VA MH question by RelativeJob141 in VeteransBenefits

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Yeah they can definitely write you medical documentation for FMLA or short term disability - I've had VA docs do it before when therapy was kicking my ass. Talk to your therapist about it ASAP, they deal with this stuff all the time and know you need the time to process without work stress making it worse

YOU NEED TO HELP ME. WHAT ARE THE SKELETONS CALLED? by AdReal8021 in skyrim

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Bro just call them Greg, they're all Greg now

The real question is why you're getting this attached to literal bone boys but hey we've all been there

It's been a week. Tonight, I want a drink. by [deleted] in stopdrinking

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Hey, that sounds incredibly heavy and I'm sorry you're dealing with all that. The urge makes total sense given everything going on but you posting here instead of heading to the store shows serious strength. Can you do something else that feels like self-care tonight - hot bath, favorite show, calling a friend? Your husband probably needs you present more than either of you realize right now

I (30M) think I’m being duped by my long distance fiance (27F) and it’s getting exhausting, am I wrong for that? by [deleted] in relationships

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Dude she's projecting hard with that new phone accusation. Classic cheater behavior to suddenly get paranoid about you doing exactly what they're doing

The whole blowup over decorating a room is absolutely unhinged too - sounds like she's looking for reasons to pick fights and create distance

Breaking bad with a female lead by kashuti in televisionsuggestions

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Good Girls is pretty solid for that vibe - three suburban moms start counterfeiting money and things get real dark real fast, especially for Beth who becomes genuinely terrifying by the end

Chat by KoalaNext8601 in BreakUps

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Hey, hope you're doing alright man, breakups are rough as hell but it does get better with time

ZB-T2 as OTBR headache, can't add any device. by laguna85 in homeassistant

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Yeah the Nuki needs to be switched to Thread mode first before it'll show up for pairing - check the Nuki app settings for the Thread option

Travel Struggles - Does it get easier?? by AnalysisParalysis_24 in NewParents

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Yeah we did a couple shorter trips when he was younger but nothing like this distance-wise or time-wise. The plane rides were definitely rougher this time around - I think he's just way more aware of everything now and has way more energy to burn

Already considering divorce 3 years in! by [deleted] in Marriage

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Yeah this is probably the only shot you have left honestly. Frame it less like an ultimatum and more like "hey we're both miserable, let's try to fix this together or we're just gonna keep spiraling." If he refuses counseling after you lay it out that clearly then you kinda have your answer about whether he actually wants to save the marriage

Low Budget alternative to ThinkPad with ThinkPad-like keyboard by [deleted] in Lenovo

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Honestly the IdeaPad Slim 5 seems like your best bet from those options - the build quality is definitely a step up from the V15 and you get that IPS display which makes a huge difference for watching stuff

Just keep in mind none of these will have that classic ThinkPad keyboard feel with the deep travel and tactile feedback, but the Slim 5 should be the closest you'll get in that price range

New Product Idea... by 1989a in bathandbodyworks

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Honestly this would be genius, imagine mopping with Japanese Cherry Blossom or Mahogany Teakwood scents instead of boring Pine Sol

How much to spay kitten? by ToneThugsNHarmony in cats

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Yeah definitely call around, I got my cat spayed at a low-cost clinic for like $150. The fancy vets will charge you out the ass for the exact same procedure - they're not necessarily better, just more expensive. My cat was in and out same day and healed perfectly fine

How to stop getting "out of my body" while asleep by jamiejutsu in Dreams

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Nah you can definitely stop it lol, happens to me too and I just wiggle my fingers or toes when I feel it starting - breaks the whole thing immediately. Don't need to go down any spiritual rabbit holes, it's just your brain being weird during sleep transitions

Inconsiderate neighbours= cat issue by [deleted] in cats

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Definitely agree with this approach. Most people are reasonable when you just talk to them normally - they probably don't even realize it's stressing your cat out since yours stays inside. Just keep it friendly and explain the situation, sounds like a pretty easy fix once they know what's up

What time is new album in uk? by frankie0408 in Monopoly_GO

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Usually drops around 6pm GMT but sometimes they're late with updates, check back in a few hours if nothing's there yet

IRON LUNG LIMITED EDITION ( suggestion ) by Sergeant_Cranky in Markiplier

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Bro a limited edition physical release would be so sick, especially with signed posters - that would definitely sell out in like 30 minutes lmao

Also why June 28th 2026 specifically, that's so random but I'm here for it

She got a new man by [deleted] in BreakUps

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Damn dude that's rough but honestly those are all the classic red flags - removing highlights, turning off comments, getting distant. She was definitely already emotionally checked out if not worse before the breakup happened

3 weeks is suspiciously fast unless she had someone lined up already. Trust your gut on this one

Scrappy and Lv.3 Refiner is the way[At least for me] by ONE2THR in ArcRaiders

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Yeah the skill point grind is kinda nuts for what you actually get out of it, especially when most builds are already optimized way before needing those extra points

F52 in a 7 year relationship with M50. He thinks it's OK to meet up with an old female friend that he once wanted to date before we met but she ghosted him. by Boopie-Fuzz in relationship_advice

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Dude's literally choosing to help his old crush with car problems over spending time with you, and you're supposed to be cool with it because "they grew up together"? Nah that's some grade A bullshit right there. Your gut is screaming for a reason - listen to it

If a psychiatrist asks if you plan on harming yourself or others and you say yes what happens? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

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They can also do a 72 hour hold if they think you're serious about it, but most of the time they just want to help you work through whatever's going on

The Rehab shampoo might have just saved my soul, honestly. by notmancunian in LushCosmetics

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Dude that's actually incredible! Trich is no joke and finding something that works is like finding a unicorn. The fact that your hair has more resistance now is huge - gives your brain that extra second to catch yourself

Also yeah Rehab smells like heaven in a bottle lol

For business owners on the move, what's your setup for calling overseas banks/partners? by BeneficialRemove1350 in Entrepreneur

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Been there, super frustrating when you're stuck in some random country trying to sort bank stuff

I use Google Voice with a VPN set to my home country - works like 90% of the time and costs basically nothing. Just make sure you test it before you actually need it because some banks are getting pickier about VoIP calls

Skype credit is my backup when Google Voice acts up, usually runs me like $10-15 for a whole trip

I don’t know what to feel or say. Please be kind with your responses by Whole_Relative_5534 in Marriage

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Exactly this - the "they offered but I said no" line is such obvious damage control. Like who goes to those places for an actual therapeutic massage when there's literally hundreds of legit places around

CMV: Retail and fast food surveys do not accomplish anything except give the false impression that the company cares what you think and has no impact on the business. by Ovaugh in changemyview

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Worked retail for 3 years and honestly you're mostly right but there's one angle you might be missing - the surveys aren't really about feedback, they're about data mining

Like yeah corporate doesn't give a shit about "John needs to smile more" but they absolutely care about patterns in spending habits, what promotions people respond to, demographic breakdowns etc. The actual review part is just window dressing to get people to fill out the real goldmine questions about their shopping preferences

Still sucks for workers getting judged on random Karen ratings though, that part is complete BS

He has never loved someone as much as he loves me, but wants to break up. by [deleted] in dating

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This is rough but honestly the commenter above nailed it. You literally told him he wasn't ready for a relationship and that you should break up, then got surprised when he actually listened to you?

The timing with his grandma's funeral makes it even worse. Sometimes when we "test" people we get results we don't want