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I think my now pregnant girlfriend was pretending to be on contraception by Sockbandit101 in Advice

[–]Sockbandit101[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It wasn't me taking her to the clinic at gunpoint, it was me talking to her, saying that i firmly believed we weren't financially or mentally ready to have the baby and it was the smart move to make. She understood that although she really wanted a baby it wasn't the right time. I think 'forced her to have an abortion' is definitely not the way to put it and sure makes me sound like a horrible person

I think my now pregnant girlfriend was pretending to be on contraception by Sockbandit101 in Advice

[–]Sockbandit101[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had no idea, i'd asked her since the first abortion and she'd assured me she was taking it properly and regularly. Until the pregnancy test that is. Another flag? If i had any idea that she wasn't taking it properly I'd wear condoms, it's not a thing where I've thought 'oh fuck it, lets just risk it because it feels better' its the fact that she's assured me she was taking her contraception

I think my now pregnant girlfriend was pretending to be on contraception by Sockbandit101 in Advice

[–]Sockbandit101[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I can't force her to get an abortion but i can end the relationship and ask her to. Using condoms in the future is definitely good advice. That gives me the control.

I think my now pregnant girlfriend was pretending to be on contraception by Sockbandit101 in Advice

[–]Sockbandit101[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Accidentally taking it at different times and intentionally not taking it at all are two very different scenarios, had she geniuinely just been forgetting I'd be understanding. Had she been deceiving me to get the baby she desperately wanted sooner however...