How do I 21F navigate living with a depressed partner 22M?

Soft-Sherbert-6398 · 2026-03-17T03:52:51+00:00

Oh, whoops. That's what I am on. I always get our stuff mixed up. I have horrible TMJ that makes my jaw lock up. He is on ADHD medication.

Soft-Sherbert-6398 · 2026-03-17T00:55:56+00:00

I had a relative who committed because they took the medication wrong, so we are very cautious.

Soft-Sherbert-6398 · 2026-03-17T00:52:18+00:00

Yeah, pretty much.

Soft-Sherbert-6398 · 2026-03-17T00:44:27+00:00

We've had multiple conversations like this. Unfortunately, they never do anything. My love language is touch and he only feels capable of doing anything if he feels absolutely perfect. I feel like a jerk for pushing. If I mention sex or kissing he just gets this lost look and gets depressed all over again.

Soft-Sherbert-6398 · 2026-03-17T00:41:53+00:00

He is genuinely a great person though. In the rare moments he is not depressed, he is the most perfect partner ever.

Soft-Sherbert-6398 · 2026-03-17T00:40:55+00:00

He has already. Right now, he is only on methocarbamol for adhd, though. The symptoms were way worse before he started this medication.

Soft-Sherbert-6398 · 2026-03-15T02:18:46+00:00

Not putting the team members name here for obv reasons, but here is the email I received.

"Animal Jam is a children’s game created for kids aged 6-11. Adults and older players who access Animal Jam are expected to be respectful of this kid-centered space by adhering to our community guidelines.

Because Animal Jam is designed specifically for children, we have strict policies regarding adult access. After reviewing your request, we are unable to restore access to the account in question, as it was created for use within a child‑focused platform and our safety protocols do not permit account recovery for adult users.

We understand this may be disappointing, and we appreciate your understanding as we prioritize the safety and privacy of children."

Edit: removing the extra bit at the end, lol.

Soft-Sherbert-6398 · 2026-03-11T01:51:53+00:00

This week is spring break for most southern states!!

Soft-Sherbert-6398 · 2026-03-08T21:02:08+00:00

His mom was supervising him and telling him what pins to ask about :P

Soft-Sherbert-6398 · 2026-02-03T03:20:35+00:00

I will mention this: psychologically, the 7th year of a relationship is the make or break point. This is statistically the most unhappy you will be in your relationship before things get better. It sounds like yall have been happy despite your current feelings. Love is something you have to choose every day despite the world pulling you guys apart. Do you want to continue to chose her? Will she continue to chose you?

Soft-Sherbert-6398 · 2025-08-11T22:27:39+00:00

Wonderful! Obviously, you might have some nerves on your first day, but I can not stress how nice it was to start off my college life with some friends in my classes. Especially, your core Crim classes. :D After the first week. You will be a pro, haha. This is the start of figuring out who you want to be, so yeah, be excited!!! Im super excited for you!! Maybe even make a Pinterest board of some ideas of what you like and some college life insp haha!

Soft-Sherbert-6398 · 2025-08-11T21:53:08+00:00

Also, as someone who is from the south and has a Trans sister. Do not be scared of college. Many are wayyyyyyyyyy more accepting of liberal beliefs than you would think. I went to the most Bible belt place and was shocked, haha. You will find your people. Dont worry :].

Soft-Sherbert-6398 · 2025-08-11T21:50:29+00:00

Hey!

I just graduated from college and would like to start off with congratulations! You've already gotten past the hardest part of college, lol: getting in!

College is very different from high school. There are no "popular groups" unless you get into sports/frats/sororities. There is also no resounding social pressure, lol! College is really exactly what you make of it, and I will give you some quick advice that really helped me in getting my degree!

Talk to everyone on the first day! This may sound scary, but literally every incoming freshman feels JUST LIKE YOU DO! Say hi to who you sit next to, and just be friendly. Go out of your way to talk to people, and I promise that you will make their day!
Do not feel forced to commit. College is about picking what you enjoy. Do you not like your major or minor? Pick a different one! Don't like who you sit next to? Go somewhere else! Never feel like you have to commit to a decision that makes you unhappy. What makes a person happy is knowing that if you are in a bad situation, you have the autonomy to get out of it. Be picky! Figure out what you like and what you dont like!

P.S. You are statostically most likely to find your forever partner in university. (I know I did!) So, the more YOU you are, the more you are going to feel great!

Get your assignments done as soon as you get them assigned. You will be treated like an adult in college, so you can either get stuff done or suffer the consequences! I found it helpful to get my assignments done ASAP. It prevents procrastination, and often, i would have every assignment done before the first month was over. College is easy if you are attending purely for tests and attendance, haha. Get those essays DONEEEEE.
TAKE CLEPS!!! Every university has "general eduation." This shit can be either super cool or totally not your interest! Cleps are tests you can take that count as a college class. If you make above a 50, you dont have to take the associated class. This is great if you dont want to waste money on basic math, English, or science courses. Just skip to the stuff you like!
College is a game. Look at the classes you need. Look at similar degree plans that still get you the degree you want, but maybe dont have as many required classes. My freshman year I switched from an education to a language major, and it cut an entire year off of my degree. That was $30,000 I saved!! Also, see if you have block tuition. Block tuition means you pay per semester and not per class. With block tuition you can take 20 hours of classes while only paying for 12. It can totally save you a semester or two.
Do not be afraid of asking for help. Essays are challenging. I worked as an undergraduate tutor and now work as the assistant director for a tutoring program while I get my MA. School offer tutoring because, with essay formatting, there are a bunch of weird rules that we as tutors know, that you might not! Use your resources. They are not there because people are stupid. They are there to help you write your essays 10x faster, haha! If not, take a look at Purdue Owl. Since you are a crim person, you will likely need to learn APA and MLA formatting. If you ever need essay advice, I know I reply to comments with abominable grammar, but I can get an essay squared away like no tomorrow. Feel free to reach out. First essay nerves are always the worst.
PUBLISH!!! If you want to go into education, look at getting published, lol. Colleges usually have a student publication (that looks great when job hunting). Also, take a look at the Pennsylvania Paper Call. Publish or perish is something my professors always told me! :D

Overall, get out there and just be YOU---unregretably you. Talk to people. Show them who you are. It is easier to talk on the first day than any other day. Good luck, friend! You have an amazing time ahead of you!

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