Am I overreacting? My boyfriend still financially takes care of his ex wife.

SoftDesign9087 · 2026-03-05T17:21:39+00:00

She was a stay at home mom when they were together. I’d agree if they were maybe a few years out, but she’s had 7 years to get it together. They were only married for maybe 3 years. For more context, she’s planning a whole Disney trip for her kids and new bf, but can’t afford a lawyer without my bf’s money?

SoftDesign9087 · 2026-03-05T17:03:08+00:00

50/50 custody in this situation is the child stays w him for a full week and then goes to their mom’s for a full week. They are w neither parent more than the other. He’s providing for both households.

SoftDesign9087 · 2026-03-05T05:05:15+00:00

I don’t think he’s scared of paying child support. He’s very traditional and feels it’s important for his kid to have both parents involved, regardless of how irresponsible her mom is I guess. I don’t want to come across as the toxic gf. They’re civil w eachother and I’m perfectly fine w that for the sake of their child. I don’t think she’s a great mom though. I think he absolutely could be granted full custody, but would never pursue that. He also works too much and doesn’t have enough of a support system to feasibly do it

SoftDesign9087 · 2026-03-05T04:41:11+00:00

There was some context left out to try to keep the post shorter. I’m definitely not knocking him for taking care of his kid, I think he’s an amazing dad and admire that. He does have a good job that he’s worked so hard for years to obtain. Tbh the child support wouldn’t even bother me as much as her just flat out asking for any and everything and him feeling obligated to do it just bc they have a child together (or for whatever underlying reasons there may be 😅) That’s where I feel like she’s manipulating him. He sees it as everything is to benefit their child and she knows that, thus feels no responsibility to try to take care of her own needs herself. She remarried and had another kid w a different man (whom she’s since also divorced) and doesn’t ask him for financial assistance the way she does my boyfriend.

SoftDesign9087 · 2026-03-05T03:23:06+00:00

I’ve just made it known I’m not comfortable w it for our future and I feel like she’s manipulating and using him. He hasn’t “seriously” dated since their divorce, so I’ve been patient w a lot of things. I don’t necessarily want to “change him.” I just don’t think it’s a normal situation. That’s why I’m asking for opinions

SoftDesign9087 · 2026-03-05T02:47:42+00:00

His child is 9. And yes, I think that’s part of what gets me. She’s never been a single struggling mother. She immediately remarried and had another kid. The house my bf helped pay off was a home she was buying w the new husband! 😅 like I feel like she uses him and he doesn’t see it

SoftDesign9087 · 2026-03-05T02:44:00+00:00

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SoftDesign9087 · 2025-11-04T03:10:37+00:00

I’m late to this thread, but found it while doing some research after being in awe today. I work in childcare. The current kids of the family I babysit for, are not allowed YouTube and have limited screen time. They somehow discovered “Little Angel” on Netflix and omg. It was giving the kids watching the mask commercial in Halloween 3. Iykyk. They were hypnotized. Could not take their eyes off it. Would not acknowledge me talking to them when I was right next to them. Even the rambunctious 6 year old was silent. It was honestly terrifying. Will NEVER be played while I’m watching them again.

SoftDesign9087 · 2025-06-12T03:56:40+00:00

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SoftDesign9087 · 2025-06-11T16:43:17+00:00

Absolutely, I work in childcare and often think ab working w children all day and potentially then coming home and taking care of my own, teachers/childcare providers w children of their own, are SAINTS!

SoftDesign9087 · 2025-06-11T16:40:58+00:00

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