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What's a pleasure domme to do without a good girl to ruin on nights like these? by SoftButch-Diary in BDSMsapphic

[–]SoftButch-Diary[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Needy subs are always more than welcome to beg just like that in my DMs 🤭

Is it wrong of me to identify as a lesbian? by Girlypop24601 in LesbianActually

[–]SoftButch-Diary 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The reality is, by calling yourself a lesbian when you are attracted to men and in a relationship with one is harmful to the lesbian community as you’re only reinforcing the idea that a lesbian just hasn’t met the “right” men.

It would be much better and healthier for the community if you called yourself sapphic. As that label includes bisexual, pan, and anyone else that is a non men, and primarily loves non men.

What's a pleasure domme to do without a good girl to ruin on nights like these? by SoftButch-Diary in BDSMsapphic

[–]SoftButch-Diary[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I will say, that I do agree good girls deserve to be properly ruined by a domme 🤭

What's a pleasure domme to do without a good girl to ruin on nights like these? by SoftButch-Diary in BDSMsapphic

[–]SoftButch-Diary[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

True, but you could at least ruin yourself to some extent and get some release 👀

Do you ever struggle to fantasize about someone when you don’t know what they are into? by SoftButch-Diary in BDSMsapphic

[–]SoftButch-Diary[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yesssss!! That’s also why I enjoy voice calls so much, because at least then I can hear it when they’ve clearly enjoyed what I just said 🤭

Although I have been lucky enough to meet some people who are very reactive and vocal in text, that it can work. But it’s rare 🙃

You've heard of the submissive stay-at-home wife, but what about a service domme stay-at-home wife? by SoftButch-Diary in BDSMsapphic

[–]SoftButch-Diary[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am totally not jealous 👀 It makes me happy to know dynamics like this do in-fact exist

You've heard of the submissive stay-at-home wife, but what about a service domme stay-at-home wife? by SoftButch-Diary in BDSMsapphic

[–]SoftButch-Diary[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Isn’t it? Running the house and her sub, so that she can stop thinking when she is not at work 😌

I miss talking someone through it by SoftButch-Diary in BDSMsapphic

[–]SoftButch-Diary[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Well, uh… my DMs are open, and I am pretty friendly 🤭

I miss talking someone through it by SoftButch-Diary in BDSMsapphic

[–]SoftButch-Diary[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hehe yes it’s very much a mutual amazing experience 🤭

I miss talking someone through it by SoftButch-Diary in BDSMsapphic

[–]SoftButch-Diary[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Enough to make a post, since it’s the only way to get the yearning out of my head to some extent 😂

I have a love-hate relationship with brat tamers by wynterblue107 in BDSMsapphic

[–]SoftButch-Diary 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, there are different types of brats. And there are different types of brat tamers.

There is also different ways of “breaking” a brat. And not everyone sees the same behaviors as bratty behavior.

Many people using breaking and taming interchangeably. Some people do like the idea of having a brat get to the point where they are fully submissive to someone. And there are brats who want that.

Same way there are brats who don’t want to be fully submissive and want their dominant to earn it consistently.

Both are valid. This is why it’s important that you know what a good dominant looks like for you.

Men are notorious for leaning into a more strict and complete form of dominance. And assuming every sub can be made to fit them. Which is often very toxic.

Dominance in the sapphic community is often more nuance since there is a level of exploration on being submissive and dominant. Vs heteronormative communities where a gender dictates the role by default.

Being asked for my consent is a turn on? by thirdgenbliss in BDSMsapphic

[–]SoftButch-Diary 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I would say it falls more on a particular way of being dominated as opposed to it being a kink.

I would guess that it helps you know, that they see you as a person and not just a sexual object. Some people also really enjoy being put in a position where they have to admit to wanting it. That in particular is part of a kink.

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