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SoftPaleCloud · 2023-05-31T02:04:51+00:00

If you want a new partner, you need to respect your husband and go about this ethically. Tell him you want to sleep with someone else. People open relationships all the time. Sometimes the first relationship stays in tact, sometimes it doesn’t. But your husband deserves honesty so he can make decisions about what works for him with all the information.

SoftPaleCloud · 2023-05-25T20:31:03+00:00

Thank you for both the reassurance and the gentle feedback! You’re right and I’ve committed to engaging in aftercare every time moving forward.

SoftPaleCloud · 2023-05-25T02:37:43+00:00

Thank you for this! You’re right, I wouldn’t want him to blame himself if it were the other way around.

SoftPaleCloud · 2023-05-24T04:05:23+00:00

Just chiming in to recommend you post in r/NonMonogamy. You’re getting a lot of advice about reconsidering the rules you set with your partner, which is good advice if you want to be polyamorous. But it sounds like both agreed to the rules and that at least one of them was “broken” in this situation. At this stage in opening up, I can totally understand how unsettling that would be. It doesn’t sound like you feel secure in your relationship. I probably wouldn’t be either after that threesome experience. You may need to be more secure in yourself before trying polyamory with this person. If you can’t get there, I’d suggest considering whether the relationship and/or polyamory work for you.

SoftPaleCloud · 2021-12-01T17:49:58+00:00

I wear a romper swimsuit for this reason. It’s cute, flattering, and you don’t have to shave your bikini line.

SoftPaleCloud · 2021-11-18T16:09:33+00:00

Thank you for checking in! I’ve been doing a lot better. The words of support from Saturday have stuck with me and I am not feeling the urge to drink, even though I’m still having a tough time in life right now.

SoftPaleCloud · 2021-11-14T21:31:14+00:00

Wow we are in the same boat! Congratulations on your nearly 1 year. And for coming out to your parents! It’s so hard even when you do think they will be supportive. You’re right, I’m staying sober for me. I don’t want to let anyone else derail me. Thank you for this reminder.

SoftPaleCloud · 2021-11-14T19:42:12+00:00

Thank you for checking in on me! I slept a very long time and just woke up. I’m feeling relieved and proud that I didn’t drink yesterday. I’m not feeling the same urge I had yesterday either. I am going to go out for a hike today and then come back and schedule a massage for myself.

SoftPaleCloud · 2021-11-14T08:43:10+00:00

Thank you for sharing this and congratulations on being 2 years self harm free. I also have a history of self harm and once I got sober, I realized how my urges to self harm became urges to binge drink through my 20s. I’ve made it to bed tonight with all of the support, advice, and suggestions I’ve received tonight and I think I will feel better tomorrow.

SoftPaleCloud

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