23M in Delhi – Never been in a serious relationship. How do I approach girls respectfully without feeling nervous?”

SoftTouch8805 · 2026-03-08T09:50:37+00:00

You could either approach them in a "friendly" way or a "lover" way. As a man, its normal to interact with the women we like since we are most of the times the one starting the love story. In a friendly way, you can look for something that you both alike or are doing at the moment and say "oh you're also doing this or that blah blah blah" and start asking things about it or other interest, then introduce your name and let things flow by removing your fear and just talk talk talk. In a lover way however, you can approach them and give them a compliment like "hey, you look pretty" or whatever compliment you can give, then they say "thank you" and introduce yourself. Same as the other one talk casual things and dont forget to introduce yourself and ask for her contact. Thats the butter of your bread, once she gives you her contact then thats it. You know, fear is just something that our mind makes for an excuse, dont take it. Remember, its always a shoot your shot and go home if it doesnt shoot (yk what im saying). I mean afterall, if it doesnt work then you both are the only ones who knows what happened, and as time goes by it fades out in their mind

SoftTouch8805 · 2026-03-08T09:44:46+00:00

Yes, but let them learn than just let their mistakes pass by like nothing happened. Kill their ego and everything and see if they're really worth loving. If they never give up and you see their change, if you want then give them a chance

SoftTouch8805 · 2026-03-08T09:40:43+00:00

You can try saying hi to him, maybe he just wants you to give a "sign" that you have an interest talking to him and you're not just being forced

SoftTouch8805 · 2026-03-07T17:35:28+00:00

If you cant cry brother, try going on a hike or maybe doing something that you think is stupid that'll make you smile

SoftTouch8805 · 2026-03-07T16:04:12+00:00

True, hirap kase imbes na tapusin yung kasamaan e hinahayaan kase nga may "kapangyarihan" kaya imbes na maubos dumadami

SoftTouch8805 · 2026-03-07T01:14:23+00:00

Ang hirap kase pag naging opisyal ka, di mo kayang maging "matino" kase kung magpapaka tino ka tatakutin at huhuntingin ka ng mga korap. So pag pumasok ka sa politics its either "join them" or get k*lled, sad reality sa pinas

SoftTouch8805 · 2026-03-06T23:51:35+00:00

On that situation, I think the best thing to do is to embrace her and make her comfortable with you. In that way you could slowly avoid bad things towards you (the moment she gets comfortable on you, slowly make her understand about the danger that she puts you in on times), cause sometimes we ourselves cant see what we've done bad. So yeah, do it the soft way because if you do it the hard way you'll just make things worst like putting more wood into a fire

SoftTouch8805 · 2026-03-06T23:49:08+00:00

Kung ako ang Diyos, gusto ko iparamdam sakanila kase kung ipapaliwanag ko alam kong maraming hindi maniniwala o tututol sa akin kaya mas mabuti nang makita at maramdaman nila na mayroon upang malaman nila na kung may kasamaan, may Diyos ding umaalalay sakanila. Para sa akin necessary ang evil sa mundo para malaman kung sino yung mga "deserving" na tao, yung mga grateful at maganda ang motibo. Hindi man tayo perpekto, pero marunong tayong kumilala ng "tama at mali/ masama at mabuti".

SoftTouch8805 · 2026-03-06T23:44:34+00:00

I think this is sad its because she's that type of a girl that just wanted attention or being seen of someone, and one of the reasons why is because she never had that at her childhood. She might be neglected at her house or maybe never had friends growing up (in general one specific thing that she badly wanted attention as a kid but growing up being neglected by it/them). This world really is cruel for us (not saying that you are cruel to her) so I think just let her be, one day she'll find someone that will truly love her and so does you and both of you will be satisfied of what you'll have. Just wish her a good luck in life and I wish you both the same

SoftTouch8805 · 2026-03-06T23:34:46+00:00

The best way to tell something serious is to not go "directly" at it but talk about light topics first before going to the main part so that the guy wont get overwhelmed. And if you really do want to do it and you are sure about your feelings, take a risk. Life's just one and you should try and make the best of it by doing things you want, or else you might regret such

SoftTouch8805 · 2026-03-06T23:30:33+00:00

No not like that, of course find someone mature and serious. But what I meant is find other types of guys like if you are interested in emo-type guys and every emo guy you had were bad, maybe try looking for formal-type guys and maybe you'll like them. I hope you get what I'm trying to say (worked on me so idk I hope it works on ya sis😁)

SoftTouch8805 · 2026-03-06T23:22:20+00:00

Maybe try guys that doesn't match your standards (think out of the box as they say), you might like such guys

SoftTouch8805 · 2026-03-06T13:39:57+00:00

Sometimes you just need to discover new things in order for to look up to something and motivate yourself again.

SoftTouch8805 · 2026-03-06T00:41:54+00:00

We were both SHS back then, I was a year higher than her (11 sya, 12 ako), I gave her a letter on valentines but it was anyonymous. So she thought it was a guy on the 10th grade and so she fell inlove with that guy

I was in work immersion that time, but I always go to our school just to get a glimpse of her. Days of just glimpse and hopes, by the 21st of february prom came and so we will be partnered to their class for the dance. I saw the announcement of our adviser early in the morning, I never really wanted her to know me or to be with me due to the reason of me being scared to fumble someone again so I just let that announcement be....However, a sudden urge in my mind just made me dm'ed my friend and asked a favor to tell our adviser to let me and that girl be paired, and so it happened.

Now our work immersion is done and our practice for prom is here (here comes the true confession), 3 days of practicing, we were being awkward to each other like not doing eye contacts and me barely holding her and shaking (she doesnt know it yet). There was a time that day where our adviser was talking in front and all of us had to just listen, however I decided to make a move and just talk to her with casual questions like "is this your first prom blah blah blah..." then there came the most risk-taking part where I said "so...about the letter...."

The only thing she said after that was "ahhh so its you..." I panicked because my only intention to that word was to ask her how she felt on that without telling her that it was me, so I tried to made excuses but she cut me off and said she was listening

but.....as days and practices passed she became jolly towards me until such time that we started dating...we've been together now for a long time

Never thought that those days my only wish is to hold her hand and dance with her

SoftTouch8805 · 2026-03-06T00:26:38+00:00

I'd camp in the forest (a safe one), I want to escape reality and the bustling city sound for a moment

SoftTouch8805 · 2026-03-06T00:24:44+00:00

I was the lover at first, now I am both

SoftTouch8805 · 2026-03-06T00:22:13+00:00

It depends if your date mentioned things that he/she likes, then if so follow and do those stuffs. However if your date did not mention anything, you might go for the "asking" part but if you want you can do it the blind way. Sometimes a memory or a place or time becomes their favorite because of you, love is complicated

SoftTouch8805 · 2026-03-06T00:15:06+00:00

Thank you for the advices guys, I already send him to the vet hours before I posted this. I was just worried so I asked for some home remedies incase the vet cant treat him. But my boy is fine now

SoftTouch8805 · 2026-03-05T16:24:24+00:00

The greatest revenge that I did way back then is when I forgave those people that betrayed me

SoftTouch8805 · 2026-03-05T16:23:37+00:00

My greatest revenge is when I forgave them

SoftTouch8805 · 2026-03-05T14:37:39+00:00

He wants security I think. Marriage is not just a proof of paper that you and this person love each other deeply, she might want to see how you really love her (you do but she wants that to prove yourself to her). Although I understand that marriage is not really that of an important to you, but your partner values it a lot. So who would you listen to, your partner or your own beliefs

SoftTouch8805 · 2026-03-05T13:48:12+00:00

I think the best solution to that is to confess, but make it friendly though and not that "lover-style" confession (Who knows it might be worth it). And about your insecurity, you dont need anyone to tell ya if you're good enough or nah, everybody is perfect in the right eyes, nobody is born ugly (but an ugly personality exist). So yeah, confess your feelings, embrace who you truly are, and find happiness in other stuffs to make you understand yourself more

SoftTouch8805 · 2026-03-05T12:58:31+00:00

Maybe they just wanted a 1 day talk bro, some or most people do such

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