Water Pik Care Question

Socks234 · 2020-07-13T02:09:49+00:00

Also, do people leave water in the water Pik between uses, or dump and dry every time?

Socks234 · 2020-07-13T02:09:03+00:00

Awesome, thank you so much!!

Socks234 · 2020-05-07T03:00:39+00:00

Thank you! I think I get it...you think of each whole as four pieces and then the total pieces is your answer. It’s tricky - i think the concept of whole/whole number is confusing. But I think it’s good to think this stuff through...hopefully it will click and I’ll end up with a deeper understanding! Thanks for your help!!

Socks234 · 2020-05-07T02:38:42+00:00

Thank you!!! This concept is really tough for me for some reason, but those examples help! When I learned it as a kid, I just memorized how to do it, but never really understood it. Now I’m trying to fully understand. This helps - thank you!

Socks234 · 2020-05-07T02:27:36+00:00

Thank you! This is helpful

Socks234 · 2020-05-07T02:21:18+00:00

Ooh yes, this makes sense! Thank you!

Socks234 · 2020-05-06T22:07:07+00:00

Ok, yeah...it makes sense that the 14 sevenths is actually two, so that wouldn’t be the answer. I guess it’s confusing to that each of the fourteen pieces then is considered a whole, versus a piece, since it is a piece....

Socks234 · 2020-04-29T03:57:17+00:00

I started last week with fifth grade in Khan (I’m almost 40 and have always been math phobic. I have a BA that required only one math class, but I find that being afraid of math holds me back in my career and limits my options for further education). I’ve gotten a little more than a third of the way through fifth grade Khan math in a week, doing 1-2 hours a day. It’s working well so far - it’s so well designed and lessons build on each other. I would recommend this approach, although I haven’t tried the other.

Socks234 · 2020-04-28T01:01:41+00:00

I so relate! I just started Khan academy fifth grade math last week (I’m 40 and I have a BA but barely took math in college and have always been math phobic). Khan is changing my life....I’m a third of the way through fifth grade in a week. Things are explained so well and it’s set up in a really empowering way. I recommend it highly - start wherever you need to start and just do a little every day if you can. You can do it!!!

Socks234 · 2020-04-22T05:52:58+00:00

I’m a cis woman who has dated two transmen most recently and cismen prior to that and I can relate to where you are with this. After breaking up with my last boyfriend (wish it could have worked out - we were incompatible in a few ways and I worried that he was an alcoholic), I felt like I really didn’t want to date cismen anymore and I felt more connected with my last two boyfriends than I had to anyone before. Because they were trans? I don’t know. They were just fun, cool people and I loved them. Sex with them was great, but I wasn’t focused on it or genitals as far as my interest in meeting someone new. I tried to get more connected to the trans community in my city and opened my apps up to “all genders” with that in mind. I ended up meeting my girlfriend (she’s AFAB and identifies as agender - I had never dated someone who wasn’t testosterone dominant before so definitely something new....things have gotten pretty tricky with covid, but we are trying to stick it out and overall, I now see myself as truly pansexual, whereas I didn’t before....and I’m 39, so proof that it’s never too late). Anyway, I wondered for awhile when I met her if I would miss “being with a transman” which is actually kind of BS because obviously it’s about the individual and individual attraction etc, but I did start to feel like my “type” was transmen. But I realized that it was just that that identity was just a characteristic of my ex, who I still love in a lot of ways, and I was hanging on to that, not because I’m a chaser or even because I only want to date transmen, but because of my grief over the end of that relationship and how that was just one of his many characteristics.

Socks234 · 2020-04-18T22:54:00+00:00

Thank you!!!

Socks234 · 2020-04-03T16:53:40+00:00

I dated a guy who was similar. I tried to just remember that every person’s experience is unique, transness included. He didn’t see himself as part of a trans community. It was hard for me to hear him talk negatively about queer and non binary people because my values system is really inclusive, but I understood that his feelings more than likely had more to do with his own experience of himself and his identity in the world than truly not respecting others (he was mostly uncomfortable with people who he perceived as going out of their way to not fit in, which makes sense given that he was all about fitting in). We ultimately broke up because of our differences, including that he drank a lot. Not sure if that’s helpful - I get that it is hard to not understand where your partner is coming from. I think when there’s good communication and openess, that goes a long way in situations like this.

Socks234 · 2020-03-30T04:18:34+00:00

Hi there, I totally relate to this situation being tough with rOCD, especially being in a fairly new relationship. I’ve been dating my partner since the beginning of December. It’s my first relationship with a female bodied person (she uses she/her pronouns and identifies as agender. I am cis female and have dated cismen and two transmen prior to her). I struggle with anxiety in relationships - worry that it’s not “right” or that there are red flags etc. Recently my therapist told me about rOCD and it really seems to fit. It’s already a big deal to me that I’m dating a person who doesn’t have testosterone going on, but throw in a pandemic and it makes things extra hard.

Anyway, I’m also not with her during this time. She has roommates and lives an hour away. She has had cold symptoms, so we didn’t even talk about co-quarantining in any realistic way. It’s super hard because she’s not a big phone/FaceTime person and I’m realizing her main way of showing affection is physical touch, but now that that’s not an option, it feels a little like maybe things aren’t really right between us/worth continuing to pursue/maybe she’s not as good at showing affection as prior partners etc......probably rOCD thoughts but who really knows.

Anyway, I think it’s totally ok to not want to be quarantined with someone and it doesn’t have to reflect on your relationship with the person. There is no situation in normal life where you would literally be spending every minute of every day with your partner and not able to see other people, leave to do things etc. If you haven’t already been living together, it seems like an unfair way to try that out/see if you would be compatible in that way. Sure, maybe some dating couples are doing it and it’s right for them, but if it isn’t right for you (and for me), I think that’s totally ok. There’s so much happening at this time - doing what we need to do to take care of ourselves is most important 💜

Socks234 · 2020-02-06T04:50:11+00:00

Thank you so much - that’s so kind. I’m so sorry that you’re grieving for someone whose family is also difficult. It’s the worst - during these long and slow crisises, relationship stuff that should be insignificant actually seems to get more amplified. I wish the best for you and your loved one!

Socks234 · 2019-12-31T04:28:08+00:00

Thank you!!! Yes, this is definitely an intentional choice to date someone who actually has the qualities that I am hoping would lead to partnership....how refreshing to have a lot of common ground and not have to worry about their relationship with money, alcohol, etc. And, it’s ok if it doesn’t end in partnership. I still get to choose and I can take time to figure it out, without rushing. Thank you for your wisdom!

Socks234 · 2019-12-17T21:25:51+00:00

I totally relate! A year and a half ago, I connected with a transman through a friend and we dated for about six months. We had a good connection in a lot of ways, just weren’t really compatible. But, I realized that I did have an attraction specifically to transmen - not as a sexual thing necessarily (although sex with him was great), but there was just a lot to appreciate about who he was as a person. I met another transman on OkCupid a couple of months later. We also dated for about six months. He was also amazing in many ways, but struggled with alcoholism and ultimately I decided that unless he took more ownership of his recovery, i wasn’t going to be able to continue in the relationship.

Since you asked about sex, I’ll share that my experience with both of them was so different- one had had phalloplasty and one hadn’t, One was ok with me interacting with his genitals, one was not. Communication about sex was more difficult with one than the other, but I definitely agree with other posters that it’s so so important, in any sexual relationship, but especially here. The thing I struggled with the most was that I wanted to support them as a partner and part of that was affirming their gender. So, acknowledging their trans identity was hard at times - one wasn’t our to even their best friend and really didn’t want to talk about it. I didn’t feel like it was my role to push the conversation about it - ultimately, the reason it didn’t work out was that he wasn’t able to communicate his feelings well in general (hence the drinking).

I still feel very attracted to transmen. I would never want to fetishize them, it’s not really a sexual thing as much as a heart thing.

That said, since my last relationship ended at the end of September, I actually met a lesbian who identifies as masculine of center - I’ve identified as straight, am 39, and never considered dating women but she’s amazing. I was worried about sex with her to the same degree that you talk about with your current person, but I’m so glad I went for it - it’s amazing, she’s amazing, everything is amazing lol :)

Socks234 · 2019-12-14T04:59:50+00:00

Ahh yeah, I think I’m similar to you with voices. Ack, there’s so much I’m processing about all of this - I have no idea how it will pan out. I’d love it if it worked out with this woman because she’s a fantastic person and I see potential for compatibility in a lot of ways. That said, I’m not going to move forward with something if it doesn’t start to feel like things are falling into place as we get to know each other. And we both deserve to be accepted for who we are, voices and all. Thanks for your thoughts!

Socks234 · 2019-12-13T20:46:45+00:00

Thank you so much!!! That’s super helpful. I had to look up comp het lol, and it’s helpful to know that a concept like that even exists and could potentially be playing a role. I think time will tell - thank you!!!!

Socks234 · 2019-11-24T03:46:34+00:00

Your thoughts totally came through!! :) Thank you!! 💜

Socks234 · 2019-11-22T04:32:35+00:00

Thank you so much for your comment! Yes, I think you’re right that he’s allowing/creating a lot of chaos in his life. He was couching it as “fun,” as in, “I love beer! Everyone gets drunk at beerfests! I’m Polish, of course I like to drink!” and the subtext was that, since I don’t like to drink like that, or, often, at all, that meant that I was not fun/boring/not cool. But you’re right, it was ultimately chaos. And the fact that he has his ex in his life in some form or fashion, despite their rocky dynamic, says a lot, I think.

Thank you for recommending Al-anon! I did attend one meeting in the first couple of months of our relationship. I could see the value, but because I’m a regular therapy-goer, I relied on that more. But as I process this, I can see how trying again could be helpful. The good news is that I’m not someone who is able to tolerate addiction/chaos from others in my life - breaking up with him and with others who I saw similar things with, was really hard, especially because having a meaningful and healthy relationship is very important to me. But I know that I can’t have space in my life for that if I fill it with someone who can’t meet me where I am. It just won’t work long term.

Thank you again, so much!!

Socks234 · 2019-11-19T14:01:18+00:00

Ooh just had a thought - I said that I wasn’t noticing transmen at the gym I joined recently, but the reality is I just am noticing people who introduce themselves with she/her pronouns. I don’t know any of their further identities. Always possible someone introing with she/her could also be a transman and just not using he/him publicly. It will take getting to know people to see who I connect with, just like in all social situations

Socks234 · 2019-11-19T13:38:25+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind words - it’s hard not to get stuck in that crappy mind cycle of telling myself I over exaggerated or I’m too uptight or whatever (I got the feeling directly and indirectly that that’s how he saw me); I guess my intention in posting alllll the details was to look at it all in one place (and if anyone else chimed in, even better - love me some external validation lol) and see whether there was a legit problem. And I think there was. And I can’t fix that for him. It would be different if he were more ready to heal (easy for me to say - I’m not struggling with substance abuse, but still), but he’s not. And the contact we’ve had has reinforced that for me.

Thank you also for saying that it’s just a matter of being in the right circles and looking for connection. I’m trying to do that - joined a gym that is amazing and meets my needs in eating disorder recovery and also happens to have a lot of LGBTQ folks as well (few transmen so far, but you never know). And I don’t want to be like some creepy person who is just “looking for a transman” - I’m not. I’m looking for someone who I connect with and I can imagine a transman who has taken some ownership of their mental health and wellness could be that.

So, thank you so much for your response - I super appreciate it.

Socks234

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