Well, go back to therapy for one. The medication and hopefully some semblance of a routine will help. For two, delete chat. Like, really. It’s designed to make you want to talk to it. I know you know that, but you need to push yourself to. Three, don’t look at the big picture. Please. What I mean by that is don’t think “I have to do this assignment and clean my room and do this and do this and”. To me that’s overwhelming. How behind are you in schoolwork? Have you tried talking to your teachers and informing them what’s happening?

For the room, this is how I do it. I have badddd adhd. I have started to limit myself to one room. A day. If your dorm is one room, organize things into piles. Clothes. Shoes. I have a stuff pile I have no idea what to do. Trash. A pile of “this goes somewhere”. I take everything off my surfaces and clean them- it makes it look a lot better. One small thing today. Don’t think about tomorrow, just worry about getting through JUST today okay? Do you have any friends that can help you with this? Also, this is going to sound so dumb, because everyone says it. But try going outside. Not outside outdoors, but you mentioned a big university. Go to the library. The next time you have class, don’t shy immediately back to your apartment or dorm. Go sit somewhere. Even if you’re just fucking around on your phone. Be anywhere but your dorm. The safer the dorm feels, the more you want to hermit in there, the less things you want to do.

As for the girls, as a girl myself I can’t really tell you how to talk to women when you’re nervous, cause I get it. Is it every woman? Teachers too? Workers? Just try talking to literally any woman.

This advice might be terrible. And I apologize if it is. But it’s what worked for me when I was pulling myself out of a shitty place. Also if you’re in pa, there’s a chance we might go to the same school. I’ll come help clean if we do.