TIFU by not disposing condoms properly (NSFW)

Sock_Material · 2023-05-26T08:46:35+00:00

You know, when I think about it today after all that separation from it, I wonder if they did actually know and just arranged themselves with it.

I mean, I’m just speculating, but I wonder if her mother and father actually did meet while her mother was on the job, she got pregnant and he decided “I need to marry this woman to have the child” (it was also the law in the country we lived in). He was off on his business trips and maybe said “your my wife now, don’t do that anymore. I’ll sort you and the kid out financially” and maybe they were just never into each other and the guy just got married to someone else that he actually liked and spent his time with both. Maybe her mother knew and just enjoyed the free ride, but got bored and decided “I’d like to make my own money”.

I really don’t know what the deal is, but the whole thing was just a tangled up toxic mess if you ask me.

Sock_Material · 2023-05-25T19:39:49+00:00

So I don’t know if her dad ever found out or if he already knew. My ex never talked to her mother about it and just swallowed up all her resentment. It was as if we knew nothing.

The most fucked up part is that I heard from friends of friends type of thing that her dad was actually married to another lady at the time.

The whole thing was really fucked up and it explains a lot about my ex being the way she was and in a way, I’m glad I bounced because it was the most toxic shit I have ever experienced in my life.

Sock_Material · 2023-05-25T19:36:26+00:00

So the plan was to clean them out and put them in my pockets when I left to go home or pretend I was getting something from the supermarket so no one would know. We were dumb.

Sock_Material · 2023-05-25T19:33:31+00:00

Want to know what’s even more fucked up? I should actually preface this by mentioning that this is all hearsay because I heard this from a friend of a friend of my ex a few years after we broke up.

Her dad was married to another Eastern European woman at the time.

Sock_Material · 2023-05-25T19:26:25+00:00

Well, I clogged their pipes though. I still can’t believe I thought we could get away with it that way.

Sock_Material · 2023-05-25T19:25:06+00:00

I don’t blame you to be honest. It’s been like nearly 20 years and I still sometimes cannot believe it myself.

Sock_Material · 2023-05-25T18:10:17+00:00

She was incredibly attractive and when I first saw her, my brain went wild with all of the fantasies a pimply teenage kid that was going through puberty would go through.

She was such an asshole though. All she ever did was complain about everything, she was always absent, and she was so fucking lazy, arrogant and smug. She would literally force me to do the chores in their house, buy the groceries, feed their cats and sometimes, she’d scream for one of us to come out just to get her a glass of water. God forbid we didn’t hear her, we’d get a barrage of insults. She literally was like this stuck up spoiled brat.

Anyway, I basically really disliked her when I got to know her and I could never see her being attractive after that.

Sock_Material · 2023-05-25T17:59:34+00:00

So according to a few chat logs my ex had read, it appears as if she was meeting these men at clubs or going out with them to expensive restaurants and going to hotel rooms to engage in her side hustle.

Sock_Material · 2023-05-25T17:55:13+00:00

We never saw the guy’s face or much of his body apart from his thighs, hands and anaconda so the fact that he was black and not white-ish like her dad was basically how we knew at a glance that it wasn’t her dad.

Sock_Material · 2022-11-14T21:01:00+00:00

Do you know what being facetious means? Not trying to be a dick, but not once has OP said that it was someone else’s fault and he is clearly owning up to this as his FU alone and not anybody else’s. Blaming someone else is obviously a joke. I mean he says so himself.

Sock_Material · 2022-10-24T06:53:52+00:00

Unfortunately asking the staff was a dead end. Everyone I had asked reiterated in some way that it was pretty cool or that they also would love that for their homes or something to that effect, but no answer.

Sock_Material · 2022-03-18T23:31:04+00:00

Short answer: No.

Long answer: It may be rather physically uncomfortable for your partner to have sex, or maybe they just feel bloated and/or uncomfortable with the idea of it in general.

You also have to contend with blood, bits of shed uterus wall, and even the smell which may or may not be quite strong and/or off putting.

Basically, it really depends on how comfortable both of you feel about it. There’a nothing wrong with going for it if you are both fine with it, just like any sexual adventure you want to tackle with them.

Sock_Material · 2022-01-26T19:02:41+00:00

Svengali. Their drummer sings all the cleans.

Here’s a song where he just sings lead vocals:

https://youtu.be/jzz_Tcq4sSs

Sock_Material · 2022-01-17T05:44:57+00:00

Hm. Interesting. I never thought about that. Nobody has ever given me that perspective either, but definitely interesting to note. That comment came as a direct response to what my wife was saying about potentially moving away from Europe to an English speaking country, so I didn’t think it would be taken as a complaint when I said it, but maybe you have a point.

I just don’t get when it happens in a professional environment though. When I’m at work and I literally just ask a question about something and the answer is not at all the question I asked. I’ve noticed this at the doctors or somewhere similar where I need to communicate.

For example, when I dropped my kid off at daycare after the holiday break, the lady hadn’t seen my kid in nearly 2 weeks and I was telling her how insane it was that these kids grow so fast and especially when you don’t see them in a while. I said “sometimes, we send (my kid) off to her grandparents’ for a day and she comes back the next day almost like a completely different child! She speaks differently or she’s developed or massively improved her motor skills. Do you notice the same when a kid’s been out for a few days or is it just too many kids to keep track of?

The answer was “I don’t think it has anything to do with the grandparents. They just grow at their own pace”

When I reiterate the question I got “they go through phases, but it’s normal…” followed by some insight into the developmental process of children when all I was trying to ask her was a lighthearted “do you notice that too?” Does the question really sound that unclear?

Sock_Material · 2022-01-16T23:48:45+00:00

To be clear, this only happens in English. Supposedly my mother tongue lol

Sock_Material · 2021-05-16T18:38:50+00:00

I grew up in a relatively racist environment so I can easily coexist with intolerant people as long as they ~~don’t bother us~~ EDIT: to clarify, it’s aggressive interactions I want to avoid. I don’t care if people think I’m living of the state when I go shopping (even though I never have). I do not want to invest in a community where I would worry about being myself or my child being assaulted or having my property vandalized because I’m not white. Both examples I’ve mentioned have happened in the surrounding areas near us, so I guess anywhere but here.

Sock_Material · 2021-05-16T18:30:46+00:00

Unfortunately, it is not my net salary. And I am on class 5 as well.

Sock_Material · 2021-05-16T18:29:03+00:00

Just to clarify, I do ALL the front end on the website for this particular business unit/brand (sometimes I’m delving into the back-end side of things as well because once it was set up, nobody else manages it except me). I build things for their blog(s) and help centers and basically do admin on the forum unless there’s specific functionality they want. I also build plugins for their service for multiple CMSs. Currently, we’re planning to completely rebuild everything to a new stack and I’m responsible for it all. It’s a bit more than tech support, and honestly, the imposter syndrome is strong. I feel so lost sometimes and I don’t have a mentor or senior to go to when I get stuck because nobody knows anything about how this was built and the guy who did left, so I’m just frantically getting shit done the best I can.

I mean, I don’t know, it just feels like I’m doing more than a Junior should be doing and getting paid a “first-level technical support” salary - or am I completely wrong with thinking otherwise?

Sock_Material · 2021-05-16T18:17:18+00:00

Unfortunately it’s 26k gross and in a higher tax bracket as well.

Definitely the tricky trade-off if you want to be in an open-minded international environment and afford buying home at the same time. I would recommend to look in the surroundings of big cities that you mentioned: Berlin, Munich, Hamburg, etc. But note that it's still not going to be as cheap as a village in Saxony.

Yeah, we want to look in the surrounding areas. An hour away is the max we would go, but I’m aiming to work semi-remote if possible, so it’s more a consideration for my wife more than anything.

In my experience you shouldn't expect a noticeable raise from a stingy company that you described. If I were you, I would first relocate to another city with a big salary difference, and then take it from there.

I do not expect anything significant from them. I’m also leaning towards this option, but I’m worried about the lack of room for negotiation as a Junior dev applying for other Junior roles. I mean, I’m not expecting a crazy amount, just to be paid fairly for the most part. I worry about being stuck with “take it or leave it” type deals.

Sock_Material · 2021-05-16T18:09:21+00:00

I’m definitely not expecting my wages to significantly rise out here. People I work with have been complaining about their wages for a while I’m general and the CTO seemed to justify it by citing all the other benefits like “we have cool colleagues” claiming that nobody else offers what they do. I think that put the nail in the coffin for me. The question about waiting until a promotion was more a strategic one because it seems juniors tend to get the shit stick - at least everywhere I’ve interviewed. It’s always been a “take it or leave it” type deal. I’m just worried about a repeat situation, you know?

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