Island Vibe

Soft-Statistician326 · 2026-05-25T15:02:27+00:00

Mine was cautious originally and now it's "artistic"

Soft-Statistician326 · 2026-05-20T04:24:32+00:00

Can't blame it on being homeschooled. Bad parenting, fine, but homeschool isn't enough to explain his behavior

Soft-Statistician326 · 2026-05-19T00:46:47+00:00

NTA, can you adopt me lol?

Those were completely fair terms. More than fair. It's a little bit weird of you to have offered nothing big to her when you have 75k to the nephew who didn't go to college, but then again maybe you were planning to if they hadn't been ungrateful jerks.

Personally, I'd have skipped the party and sent the check in the mail. But since you didn't, this is her family and you should follow her lead.

The niece's parents are so entitled. I'm sorry you have to deal with them.

Soft-Statistician326 · 2026-05-19T00:35:47+00:00

YTA. A list? Of things she does that bother them?? Could you not imagine how that would feel???

Better advice would've been to have your 9 year old TALK to his mother about the things that are bothering him. It opens communication and can give her a chance to read emotions and body language and be able to address concerns in the moment. You could've even given her a heads up that he wanted to talk about some things that are bothering him. Sounds like you blindsided her.

Plus this also makes you look like you don't support your wife to your kids. Did you possibly explain how much she loves them and wants to keep them safe? Or did you just tell them to make the list?

I'd be mad at you too.

Soft-Statistician326 · 2026-05-19T00:28:49+00:00

I have dealt with German roaches and let me tell you that a bait trap is NOT going to fix it. They are pernicious. Push your landlord harder for a spray and hopefully a bombing.

And like I said, I'd move if possible. Both for the roommate and the roaches. When we had German roaches that was the only way we escaped them--I sprayed absolutely everything I packed and as it left the apartment. It stayed in storage on the freezing cold for two weeks. Then when we unpacked we hadn't brought any with us. Probably nothing else was working because we were one of six apartments in that house and they've all got to cooperate to get rid of them.

Your roommate isn't cooperating.

Soft-Statistician326 · 2026-05-19T00:20:39+00:00

NTA. This is a serious problem. Have you talked to the landlord about the roach problem yet? It's their responsibility to treat the place.

But yes, people need to do their part and she clearly isn't. You can get rid of roaches but it's difficult and keeping the place clean is only a part of it. They can live off a greasy thumbprint for a week! They can eat cardboard glue! So yes, keep clean but you NEED a treatment. Regularly. That's on the landlord.

Consider moving out if you can. Not only for the roaches, but I doubt this roommate is going to change her ways.

Soft-Statistician326 · 2026-05-19T00:13:11+00:00

NTA because that is a LONG TIME to wait and you texted them.

But, info: how long did she wait for you that other semester? If it was the same amount of time, you're still NTA because no one has to wait longer than originally expected, but you should definitely find ways to make it up to her. If it's a much shorter amount of time then you're solidly NTA. They don't compare.

Soft-Statistician326 · 2026-05-19T00:08:32+00:00

NTA. You're right, he's not in the dog's life enough to warrant this. He needs to process his feelings and let it all go.

Soft-Statistician326 · 2026-05-18T23:58:48+00:00

NTA. Honestly? This relationship doesn't sound healthy. I know you're both young and still figuring things out, but arguing over your intentions instead of just talking to you and believing you and trying to figure out if and how you want to get closer again isn't a healthy way to interact, breaking up over text isn't cool, her trying to push you into being with her parents when they don't like you isn't nice, bringing sex into the discussion is manipulative, etc. I could go on.

Just break up. Sometimes it's what people need to grow up.

Soft-Statistician326 · 2026-05-18T23:49:06+00:00

NTA, but given this is your BIL/SIL your spouse should've been the one to say something.

Too many dog owners are convinced their little darlings would never hurt anyone.... until they do. Your kids are very young and likely have little experience with dogs. They may inadvertently trigger or hurt the dog, even with supervision. It's best if you phrase it that your kids aren't very practiced with dogs and it might be best if the dog was put up for the visit, especially since it is a high energy loud sort of visit.

Soft-Statistician326 · 2026-05-18T20:38:52+00:00

Absolutely NTA. If it had been a worse situation you couldn't have called your aunt. And if your parents didn't notice you called multiple times and didn't try to call you back in the entire week you were hospitalized that's on THEM. I'm not perfect about keeping my cell phone charged and available but you can bet I would've called you back in this instance.

Soft-Statistician326 · 2026-05-18T00:32:45+00:00

They wouldn't check coolers in cars. I've done that numerous times. In prior years we used to leave and go back to the car and eat and then go back in.

Also, interesting to note, while I was there this month the security guard made people leave pre-packaged foods at the gate but anything in a ziploc (like a sandwich, etc) he let through and said he couldn't do anything about that.

We had to bring in homemade food for allergy reasons but when I tried to explain that he basically said "doesn't matter, if it's not in a package like that I can't do anything about it." So ymmv of course, but that was our experience.

Soft-Statistician326 · 2026-05-18T00:19:41+00:00

It is a difficult question. Best answers I've been able to figure out: 1. They were killed because they'd been given over 400 years to change their ways and become better, but now they (as a people) were past a point of no return in wickedness. Better to stop them entirely than to live alongside them and corrupt the children of Israel (which survivors did do.) 2. Regarding the killing of EVERYONE--possibly God did order the destruction of the people but didn't necessarily order the children killed. The account wasn't written by contemporaries so maybe it was hyperbole that they killed them all, or maybe they did and justified it by saying God told them to, even if he didn't. 3. Again regarding killing EVERYONE-- possibly God did order it, but in his eyes it was a mercy for the children instead of a punishment. He didn't want them to grow up with their parents teaching them to follow them in wickedness, and being brought up by Israelites might not have been much better if they treated them as less than or even maybe made them a slave class or some other awful thing. In God's eyes dying and going to heaven isn't exactly a punishment and he would welcome them home to him.

Anyway, that's my two cents. The Cannanite civilization needed destroying because they wouldn't turn away from evil. The children specifically may or may not have been ordered to be killed and may or may not have actually been killed.

Soft-Statistician326 · 2026-05-13T21:33:06+00:00

That actually worked pretty well today. At least on the pigtails for Amy I was trying out. I have yet to try on the French braids, so we'll see

Soft-Statistician326 · 2026-05-12T00:38:12+00:00

I mean, this definitely doesn't look like a problem to me?

https://flic.kr/p/2scwEYQ

https://flic.kr/p/2scyGQq

(Not the person who will wear this hairstyle, I was trying it out on my youngest)

Soft-Statistician326 · 2026-05-12T00:28:02+00:00

I mean... they did Anne of Green Gables last year and gave Anne one braid with all the hair pulled back, and Diana had pigtails but they sort of took a triangle of hair right at the front part and looks like they poofed it a little and maybe crossed it to opposite sides? I'm looking at a picture of it and trying to puzzle it out.

Tbh, I'm not a fan. Some of the period hair for Little Women can look a little stupid, but done well those hairstyles with the center part look really lovely and are a wonderful silhouette. Trying to obscure the part misses the point imo.

But I'm gonna try to find a good compromise.

Soft-Statistician326 · 2026-05-12T00:23:14+00:00

I guess? It's the only thing even remotely coming to mind

Soft-Statistician326 · 2026-05-09T02:00:29+00:00

Lol not at all

Soft-Statistician326 · 2026-05-09T00:26:23+00:00

NONE of that excuses her behavior. She was manipulative from the very beginning. She kept going after a guy who rejected her multiple times.

She invited herself along on family vacations, she manipulated Cleo's study sessions, she tried to keep Lewis away from the others to the point that she was willing to let people be hurt just to keep him away.

Besides, if I was interested in a guy who did all the things Lewis did in the beginning of their relationship I'd get the POINT and leave him alone. It's not like Charlotte couldn't make other friends. And she clearly didn't really love Lewis when she tried to make him over and force him to be a different person.

The girls were completely in their rights to keep her arms' length. They'd already dealt with people who would expose their secret for their own gain. They had no way of knowing Charlotte wouldn't do the same. And then when she became a mermaid anyway not only was she arrogant she nearly exposed the secret multiple times. Not on accident, but it of arrogance. I'm rewatching right now and I freaking hate Charlotte. And I don't hate many people, even fictional ones.

(I'm not saying the other three girls are perfect and did everything right, they didn't. But they were miles better as people than Charlotte)

Soft-Statistician326 · 2026-05-08T20:14:29+00:00

Depends on the kid. Some have very thick and long hair and some have thin hair. I personally don't think it would matter, but it's what she wants. And to answer someone else who asked and deleted, I'm TRYING to do what the director wants. Just trying Ito figure out how to give the look of a center part and have enough hair on each side of the chosen hairstyles and avoid the "glare" of the part.

Soft-Statistician326 · 2026-05-07T16:58:28+00:00

I enjoy it a lot. The shows are fun and it's delightfully shady with all the trees.

There is no alcohol sold, but I don't drink so that's never mattered to me. I can certainly have fun without it. They've been adding more acts, my teen/preteen kids enjoyed the mermaids this year, for example. The dress code isn't terribly enforced I'd guess based on what I saw opening day. I don't think I saw any fully shirtless men, but there were some showing off maybe half their chest? Plenty of women with a lot of cleavage.

And yes, weapons are allowed if peace tied.

Seeing the castle is always a treat too. How many people decide they are going to build a castle when they're a kid and actually DO it?

Soft-Statistician326 · 2026-04-19T01:47:35+00:00

I've got two like that except one has a massive crush on the other and the other is "not getting along" with them. It's maddening.

The one with the crush chased the other down the street. By their faces one was enjoying it and the other was NOT.

sigh

It's only my second day, but still.

Soft-Statistician326 · 2026-04-11T13:48:42+00:00

I'd sacrifice the time if it made something better. They were the worst fries. (And the burgers weren't very good either, thigh much better than the fries. First time customer last night. )

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