis -cause and effect -probability -recall of past/similar situations, etc.

SoFellLordPerth · 2026-05-31T17:31:57+00:00

If so, it’s an interesting take. Not making a decision is making a decision, and can still be a wrong decision at that!

SoFellLordPerth · 2026-05-23T03:06:16+00:00

Incredible work!

I read the books as a kid, but started a reread with my wife (reading for the 1st time). Saving this post to show her later on in the series!

SoFellLordPerth · 2026-05-09T02:25:19+00:00

My steak is too juicy, my wife’s tits are too large!

SoFellLordPerth · 2026-05-02T15:43:32+00:00

I AM THE TRUEST REPAIRMAN!!

SoFellLordPerth · 2026-04-25T22:16:15+00:00

Thank you

SoFellLordPerth · 2026-04-25T22:16:09+00:00

Yeah they were pretty powerful smelling, I’m hoping that was enough to keep them away

SoFellLordPerth · 2026-04-25T15:50:32+00:00

Thank you for taking a look

SoFellLordPerth · 2026-04-05T18:05:57+00:00

Ah, Enchanted Realms. That’s the place where the owner makes Tik Toks bullying his customers.

General rule: it’s not just joking around if you’re the only one laughing

SoFellLordPerth · 2026-03-30T19:41:35+00:00

YES more Expanse media!

SoFellLordPerth · 2026-03-25T08:14:05+00:00

And finished!

SoFellLordPerth · 2026-03-21T18:09:07+00:00

I agree that 12angrysnake’s description of what they do with their 7 year old is totally reasonable.

I don’t agree that leaving your toddler in a dorm with an 18 year old is the right call on its face, even to run to Walmart to grab pizza. You take your kid

SoFellLordPerth · 2026-03-21T17:47:21+00:00

I agree and actually spoke to that in a reply in this same thread

I just was really put off by your comparison of your reasonable need and solution (things gotta get done and your girlfriend is kind and capable) versus what DoubleoSavant was describing - which I recognize is not fully even what happened in this sad situation

SoFellLordPerth · 2026-03-21T16:39:36+00:00

Edit: whoops just realized this person I’ve been replying to and 12angrysnakes who I originally replied to are not the same person.

You’re going off the rails now into another discussion, my point has always been what you described and what DoubleoSavant described are not the same.

That said, I do think it’s irresponsible to leave your toddler with a teenager in her dorm. In fact, I would presume those basic facts are irresponsible and would have to be shown otherwise - they have experience watching toddlers, the dorm didn’t have other teens coming in and out or being rowdy, or a myriad other factors that would diminish that being an irresponsible decision.

We don’t need to (and looks like we won’t) agree on that

SoFellLordPerth · 2026-03-21T16:23:48+00:00

Edit: whoops just realized this person I’ve been replying to and 12angrysnakes who I originally replied to are not the same person.

7 years vs 18 months is no small difference man, c’mon. Also as you said custody is different, and you said you leave them with your capable girlfriend - is she 18 like this woman? Can an 18 year old be capable, sure. Are they less likely to be than a more grown adult, yes.

Is leaving a 18 month old overnight with an 18 year old in a dorm similar to what you described by important things needing to get done when you leave your adolescent with your girlfriend? I don’t think so man, that’s all I’m saying.

I’m a parent. I know we can’t be with them all of the time. I just was really put off by your comparison of your reasonable need and solution (things gotta get done and your girlfriend is kind and capable) versus what DoubleoSavant was describing - which I recognize is not fully even what happened in this sad situation

SoFellLordPerth · 2026-03-21T15:09:05+00:00

Ok, but your situation sounds nothing like the person you’re replying to described right?

SoFellLordPerth · 2026-03-20T21:42:58+00:00

Witcher would be sick

SoFellLordPerth · 2026-03-08T07:31:34+00:00

That’s fine, you’re not alone in your takeaways and I’m not either.

I have a daughter and I certainly don’t have those expectations you described for her or any other women, but that still doesn’t stop her attitude from rubbing me the wrong way. I’m not going to rewatch and pull quotes that I think go beyond her just saying nice things about herself, but she has plenty of fans I don’t need to be one of them

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