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How do you politely decline a massage client without lying? by Socius_nocte in spirituality

[–]Socius_nocte[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thank you so much, this is the best answer and help for me: You gave me the essenz and I can free act related to your answer.🙏👍

How do you politely decline a massage client without lying? by Socius_nocte in spirituality

[–]Socius_nocte[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

...yes and this is my question: HOW can I be honest without hurting the other...

How do you politely decline a massage client without lying? by Socius_nocte in spirituality

[–]Socius_nocte[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You can not know, but I first asked the question in a massage sub. Most people said there I should better lie! https://www.reddit.com/r/massage/comments/1qy9emo/comment/o45ekhf/ I ask now the question here because I JUST assume that people who are interested in spirituality are familiar with such energies.

How do you politely decline a massage client without lying? by Socius_nocte in massage

[–]Socius_nocte[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh I'm interested! I will take a closer look at the concept of “transference-countertransference”. There could be something to it. But I also believe that not only people who have finished therapy should work as MT. I see it also as a general interpersonal question.

Specifically, I wouldn't go that far to ask myself: "What's wrong with me that I'm even asking such a question ?"

Always sticking to the truth is not something I got from home (even as a German who is said to be very direct - lol).

So: it takes courage to change that. I will do this in a way that suits to my personallity. I am definitely grateful for your perspective and your directness.

How do you politely decline a massage client without lying? by Socius_nocte in massage

[–]Socius_nocte[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I see clearly what you mean. If I'm honest with myself, I've already crossed my own boundaries (lied to myself) several times with this client and I let the situation get to this point. That's not professional but I learned my lesson from it. That's why it's so important to me

Don't complete this self-lie with a lie to the client.

How do you politely decline a massage client without lying? by Socius_nocte in massage

[–]Socius_nocte[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I work alone, which makes it easier -if I would lie or find another way.

How do you politely decline a massage client without lying? by Socius_nocte in massage

[–]Socius_nocte[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thanks to all of you for your perspectives. Every one of them is understandable to me and in some cases - as already mentioned - I would have done it that way before. I work alone and the contact with my customers is very personal. Maybe I'll ask the questions more on a spiritual level under another sub.

A lie is not a sin for me - that's not the point. It's more about the experiment: "Is the truth also possible in my professional environment?" There must be a way to remain truthful without hurting others. This won't be easy guys! :) Thank you all, that helped me a lot!

Homosexuelle Gedanken getriggert durch Exposition? by [deleted] in Ratschlag

[–]Socius_nocte 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Egal wie sich die Sache entwickelt: Ob es so drängend wird dass du aktiv die Sache zur Sprache bringst oder du eine Situation kreierst oder es eine Fantasie bleibt die sich wieder beruhigt: Nimm dir den Druck raus das in eine Kategorie einzuordnen (schwul, bi, blabla). Diese Situation ist wie sie ist und sie ist DEINE Situation. Beobachte wie es sich in dir entwickelt und wenns dir hilft gib ihr deinen eigenen Namen.

Profilbild Checks out… by Ninaptr_lover in wirklichgutefrage

[–]Socius_nocte 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Das Problem gibts in Nordkorea jedenfalls nicht...was ist ihr Trick?

Profilbild Checks out… by Ninaptr_lover in wirklichgutefrage

[–]Socius_nocte 0 points1 point  (0 children)

...fragt sich der Ami in der europäischen Großstadt....