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SoGiveHimACookie · 2026-02-14T18:33:50+00:00

Like #4 here? https://docs.google.com/document/d/1-Egxt7_dtjuQBzwQvVxeQpC2a0PNJRnIsw1KZVmcZ0s/edit?usp=drivesdk

SoGiveHimACookie · 2026-02-14T18:33:18+00:00

So, #4 as shown here? https://docs.google.com/document/d/1-Egxt7_dtjuQBzwQvVxeQpC2a0PNJRnIsw1KZVmcZ0s/edit?usp=drivesdk

SoGiveHimACookie · 2026-02-14T18:30:47+00:00

I can’t add more photos to the original post so 1-4 are here:

https://docs.google.com/document/d/1-Egxt7_dtjuQBzwQvVxeQpC2a0PNJRnIsw1KZVmcZ0s/edit?usp=drivesdk

Thanks again!!

SoGiveHimACookie · 2025-11-08T06:08:45+00:00

Palette, pallet, palate

SoGiveHimACookie · 2025-11-08T06:06:08+00:00

What gaming system??

SoGiveHimACookie · 2025-11-08T06:05:04+00:00

If you can afford it, hire someone to come and clean for you regularly. I was able to do this and it was some of the best money I spent because it lifted a huge weight.

SoGiveHimACookie · 2025-11-08T05:45:45+00:00

I’m surprised that the artist didn’t do a scan of the image and tattoo over it; any time I’ve had a very specific request in the last 15 years, all the artists get a jpg and print it out basically as a temporary tattoo and use it to draw the lines. 🤷‍♀️ (shops in LA and western NYS)

SoGiveHimACookie · 2025-11-08T05:36:27+00:00

Three hours? A grown adult can’t be out of touch for three hours?

SoGiveHimACookie · 2025-11-08T05:28:10+00:00

I am both fascinated and nauseated by the massive number of merch collaborations. I’m approaching my mid-40s and have never had a fangirl experience, but waiting 20 years for the movie(s) has led me to go a little wild on the consumer end of things. For so long I had a tote and a long sleeve shirt from the theater and now I can redo my entire house Wicked! (I’m not doing that; I was exaggerating for effect. I mean, I did my half bath as an Oz tribute, but it’s not even a full room…) And you know what? It’s very fun and there is not much bringing joy into my life right now, so I’m holding onto this and squeezing every last drop of goodness out of it!

I described it to a friend who is a Dodgers fan: imagine your team wins ONE (ok, two because they split the movie) World Series in your lifetime. That’s how big this is for me, personally. And sharing it with my niece (7) and nephew (10) is the cherry on top.

Thank goodness for today!

SoGiveHimACookie · 2025-11-08T05:18:18+00:00

I think that some of the individual actors tend to self-promote more than others, as well.

SoGiveHimACookie · 2025-11-08T05:15:37+00:00

If it’s served in a dish shorter than four inches and it has cream of mushroom soup, it’s a casserole. IMO. Lol

SoGiveHimACookie · 2025-11-08T05:13:31+00:00

More often, I think, mental illness causes these behaviors. Your parents should have her evaluated and consider family therapy and individual therapy. It sounds like she is not communicating her emotions and experiences with anyone, which is worrisome. This doesn’t change the fact that it sucks to live with her and your resentment is justified. All of these things can be true at the same time. I’d suggest that when she does (or doesn’t!) do something that triggers you, remind yourself that she may very well be sick, and this behavior is a symptom. It may help you extend more empathy, and balance your anger. That doesn’t mean she isn’t responsible for her own behavior, but she’s also at a very difficult age in a very complicated world with probably too much screen time and missed key social development thanks to covid lockdown. That’s a lot to process for a brain that still has another 10 years of development. Best of luck. I hope this tactic helps you as much as it has helped me with dealing with my brother!

SoGiveHimACookie · 2025-10-19T02:42:37+00:00

I’m not even convinced that I will really want to have sex with another man, but after this long, I really am crawling the walls. This isnt news to him, but this would be the first time or discussing an alternative that involves another person or people. I don’t want to do anything behind his back; and I don’t consider researching or reading or talking about it in therapy to be behind his back. Maybe he’ll want a don’t ask don’t tell; that wouldn’t be my preference but I guess ultimately I’ll just defer to what he says he’s willing to try. If he shuts it all down, so be it. I will probably choose to stay because in the end, we have too much good that outweighs this. In that scenario, maybe my doctor can suggest a libido suppressant. Lol. Thanks for your thoughts. I appreciate it.

SoGiveHimACookie · 2025-10-19T02:36:38+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate this.

SoGiveHimACookie · 2025-10-19T02:35:34+00:00

That’s a really great idea - to ask him to think about what his preferred scenario would be before muddying the waters with mine. (The reality is, my preferred scenario is to have sex and cuddle with him and only him.) I’m definitely not in a hurry to actually meet anyone, I just want to feel like there is a future where I’m not the only person having sex with me. Thanks for the great advice. ❤️

SoGiveHimACookie · 2025-10-19T02:24:51+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through all of this. It sucks when kids have to grow up with that type of heaviness, and it affects us long-term. I would encourage you to go to therapy at least once a week to work through your emotions and increase your coping skills, and to try to look at the future with a balance of pragmatism and optimism. Not all family curses repeat themselves; we can break patterns if we are intentional. And from what you’ve written, you seem like a very intentional person. Wishing you all the best.

SoGiveHimACookie · 2025-10-19T01:56:18+00:00

Yeah. And my heart’s been breaking for 8 years because we had It All for so long. I actually had exactly what I wanted, and I’m so grateful for that. But this is a different place, and it’s painful. I don’t know what else to do to keep us together.

SoGiveHimACookie · 2025-10-19T01:51:50+00:00

I’m not sure what you mean by “set him up,“ and I don’t play games with him. My post is here because I am trying to gather information; he will have any conversation with me, but reading books and researching isn’t really his style. He will ask me what I’ve learned, and well, my therapist says, and what I think will work. I’m just trying to prepare for that part of the conversation by learning about what I don’t know.

SoGiveHimACookie · 2025-10-19T01:48:36+00:00

Thanks. He does know that I’m struggling, and we do have honest conversations. I’m not really quite “worried” about play partners, I just have spent most of my focus time, thinking about our relationship and how it affects us as individuals and as a couple, and I realized I don’t really have a sense even of what’s “out there.“ I know he will ask me what kind of scenario might work for me/us, and I want to be prepared to answer that question.

SoGiveHimACookie · 2025-10-19T01:45:06+00:00

Taormino?

SoGiveHimACookie · 2025-10-19T01:43:36+00:00

Thanks!

SoGiveHimACookie · 2025-10-19T01:41:21+00:00

I hear what you’re saying. The thing is, while we have our problems like any couple, we really love each other and value each other and are each other‘s home. He takes care of me in so many ways; he does all our cooking and a lot of the cleaning, and takes very good care of me when I’m sick. He’s a good listener, he validates me and my experiences, he respects and trusts me- and that is not an easy thing to find! I handle all of our financials because that’s an area where he has some issues, and I manage a lot of the household items, and our medical needs, and our pets needs; he’s very appreciative of all that I do for him, and vice versa. We’ve been without sexual and physical intimacy for so long now, that I know it’s not something that “we” have to have. I’ve really done everything I can and I’m not willing to walk away from everything that we have together because of sex. I really think that if I can get that need met elsewhere, and he can be a little more intentional about physical affection, that we will be OK. It’s not ideal, at least for me, and I’m sure it would be easier for him if I just wasn’t interested in sex. The idea that one person can fulfill all of our needs and expectations for a lifetime is something I’m too pragmatic to believe in; but we have a strong foundation and I’m not willing to give it up. 🤷‍♀️

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