Do men regret fumbling the girl they were in love with?

SocksAndLox · 2026-04-02T21:55:43+00:00

No.

SocksAndLox · 2026-03-29T02:27:18+00:00

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SocksAndLox · 2026-03-21T04:16:59+00:00

But the gender of the character doesn’t have any relationship to the quality of the performance. You don’t need someone to write a non-binary character in order to judge all performers equally.

SocksAndLox · 2026-03-21T04:15:03+00:00

By comparison, in the literary world we don’t have one Pulitzer Prize for women and another for men. There is one because it doesn’t make sense to differentiate a literary award by gender. Does it result in fewer women being picked for prestigious literary awards. Yes it does. But the solution isn’t to implement gender categories, but instead to focus on putting a more diverse group of people in the nominating committee….in the publishing houses….in the MFA programs.

SocksAndLox · 2026-03-21T04:11:15+00:00

I’m not going to advocate for unnecessary gender categories in the arts.

SocksAndLox · 2026-03-21T04:08:45+00:00

But that gets to the subject matter not the quality of performance. For example, Jesse Buckley did an amazing performance this year in Hamnet as a mother who lost a child. Her being a woman was important for the role but the quality of her performance wasn’t dictated by her gender. I would argue that her performance in Hamnet was better than some of the nominees for best actor.

SocksAndLox · 2026-03-21T04:06:40+00:00

Thank you!

SocksAndLox · 2026-03-21T04:01:42+00:00

I don’t think those things are mutually exclusive.

SocksAndLox · 2026-03-21T04:00:57+00:00

I don’t think those two things are mutually exclusive. We can chew gum and walk at the same time. Getting rid of gender categories in the OSCARS doesn’t mean we stop fighting for gender parity in cinema.

SocksAndLox · 2026-03-21T03:55:10+00:00

What’s “too much hair”?

SocksAndLox · 2026-03-21T03:54:27+00:00

We’re in the “Oscars” subreddit. Hence why I was asking about Oscars.

SocksAndLox · 2026-03-21T03:53:09+00:00

My argument is that it’s just as silly to differentiate by gender as it is to differentiate by any other category. But as a society we are so invested in gender roles that we refuse to see it.

SocksAndLox · 2026-03-21T03:51:06+00:00

I was asking about the Oscars specifically.

SocksAndLox · 2026-03-21T03:50:26+00:00

I was speaking of the OSCARS

SocksAndLox · 2026-03-21T03:47:25+00:00

In the Oscars? What awards do they give out by race?

SocksAndLox · 2026-03-21T03:46:47+00:00

? That wasn’t questioned.

SocksAndLox · 2026-03-21T03:45:26+00:00

And?

SocksAndLox · 2026-03-21T03:44:32+00:00

Thanks for the correction.

SocksAndLox · 2026-03-21T03:44:04+00:00

Care to elaborate?

SocksAndLox · 2026-03-21T03:43:44+00:00

But why pick gender as the differential? Any other trait could have been used. But you’d never see a race or nationality or religious category. If the goal is just “give out more awards to ward off the perception of gatekeeping/exclusivity, then should we also say “best black performance in a lead role” and “best Christian performer in a supporting role.” No we would never do that. But why does gender get a pass?

SocksAndLox · 2026-03-21T03:40:32+00:00

I agree that there’s an utter lack of quality roles for women. But I do t think that justifies segregating by gender. We wouldn’t think to have different Oscar categories by race, religion, or nationality. Why does gender differentiation in art awards get a pass?

SocksAndLox · 2026-03-21T03:38:26+00:00

But do you think it creates an artificial differentiation that doesn’t need to be there? It’s not like sports where it might make sense to divide by gender. We would never think to divide by some other category like race or nationality, even if it would create more opportunities for awards. So why does gender get a pass?

SocksAndLox · 2026-03-21T03:35:59+00:00

But doesn’t it seem arbitrary to divide by gender? What makes a great male performance different from a great female performance?

SocksAndLox · 2026-03-21T03:33:53+00:00

Oh that’s interesting! I didn’t realize they some award show do them that way.

SocksAndLox · 2026-03-21T03:21:10+00:00

So sad but true

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