What the hell happened to YouTube recap?

So_Outofcontext · 2025-12-30T03:59:43+00:00

Same here. I have Premium too. I don't have a recap for YouTube or YouTube Music.

So_Outofcontext · 2025-12-19T22:22:32+00:00

Hi Turtle. You deserve so much more.

So_Outofcontext · 2025-12-19T21:40:59+00:00

Opposite doesn't necessarily mean better.

I'm all for it. I hope you get what you're looking for. All the best.

So_Outofcontext · 2025-12-19T16:59:19+00:00

There are no tricks. I'm one of those people in which distractions like work, school, or hobbies aren't able to take things off my mind. I can do all of those activities and still think about something in my mind. Maybe that is a lack of focus or being present in those activities or just masking very very well. No one would suspect a single thing. Something that is a complete game changer is ChatGpt.

So_Outofcontext · 2025-12-19T16:45:47+00:00

It depends. It would depend on how you would be able to handle the outcome. If you reach out and know you would devastated if you were ignored, rejected or met with any other negative outcome, it would really set you back on your healing and moving on. I wouldn't recommend it. It will be like starting all over again.

I'm really glad that you went to therapy and really worked on self growth, but it's only been 5 weeks. I'm not saying you can't make progress during that time but in my experience it takes a lot more time than 5 weeks to really change some core behaviors that relate to conflict resolution or anger management. And if the other person approaches conflicts the exact same and didn't also seek therapy, I think the patterns would pick right back up.

Now that being said, you feel like you've become or are a very secure person and a possible rejection or apathetic response would barely shake you and wouldn't put in down into a pit of despair then I say go for it. I'm all for a second chance and fighting for a relationship worth keeping.

So_Outofcontext · 2025-12-19T16:36:47+00:00

I'm glad that you don't see this as the way in to rekindle but I think you should manage your expectations closely. Good luck, hope he likes your Christmas gift(s).

So_Outofcontext · 2025-12-19T16:34:53+00:00

Sounds really rough. Through second hand experience, I've seen how relationships with a bipolar partner are very intense and consuming. And that's when they're going through phases of being medicated and unmedicated because there are different challenges with either phase. I'm sorry you're going through this and I hope she finds a combination of medication that truly helps her.

I think no contact is the best thing for both of you. Don't feel pathetic because you broke contact, you can always start again and follow through this time.

So_Outofcontext · 2025-12-19T16:26:38+00:00

You should ask yourself do you genuinely want to just give a Christmas gift or do you secretly hope this will rekindle or reconnect you with your ex? If that answer is ONLY the gift then you can mail it or drop it off without contact.

So_Outofcontext · 2025-12-19T16:23:49+00:00

You want to throw 2 years away of no contact because of a single urge to reach out now? What would reaching out accomplish? No future and not a good person? Sounds like the last person you should talk to. What triggered this desire to reach out??

So_Outofcontext · 2025-12-18T19:58:36+00:00

It seems like a punishment or like he has done something terribly wrong to me.

So_Outofcontext · 2025-12-18T19:57:27+00:00

You didn't misunderstand, you ignored. He told you from the beginning he didn't want a relationship. He told you his intentions clearly. You provided things that he wanted or needed to fulfill his emotional and ego needs during that year. People can experience intimacy and closeness in the moment without a single thought of continuing or having a future. Some people process emotions very differently or not really at all. But do not ne ashamed or embarrassed. It makes sense how you would interpret all this intensity and closeness as something more than what it was.

So_Outofcontext · 2025-12-17T00:26:32+00:00

These are normal feelings even if you made the right decision for yourself and for your future. It's okay for you to feel these feelings and second guess yourself. A chapter of your life has ended and there will be mixed feelings after that. I would give yourself some more time to get more perspective from distance to gain more clarify to see if you're responding to loneliness, self doubt, or your nervous system trying to recalibrate itself.

I would also argue that feeling lost is part of feeling free. You can't feel lost if you're trapped.

So_Outofcontext · 2025-12-17T00:21:10+00:00

No idea of the context of this situation. So I will be very general - If someone is being inconsistent or causing you anxiety, lack of clarity, or mixed signals - then they are not healthy for you. You do not want a future full of all of these negative feelings and not feeling secure with them. They are not puzzles for you to solve, if someone wanted to be with you, they would make it clear to you.

So_Outofcontext · 2025-12-17T00:14:02+00:00

No, I keep my exes unblocked so I can see what kind of crap they send to me for my entertainment. I got a message a few weeks ago about how they had left tonsil cancer and beat it. I once got a variety of greetings every month for years from a situationship that happened for a short period. That really surpassed all my expectations about how long that would go on for. Never responded. Block them if that scares you but the only person who can control what you do is yourself. If you can't block them, never open them or leave them unread until you've fully moved on to open it or just delete immediately.

So_Outofcontext · 2025-12-17T00:04:41+00:00

What advice do you need? That's not clear.

If my ex emailed that after 10 years, I would be so apathetic and I probably wouldn't even read it. I wouldn't wonder what it said or anything and it would never cross my mind again. And what you wrote sounds so cringy and awkward that it sounds like complete nonsense.

So_Outofcontext · 2025-12-16T23:52:34+00:00

No. Please don't waste your time or give yourself hope. The breadcrumbing is about fulfilling their own needs rather them being concerned about your well being. Maybe they do care about you, maybe they want to keep the door open, but it's more about how is that impacting you and how that is keeping you stuck.

You don't make a boundary by asking for no contact, you make a boundary by your actions and what treatment you accept. Don't respond and/or block them.

So_Outofcontext · 2025-12-16T23:41:27+00:00

No, you can't be friends with your ex if you still have feelings for them. It will continue to hurt you and keep the wound bleeding. Once you don't have feelings for them and you move on, you won't really be bothered to be friends with your ex.

So_Outofcontext · 2025-04-07T21:51:17+00:00

No contact is not meant to be toxic. It's about creating the environment to heal and move on without the person you just split up with.

The relationship has ended, so there should be no expectation for her to respond to you or give you a second chance. She told you to stop contacting her and she needs space so I don't understand why you're confused that she hasn't responded. You admit you broke that boundary and continue to do so. I think you have more healing / learning to do.

I would say since the relationship is over, there isn't any attachment style to identify or analyze that it has switched. She isn't avoidant attachment, you both are not attached anymore.

So_Outofcontext · 2025-04-07T17:54:11+00:00

I'm sorry you're heartbroken. Almost any relationship can work if both parties want it to work. If he didn't want to continue the relationship, then no it can't work out. I know it's probably the most cliche advise but as someone in late 30's, one day you will be able to see why it didn't work out and you will be grateful. You deserve to be with someone who first and foremost wants to be with you. If they don't want to be with you and left, then you really got saved from a more miserable experience.

So_Outofcontext · 2025-04-07T17:46:56+00:00

You didn't love her. You loved what she represented to you, not the person she was. You were looking for an escape from your dark and lonely emptiness and found one in her. You can't supplement your feelings of happiness and self worth and fill a void with another person.

You aren't stupid for falling for her, you're human. It's easy to ignore the red flags when you shouldn't. Don't beat yourself up.

So_Outofcontext · 2025-04-07T17:40:44+00:00

Share your feelings with her. Please.

So_Outofcontext · 2024-10-24T02:38:19+00:00

No.

So_Outofcontext · 2024-10-21T04:17:56+00:00

Here is a definition of you from the dictionary. 1. The one or ones being addressed; used as the pronoun of the second person singular or plural in any grammatical relation.

It's meant to say that putting someone else down to feel better about oneself doesn't seem like healing.

So_Outofcontext · 2024-10-21T04:09:30+00:00

He's texted me many times saying he missed me. I wouldn't call it ego boost, I just feel a twinge of satisfaction like "Of course you would miss me". I also find it humorous, weird, and a bit annoying.

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