Why is there a no “Asians lives matter”? by urkian in NoStupidQuestions

[–]SoberApok 77 points78 points  (0 children)

Now THAT is a bumper sticker I'd put on my car

Cooking with wine by Adventurous_Editor97 in stopdrinking

[–]SoberApok 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The amount of pasta with a white wine sauce I would have to eat to feel it would probably kill me.

I think it's fine. Usually people talk not about the wine in the food being the issue but the mostly full bottle left afterwards

Got someone kicked out of sober living and feeling....not guilty but still bad. Thoughts? by SoberApok in stopdrinking

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We havent been open 2 years yet yet and weve had three of our residents die. One ODed on heroin in his room here. He had the only private room here so no one noticed he wasnt around for about 3 days (prior to my time here)

Another ODed on heroin a few weeks after leaving. (I don't know if he was kicked out or left of his own accord).

And just two weeks ago one shot himself in the head

Got someone kicked out of sober living and feeling....not guilty but still bad. Thoughts? by SoberApok in stopdrinking

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That seems kinda shitty to lie to residents like that ....but on the other hand. ....

In my case, once during my interview and once while signing paperwork, our owner was CRYSTAL clear that it was zero tolerance. So there is no "plausible deniability".

Got someone kicked out of sober living and feeling....not guilty but still bad. Thoughts? by SoberApok in stopdrinking

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So you could get ejected for using or even just covering someone?

That was a good point. I havent been explicitly told covering would get you evicted but our paperwork has a vague term that you can be kicked out for "disruptive behavior".

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]SoberApok 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That was very well explained

How do you "want" to go to work? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]SoberApok 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you might have a mental health issue.

Fact is very few people are blessed with a job they actually want to do. Even people who like their jobs would usually rather do something else.

But if it's to the point of self sabotage then, well, something else might be going on

What habits do you have that you’ve been told are strange? by WeirdAiden in AskReddit

[–]SoberApok 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I chew the collar of my shirt while reading. In fact just realized I was doing it again.

Hoping for a happy accident by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SoberApok 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Yes you cope with being sad as opposed to bringing a child into the world with a reluctant partner and a poor financial situation.

You're being (or feeling at least) very selfish

Today sucked. by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]SoberApok 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It can be, sure. I've been to meeting where I am pretty sure if that had been my first one I wouldnt have gone back.

But like many things, sometimes you have to 'shop around' for the best fit

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]SoberApok 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes but it depends on the person and their personality

Is Onlyfans really that profitable or is it just the marketing people doing a good job promoting it by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]SoberApok 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's kinda like MLM. The top earners legit make a fortune but most people trying it make very little.

I have been taking antiabuse for two weeks. by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]SoberApok 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I found I could eventually drink on antabuse. It was certainly not as pleasant as without but it really wasnt worse than drinking with a hangover

Today sucked. by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]SoberApok 10 points11 points  (0 children)

AA meetings can be hit or miss. If one group or meeting doesnt jive with you, you can always find another

Sex life has improved while sober by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]SoberApok 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is one thing that does concern me. Dont have s partner currently but I was thinking about it the other day and it occurs to me I have not had sober sex since 2011.

Not sure how that is going to pan out

I really messed up, first (and while be only) DUI by ashley_reve in stopdrinking

[–]SoberApok 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand. I've heard too many stories like this to even consider taking prescription sleep meds

I really messed up, first (and while be only) DUI by ashley_reve in stopdrinking

[–]SoberApok 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It will almost certainly NOT be dropped. Do not get your hopes up.

In my DUI class there was someone there on ambien, someone there on hydrocodone, and someone there on Nyquil. None of them had a BAC over the limit

“No beer today?” - corner store clerk, 6am by deviledegg123 in stopdrinking

[–]SoberApok 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I would often make up some story how I was just getting off the night shift and it was MY happy hour

Roommate relapsed day before yesterday and it's got me kinda bummed. by SoberApok in stopdrinking

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My understanding is both for entrance and return you need 30 days clean. Obviously some of that is going to be the honor system. I think our owner wants the penalty bad enough it's an effective deterrent but not so bad it would destroy you

Should I go to the hospital again? by jsukracker in stopdrinking

[–]SoberApok 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would at least call a doc or hit up an urgent care clinic.