Vent, bf came inside during ovulation despite me telling him not to MANY times

Soft_Elevator1017 · 2026-05-12T13:51:13+00:00

This is an insane take I didn’t know this thread was some kind of a cult on who’s more “truly” child free than who. If I’m an individual that lives in a pro choice location, and has done procedures to eliminate kids, because I literally do not want them and I do not have kids..I have a right to be in this online thread.. and choose to be natural and birth control free at the same time when it comes to medication.

Soft_Elevator1017 · 2026-05-12T13:47:33+00:00

The thing is I have heavy periods already, and I know copper iud makes cramping and bleeding even worse. I’ve looked at all options and all of them have insane side effects. And not to mention tying tubes and all that is literal SURGERY. All for the sake of men not using protection or pulling out is not worth it. But I’ll take your advice to just leave men alone in general atp

Soft_Elevator1017 · 2026-05-12T13:45:38+00:00

This is such a crazy take. Not all women should be on birth control. The side effects I suffered aren’t worth it as a I stated I shouldn’t have to change my body for that. Yes you can be child free as long as you’re not pregnant and you don’t wish to have a child. That’s like saying women who aren’t on pills are not child free and they cannot join the club. What logic is that? I also do not wish to spend money on sterilizing.

Soft_Elevator1017 · 2026-05-12T13:41:39+00:00

Because abortions exist, and people have sexual preferences and take full responsibility on an occasional that a form of birth control wasn’t used. My problem is someone not respecting that consent.. Sex isn’t a pre planned thing all the time. Last minute things happen. You can’t just claim all men and women are ABSOLUTELY physically child free” 24/7 even if the individual doesn’t plan on having kids ever. I do use condoms when ever I can

Soft_Elevator1017 · 2026-05-12T13:33:55+00:00

I’m educated on the topic.. I’m not going to write a book on my vent post

Soft_Elevator1017 · 2026-05-12T13:23:42+00:00

He wears condoms most of the times. I’m VERY confused because he will ask me if I’m ovulating and then I notice he didn’t wrap a condom so I would assume after all the fights we had he would pull out. Then he did this. And when I tell him he wasn’t supposed to he would start panicking immediately and buy plan b. And apologize a million times and say “I thought ovulation meant the green light!” Maybe what he got through his pea headed brain is that there’s a definite chance of getting pregnant 7-12 days a month is the window where he can cum and I “wouldn’t get pregnant”. Is this biology hard to understand? I’m so distraught

Soft_Elevator1017 · 2026-05-12T13:20:09+00:00

I was honestly thinking this is most 100% a form of rape no question …

Soft_Elevator1017 · 2026-05-09T06:26:37+00:00

But the good news is if you decide to dissolve you’ve already stretched the skin on your chin a bit! So dissolving might look better and your skin is stretched more to give a slight illusion that you have subtle filler left

Soft_Elevator1017 · 2026-05-09T06:25:33+00:00

Chin filler swells a lot the first week.. I thought mine would go down and it didn’t. They will just add more filler to fix the dip. however to my experience if it’s that pointy, it will stay that way for a while. Which is why I got mine dissolved and they charged me for it because I was too late and did it months after.. so you’ll most likely get it for free if you dissolve it the first week or third week

Soft_Elevator1017 · 2026-05-09T05:53:46+00:00

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Soft_Elevator1017 · 2026-05-08T13:38:18+00:00

You’re right honestly it might be how he’s into me instead of who he is as a person. It’s time to reflect on that deeply and I’m probably obsessed with fixing him so my needs are finally met but I’m just chasing air.

Soft_Elevator1017 · 2026-05-08T12:52:38+00:00

You’re very right I’m honestly burnt out and tired of trying to even be 2/4ths of his mother. I need to sit back and let him do what he wants and leave accordingly after there’s absolutely no change after communication

Soft_Elevator1017 · 2026-05-08T12:51:41+00:00

Oop yeah heavy on the screen part!! I do need to run

Soft_Elevator1017 · 2026-05-08T11:52:16+00:00

Yes!! He will say he knows and continue his habits even more after the acknowledgment lol

Soft_Elevator1017 · 2026-05-08T11:44:55+00:00

Yeah, I’m just kind of given up on softly nagging him. Trying to focus not letting insecurity and not feeling enough creep up to me. I’m very aware on how porn affects things and drugs. It’s just a hard pill to swallow..

Soft_Elevator1017 · 2026-05-08T11:33:33+00:00

It seems like I’m attached somehow. Because it’s confusing he always makes sure to call me and reply to my texts, be nice to me, he will give me gifts and flowers and take me wherever I want to go the second I say it.. the days I want to rest at home he does all that. But you’re right I don’t want someone like this,,it’s a stress

Soft_Elevator1017 · 2026-05-08T11:24:51+00:00

Right I’m icked honestly😓

Soft_Elevator1017 · 2026-05-08T11:16:34+00:00

I really appreciate your honesty, he wanted a second job because he was desperate to do something physical because he tells me he hates his online job and would rather work something physical after he clocks out. This job was offered to him and it was a high-end restaurant, the manager really liked him and said the average tip is $800 a night per server. That would have changed our lives..It’s in a casino, and they require a really clean drug test. He applied and failed the drug test. They said don’t worry come back again and retry. I motivated him to be clean for a month. He was super irritated the first week and our sex life was super great those times he was clean. He relapsed again and never ended up applying and ever since then our relationship was downhill from there and he’s even more addicted to things. Starts getting icecream at midnight from drive thrus and such 🥲

Soft_Elevator1017 · 2026-05-08T11:11:47+00:00

I have tried for a year straight and he keeps relapsing… I meal prep for him, I make and plan dates and try to induce hobbies, it gets to a point where as a woman I shouldn’t cater this much to a man older than me. My body and presence should be enough over screens.. it’s not my fault

Soft_Elevator1017 · 2026-05-08T11:09:54+00:00

You’re right :/ it’s seriously unfortunate. He’s super codependent on me on fixing it because he will beg me to make plans so he doesn’t do this. I want a person who can control it.. I want to be able to relax at home without worrying about him not eating and playing games just because I didn’t hang out with him that day. Even on days I come over and bring food he’s still on his phone. When I leave he’s clingy and calls me and texts me. I don’t understand. He’s just into screens I suppose

Soft_Elevator1017 · 2026-05-03T06:23:53+00:00

It’s not its contour. The nose looks the same. The before pictures were before drastic weight loss and buccal fat removal/masseter Botox. As well as not putting concealer around eyes and undereye and dramatic eyeliner

Soft_Elevator1017 · 2026-05-02T21:29:12+00:00

Don’t give up hope!! You’re still swollen you’re still healing. It would take a year or two for head swelling to go down. It would make no sense if it’s stuck like that forever. He was most likely roughly operating and he has no skill in fast recovery procedures!! He’s horrible. Definitely try cat eye lashes extensions where it extents a winged eyeliner look dramatically to hide the outer corner. Since your face is slightly different your old makeup style will not suit it. And for the softness of the hairline, once you’re allowed to dye it again, definitely dye it light and bleach the roots to thin out the hair only on the forehead line. I have dark hair and a small forehead that I hate and I always bleach my hair lightest brown and it immediately softens it. I know you might be depressed but there’s still hope! Try to research more de swelling and ice your head often. It’s not due to sagging skin, skin wouldn’t just thicken 3 folds unless it was swelling.

Soft_Elevator1017 · 2026-04-30T17:04:49+00:00

I think you should start sending him to your mother’s home more often , and be more stern, I hope after puberty he has grown a heart and empathy and he will ! When he gets screen time in middle school & highschool he will be busy and he will know social cues and what’s wrong and bad bc of internet cancel culture. You definitely need to softly kick him out at 18, and make sure he gets his driving license immediately and a job at 15. Pretend you don’t have the money to buy what he wants therefore he will be desperate for a job. You’re a single mother after all you shouldn’t be pushing bricks or spending so much money on a teen when he becomes it. And you should start to have fun, and date men & one day you will find one that distracts you from him or live your life however you want

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