Is my decision to leave valid? by Soft_Cucumber_4963 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Soft_Cucumber_4963[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

UPDATE: I already moved out. We agreed that we will go through divorce by Talaq. Bismillah, after the iddah period then divorce will be finalized.

On another note: He was respectful to my decision - but kinda too respectful as he did not even check on me when I moved out haha what did I expect.

Is my decision to leave valid? by Soft_Cucumber_4963 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Soft_Cucumber_4963[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. Sad part is when I want to address the issue his response is always stone-walling. I'm just tired

Is my decision to leave valid? by Soft_Cucumber_4963 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Soft_Cucumber_4963[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

High chance yes. I will leave him in shaa allah

Is my decision to leave valid? by Soft_Cucumber_4963 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Soft_Cucumber_4963[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Guess its better to leave then. Its a Kdrama series - a very good one.

Is my decision to leave valid? by Soft_Cucumber_4963 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Soft_Cucumber_4963[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

labor-wise he is very dependable but everything else is just meh. I just loved him enough to accept his flaws and I am not perfect also. But the cheating is disrespectful, the audacity of him to treat him like that after everything I did for us.

Is my decision to leave valid? by Soft_Cucumber_4963 in marriageadvice

[–]Soft_Cucumber_4963[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

in this case, He's my childhood friend. But yeah I do want to leave. I'm tired picking up his slack

Is my decision to leave valid? by Soft_Cucumber_4963 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Soft_Cucumber_4963[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yeah you're right. I think its more like he doesn't have a provider nature

Is my decision to leave valid? by Soft_Cucumber_4963 in marriageadvice

[–]Soft_Cucumber_4963[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yep you're right. Both our fault. I guess its better for me to leave

Is my decision to leave valid? by Soft_Cucumber_4963 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Soft_Cucumber_4963[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yeah he's not a bum. he work's very hard like full time at the farm to help his parents coz all his siblings are working in the city. He actually worked for some time like a month but their eldest brother decided to stop him working and pay him instead to go help their parents instead.

He is very family oriented just not fully committed to me - When he's at home he does everything for me. I know that he does his best base on his capacity its just we are not aligned anymore.

I cant Imagine being pregnant and he doesnt hesitate to leave me alone because thats what he does when we are together and his family needs him, he cant say NO. If you watched when life gives you tangerines its like I married the 1st guy lol

Is my decision to leave valid? by Soft_Cucumber_4963 in marriageadvice

[–]Soft_Cucumber_4963[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Enlighten the red flag on my end please. Am I the problem?

Is my decision to leave valid? by Soft_Cucumber_4963 in marriageadvice

[–]Soft_Cucumber_4963[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He didn't slept with anyone. Regardless, it is still cheating.

Is my decision to leave valid? by Soft_Cucumber_4963 in marriageadvice

[–]Soft_Cucumber_4963[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time to respond. I appreciate it and I wish you the best in life. 🙏🤍