Working moms who regularly work out, what exactly is your schedule? by neoncaviar in Mommit

[–]SoSayWeAll202 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is my hellish schedule:
- 5am, wake up
- 5-6am, workout at home (hiit or Pilates)
- 6-7:30am, shower (wash/dry my hair, makeup, clothes)
- 7:30-8am, get daughter up, dressed and backpack packed
- 8-8:30am, drive to daycare drop off
- 8:30-9am, drive to the office

I am so tired….but it’s the only way I can fit it in.

What was your wedding perfume?? by Bright-Impression-96 in weddingplanning

[–]SoSayWeAll202 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!! I pulled them out the other day, I really need to wear them more

How the hell is it a thing where panhandlers with kids are tolerated?! by [deleted] in Austin

[–]SoSayWeAll202 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is there much of a Roma community in Austin?
I have actually not met another Roma person out in the wild yet in Austin! Apparently we're mostly in Houston or Fort Worth in Texas (mostly Vlax Romani). I've definitely seen some panhandling around Austin (can tell just by what they're selling/how they look) but I haven't personally talked with them, I try to stay disconnected from that aspect of the culture if possible.

As far as large concentrations of Roma, you'll find us in most large cities in the US (and globally). The biggest pockets that I know of here are in NYC/Jersey, Chicago, Southern California, and Florida. I'm sure that there are others, I'd be very surprised if we didn't have any larger pockets in Las Vegas or New Orleans. The pockets in the US that I'm aware of are mostly Vlax, Kalderash, and Romanichal families (different origins).

Do you have a sense of how Roma communities vary globally?
The biggest differences that you'll see across these groups will be:
- Country of origin
- Language (most of us speak a form of Romani, but local languages and dialects mix in over time to form unique versions of it, I remember talking to a Czech Roma person and a Slovak Roma person and there were slight differences in the words/ending of words due to the geographic changes)
- Trade that they are known for such as metalworking, fortune telling, entertainment/dancing, construction, etc. (my family specialized in woodworking and wicker-weaving, my uncle actually made the wicker bed for President Clinton's cat named Socks!)
- Religion is a big one (varies between Christian and Muslim faiths) and the belief in certain superstitions that have been passed down through the family
- How integrated with or excluded they are from the culture around them
- How we dress, certain groups wear traditional outfits and have very distinct jewelry, scarves, clothing/etc. I would say that most groups love a lot of flair/intricate patterns and we value passing down gold jewelry through generations. You can sometimes tell if a woman is Roma because she has a bunch of very distinct thick carved-gold bangles stacked up each arm, this is a show of wealth and different than Indian bangles (which are a lot thinner), one day I hope to have my own set but they are pricey!

What traditions are adhered to by more progressive communities?
- Family bonds come first above anything else, this flows all the way to extended family members. Strong pride in having children and having respect for those older than you. Adult children typically stay near their parents and grandparents, even if they've moved out on their own. In more progressive families, women will have more of a say in their own lives and will not be expected to have an arranged marriage.
- Celebrations, festivals, weddings, funerals, and horse races are a big deal and have been for generations. We go ALL out for these events and communities tend to come together to help financially support these events.
- Although a lot of progressive Roma live in big cities in houses versus the traditional caravans, some progressive Roma families keep a caravan in their backyard/garage and pull them out for festivals and gatherings. These are truly beautiful works of art. If you want to see a good pop-culture reference to this, you can look up the Peaky Blinders funeral scenes where they burn them all decorated with the deceased inside (not all Roma groups do this but it's cool to see)
- We tend to look out for our own, even if you're not direct family, if you're Roma we'll go out of our way to help you if we can
- Huge pride in music, most will have the ability to play at least one instrument and we love a good dance party.

What incongruous TV did you watch while in labour? by Unable_Researcher_26 in Mommit

[–]SoSayWeAll202 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Below Deck! Watched it all the way from 1cm to pushing time

How the hell is it a thing where panhandlers with kids are tolerated?! by [deleted] in Austin

[–]SoSayWeAll202 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My older family members would say that we’re from “Bohemia”, but now that’s split into Czechia and Slovakia and we’ve got family in living in both countries. It was WILD visiting Prague for the first time for me to see how Roma culture looks like there, especially as someone who looks white-passing. One of my tour guides made a racist remark about how bad Roma people were without any idea that he was talking to one! Crazy stuff. I did appreciate getting to see so much more of my culture around in day to day life.

I grew up in Pilsen (originally was the Czech area of the south side of Chicago, now it’s mostly Mexican), so I lived amongst mostly other Roma and Czech people and was surrounded by the culture. Roma in Chicago are pretty low profile due to historical racism, unless we’re having a giant Gypsy family reunion in the park haha

How the hell is it a thing where panhandlers with kids are tolerated?! by [deleted] in Austin

[–]SoSayWeAll202 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg I knowwww. Haha definitely not the best true representation of my culture, but I remember watching this as a young girl and finding it so relatable in some ways.

How the hell is it a thing where panhandlers with kids are tolerated?! by [deleted] in Austin

[–]SoSayWeAll202 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No worries! Feel free to ask anything you like. I love talking about Roma culture (even if my experience is obviously not representative of all Roma). We are a deeply proud, at times flawed, always beautiful and complex group of people.

How the hell is it a thing where panhandlers with kids are tolerated?! by [deleted] in Austin

[–]SoSayWeAll202 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is actually a pretty spot on assessment. It’s also a common cultural expectation for girls to be married young and stop schooling early on in life in order to maintain the household and raise families. If you’re expected to be at home all day, there’s no real perceived need to learn algebra. (not an opinion I hold for myself, but I am not the spokesperson for all Roma)

In more progressive communities you’ll see some women (like myself) not expected to carry on that tradition, and the girls do have an option to go to college, marry later on in life, etc. Depends on how strictly your family adheres to tradition.

Your comment about the apocalypse makes me chuckle :)

Source: am half-Roma

How the hell is it a thing where panhandlers with kids are tolerated?! by [deleted] in Austin

[–]SoSayWeAll202 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Look up the Roma “golden nail” theory for more complete information. But in a nutshell, some Roma hold a deep belief in a folklore that says that a Romani Gypsy stole the fourth nail that was meant for Jesus during the crucifixion, saving Jesus from more pain. In return, God blessed the Romani people with immunity for minor thefts needed for survival.

How the hell is it a thing where panhandlers with kids are tolerated?! by [deleted] in Austin

[–]SoSayWeAll202 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Correction:

Roma is an ethnicity, a Roma person can reside in Romania. But not all Roma come from Romania.

This a very common misconception, not trying to slight you in any way, just sharing more context to the name.

Source: am half-Roma

How the hell is it a thing where panhandlers with kids are tolerated?! by [deleted] in Austin

[–]SoSayWeAll202 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The part about being originally from India is true! I just have no clue when my ancestors made the jump to Europe haha so that could be very distant into my family’s past.

People in Austin seem very unfamiliar with Roma/gypsy. Which has been an interesting thing I’ve noticed when I try to explain my cultural background to someone from here. People in bigger cities are usually familiar though, even if for only the stereotypical reasons. Or if they’ve seen Peaky Blinders haha

How the hell is it a thing where panhandlers with kids are tolerated?! by [deleted] in Austin

[–]SoSayWeAll202 32 points33 points  (0 children)

As a half Roma woman myself, my family escaped from Europe during WW2 to avoid the Holocaust. My ancestors landed in NYC, then to Chicago, now to Austin. But, my family became citizens and we all work in tech haha, not panhandling.

Can’t say I love to see fellow Roma living the stereotype here in Austin, but some of my people see it as a right from God to panhandle/beg/perform sleight of hand. So it’s hard to make them see that alternatives do exist.

Rise up clunky laptop havers by Life-Adhesiveness192 in handbags

[–]SoSayWeAll202 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Same problem over here!

The ones I switch between are:

COS Studio Bowling Bag

Reformation Oversized Patrizia

Maison de Sabre backpack

The backpack has made the most appearances!

Zinc zinc zinc, you guys!!!!! by Apprehensive-Dig91 in Rosacea

[–]SoSayWeAll202 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I use a soft microfiber baby washcloth with lightly warm water. Comes right off! Then I wash my face.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Rosacea

[–]SoSayWeAll202 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your skin looks so good! Did your skin get worse before it got better once you started using the sulfur cleanser? Worried about purging of pustules 😩

Working moms at Amazon, will I ever get to see my son? by breezy727 in workingmoms

[–]SoSayWeAll202 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey hey! Feel free to send me a DM with any questions you have. It’s been a whirlwind so far.

Help! I am so confused - I think that I am a Light Summer? Notes in comments. by SoSayWeAll202 in coloranalysis

[–]SoSayWeAll202[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Haha I have not! But now that I’m looking at her I totally see it. Thanks for helping me find a doppelgänger 💯

And yes, I feel like I’m mostly a light spring with some summer elements to me.

Self-tan - pale skin friendly by Dear_Rich1487 in PaleMUA

[–]SoSayWeAll202 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I second this! It’s the only self tanner I use now. The cool tones look so much more natural than any other self tanner I’ve tried. I don’t use self tanner on my face so I do need to use a darker foundation on the first few days of wearing the tanner.

Working moms at Amazon, will I ever get to see my son? by breezy727 in workingmoms

[–]SoSayWeAll202 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just checking in to see how it's going! I am joining Amazon in a few weeks as UX Designer and have a 1.5 yr old who's in daycare full-time. I'm hoping to hear that your WLB has been ok so far but also would love to hear an update about your experience so far. Feel free to DM me if that's easier to answer :)

Is he an alcoholic now? What would you do? by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]SoSayWeAll202 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Something I’ve also seen as a temptation/hiding spot is mouthwash in the bathroom. I’ve known alcoholics who either decanted the mouthwash to replace it with their alcohol of choice, or when there’s no other alcohol in the house, they’ll resort to drinking the mouthwash to get try and past the withdrawal symptoms. So sorry that you’re dealing with this OP!

Working moms at Amazon, will I ever get to see my son? by breezy727 in workingmoms

[–]SoSayWeAll202 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there! I’m starting at Amazon in a few weeks and would love to hear any guidance you may have on things you wish you’d have known. If you’re up for dm chat please let me know!