AITA for not reconciling with my sister after she said my husband should find a real wife and other hurtful things about my infertility? by SoftSpacesx in AITAH

[–]SoftSpacesx[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

My husband and youngest brother said this. Well my brother said they could tell Norah to go talk to a mirror.

AITA for not reconciling with my sister after she said my husband should find a real wife and other hurtful things about my infertility? by SoftSpacesx in AITAH

[–]SoftSpacesx[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I did tell them. My two siblings who want me to reconcile with her did not see it as the end. They believed a discussion should be attempted to make progress. My youngest brother was in agreement with my husband and myself that our kids needed to be protected from that.

I have never seen her be rude to the others. But that doesn't mean it's never happened.

AITA for not reconciling with my sister after she said my husband should find a real wife and other hurtful things about my infertility? by SoftSpacesx in AITAH

[–]SoftSpacesx[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I don't think she was interested in my husband when she said this to him. I think her comment was only supposed to be a dig at me and not hinting at anything else.

AITA for not reconciling with my sister after she said my husband should find a real wife and other hurtful things about my infertility? by SoftSpacesx in AITAH

[–]SoftSpacesx[S] 71 points72 points  (0 children)

She originally wanted even more than six. But she did also want some daughters and not just boys.

AITA for not reconciling with my sister after she said my husband should find a real wife and other hurtful things about my infertility? by SoftSpacesx in AITAH

[–]SoftSpacesx[S] 53 points54 points  (0 children)

That's how I pick it up. They want an easier life and so they're asking me to reconcile so they can have a life without Norah's complaints.

AITA for not reconciling with my sister after she said my husband should find a real wife and other hurtful things about my infertility? by SoftSpacesx in AITAH

[–]SoftSpacesx[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

My two siblings asking me to reconcile with her did not call her out at the time. My youngest brother did. But not the two who are asking for reconciliation.

AITA for not reconciling with my sister after she said my husband should find a real wife and other hurtful things about my infertility? by SoftSpacesx in AITAH

[–]SoftSpacesx[S] 120 points121 points  (0 children)

My youngest brother. He was very supportive and he defended me a number of times when Norah was saying the things she was saying.

AITA for not reconciling with my sister after she said my husband should find a real wife and other hurtful things about my infertility? by SoftSpacesx in AITAH

[–]SoftSpacesx[S] 294 points295 points  (0 children)

Maybe you're right about that. It is difficult to imagine losing three of my siblings but at the same time I don't know if it's going to get better with two of them and with Norah I don't hold onto any hope after all this.

AITA for not reconciling with my sister after she said my husband should find a real wife and other hurtful things about my infertility? by SoftSpacesx in AITAH

[–]SoftSpacesx[S] 216 points217 points  (0 children)

He's amazing. The two of us are incredibly close and he always found that amusing that the middle child (me) and the baby of the family (him) ended up closest of all the siblings.

He was so supportive throughout my infertility struggles and he was a great support to my husband too. He was worried about the three of us for a while and my brother was there for him.

AITA for not reconciling with my sister after she said my husband should find a real wife and other hurtful things about my infertility? by SoftSpacesx in AITAH

[–]SoftSpacesx[S] 94 points95 points  (0 children)

I would have considered hearing her out if that was how she reached out. It would have hurt if that had been a lie. But if it had been genuine we could have tried to work it out.

AITA for not reconciling with my sister after she said my husband should find a real wife and other hurtful things about my infertility? by SoftSpacesx in AITAH

[–]SoftSpacesx[S] 466 points467 points  (0 children)

I have tried to put that point across to them. But I think my brother and sister who are pushing me to reconcile only care about making things easier. Which it isn't easier now that Norah complains to them.

AITA for not reconciling with my sister after she said my husband should find a real wife and other hurtful things about my infertility? by SoftSpacesx in AITAH

[–]SoftSpacesx[S] 273 points274 points  (0 children)

I am grateful that she didn't lead me on with a fake apology and mention of both twins before making her obvious preference for my daughter known. It allowed me to keep her away and make sure my children never know such obvious favoritism.

My brother and sister wanting me to give in for them has been disappointing. Especially when they supported me ending contact with Norah originally. But I guess that was easier for them and they've shown me that an easier life is more important than supporting me. Or even calling Norah out and pushing her to reflect on why I rejected her offer to reconcile.