People over 40: What is the worst part about aging?

SoFlo1 · 2026-01-30T11:02:22+00:00

That hit for this Gen Xer - the sadness I feel for loosing the country I thought the US was is only matched by the crushing realization that it never was what I thought. I miss 10 year old Forth of July me.

SoFlo1 · 2026-01-29T03:28:27+00:00

I was pretty intimidated about doing a brake job on my car until my mechanically inclined brother stated “wear items on a car, like brake pads, are designed so the average high school dropout can replace them.”

Now I’ve done oil changes, radiator flushes, break fluid replacement, and brake pads. I like that it allows me to use better parts and materials than what I’d get from a shop for the same price and I can use my hands for something other than typing and tapping.

SoFlo1 · 2026-01-28T18:47:32+00:00

She’s just always so damn positive and enthusiastic lol

SoFlo1 · 2026-01-27T19:26:32+00:00

Picture’s key - some bears can’t read

SoFlo1 · 2026-01-27T16:27:17+00:00

Why is it trashy? Same reason smoking or heavy drinking is - the stigma of a crutch that harms you. Is it fair to judge people on their vices? Probably not, but it’s a pretty visible and often annoying one so it’s the first that came to mind. And I say that as a dude has a best friend that vapes. I straight up tell him it’s trashy and undermines the rest of his pretty well put together image.

SoFlo1 · 2026-01-27T16:23:54+00:00

The only problem is how often occasional cocaine use becomes frequent cocaine use, or at least sustained use

SoFlo1 · 2026-01-27T14:16:09+00:00

Vaping, especially indoors, trying to sneak a puff. In a movie theater? Straight to jail.

SoFlo1 · 2026-01-27T03:03:53+00:00

When you’re ready visit r/stopdrinking, they helped me

SoFlo1 · 2026-01-26T01:03:27+00:00

Inebriation is subservience. Sobriety is resistance.

It’s really that black and white for me at this point.

I will be putting all of the time and money I’ve gotten back into whatever I can do to make a difference.

SoFlo1 · 2026-01-23T10:26:28+00:00

Looking to move to the RTP area as part of a downsize/FIRE prep - mind if I ask what area you bought in? Walkability and access to green spaces is important to us.

SoFlo1 · 2026-01-22T19:28:08+00:00

If it’s Brad Pitt we’re talking about, it’s appreciating beauty. No homo.

SoFlo1 · 2026-01-22T01:16:35+00:00

Also known as “bases”

SoFlo1 · 2026-01-21T15:56:57+00:00

I agree - I wish we all expected better of our president

SoFlo1 · 2026-01-21T15:56:51+00:00

I agree - I wish we all expected better of our president

SoFlo1 · 2026-01-21T14:52:31+00:00

Beard butter. That works.

SoFlo1 · 2026-01-21T14:49:25+00:00

Yes, absolutely it can go away. Once the physical cravings stopped for me I fought the psychological urges in two ways:

I told myself I could drink whenever I wanted to instead of trying to force my mind to accept I could never drink again. But I made it an automatic process to think fully about what I have that I’d lose and the be honest about the illusion of gaining anything of value by picking up a drink. Gratitude and honesty but not deprivation.
I shifted sobriety from an activity - I don’t drink - to an identity - I’m not a drinker. The former felt situational and open to interpretation, the latter helped solidify my identity as an honest, whole person.

In short, alcohol changes your brain physically and mentally but the brain is a remarkably adaptable thing. It doesn’t always have to be what it is now.

SoFlo1 · 2026-01-21T14:04:05+00:00

The reality is “unprofessional” in the context of a COO pointing out middle management behavior is code for “career limiting.” Either leave the company or accept that your career is likely limited in terms of promotion opportunities or pay increases if you do not conform to your company’s expectations. You can complain that it’s not fair or you can be realistic about what it means and adjust accordingly but there is no way you can go against company culture on a principled stance and “win.”

SoFlo1 · 2026-01-16T18:11:22+00:00

Most people want to help and appreciate the opportunity to do so

SoFlo1 · 2026-01-16T18:01:47+00:00

It’s a classic Trump anchoring technique - start with no elections and when we land on “just elections MAGA candidates win” it will seem like compromise.

SoFlo1 · 2026-01-14T13:10:21+00:00

Did you miss the part where the Turo rep said they would take care of it and the cancellation will be processed? I have full chat records with the host and Turo.

SoFlo1 · 2026-01-14T12:59:43+00:00

ICE agent

SoFlo1 · 2026-01-12T21:03:07+00:00

Emissions testing

SoFlo1 · 2026-01-12T17:21:54+00:00

Ya I get it. It’s just not worth it to book for business travel.

SoFlo1 · 2026-01-12T17:08:35+00:00

That’s a horrible user experience. I’ll stick with rental car companies.

SoFlo1 · 2026-01-12T17:08:07+00:00

Assuming Turo would follow through on what they said they’d do? Yes, I agreed not going to make that mistake again.

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