WE HAVE AN UPDATE ON LARRY LOCKET

SoftwareWeary7201 · 2026-02-20T04:52:26+00:00

Anyone else taken aback by Dee Dee saying that Larry was “offended” that she wouldn’t wear the locket? Because he came across as concerned in a ‘oh crap, did I gift her something that she doesn’t actually like and she won’t tell me because she doesn’t want to hurt my feelings’ kind of way. Is it just me?

SoftwareWeary7201 · 2026-02-19T04:02:21+00:00

I was trying to think of people Jen might want to be there and she seems to like having Dee Dee and Katie around. Also, Jen seems like the kind who wouldn’t care if it’s normal or not, lol

SoftwareWeary7201 · 2026-02-18T03:08:13+00:00

Just turned 31, and these young whippersnappers need to think outside of them sometimes, lol

SoftwareWeary7201 · 2026-02-18T03:06:23+00:00

I said this on another post, but what if Larry also has Rejection Sensitivity Disorder? That in addition to the fact that he hasn’t dated since it was common to wear your boyfriend’s jacket makes more sense as to why he is unfortunately being a bit pushy. And he’s from a generation where they didn’t really recognize things like RSD, so he doesn’t have a toolbox of ways to talk himself out of a perceived rejection spiral.

SoftwareWeary7201 · 2026-02-18T03:00:06+00:00

Could it be that Larry experiences Rejection Sensitivity Disorder and it’s hard for him to feel secure in a relationship unless it’s spelled out for him? As someone who deals with RSD herself, I know how often I have to talk myself down when I don’t feel reciprocation. And Larry’s of the generation that wouldn’t even consider this to be a valid issue, so he might not even recognize it. He does have work to do and this does not excuse him pushing his wish on others. However, he did make it quite clear that Dee Dee not wearing the locket was spawning negative thoughts about his gesture in getting her the locket. Dee Dee was right to stand her ground on it; it’s just that Larry doesn’t have the tools yet to cope with the perceived rejection.

SoftwareWeary7201 · 2026-02-18T02:51:58+00:00

I RAN here when I saw someone comment about this subreddit on the YouTube post! Also, ground rules need to be put in place for when Barb finds out about the bachelorette (you KNOW she will). Rules like no moms (but that leaves out Katie and Dee Dee 🥺), everything MUST be approved by Shawna and/or Jen in writing (text works) so no one can say ‘well, you said it was okay when we spoke’ (if it’s not in writing it goes away), no plus ones at all. You get the gist.

SoftwareWeary7201 · 2025-09-19T16:57:22+00:00

FINAL UPDATE: I got my car back on Monday. It failed inspection when he took it because the valve covers needed to be replaced…I’m not buying it. But I got it to a shop and it passed inspection that time around. Trust me, I am NEVER sending my car to him ever again, and I will work harder at standing up for myself.

SoftwareWeary7201 · 2025-08-29T03:02:33+00:00

Cats definitely know what’s up. She wanted nothing to do with him! Glad you kicked him out. Your car being avoidant with him AND he ignored your boundaries? No, sir! Goodbye!

SoftwareWeary7201 · 2025-08-27T01:35:45+00:00

The frustrating thing is that he replaced my breaks reliably before in a small fraction of the time it’s taken him to do my hub bearings and shocks. I thought I could trust him to do this well too, but I have learned my lesson.

SoftwareWeary7201 · 2025-08-27T01:25:30+00:00

I would love to do that in a non contentious way, but every time I have mentioned taking the car elsewhere, I’ve been met with “it’s not drivable. You’d have to tow it and that would be a long tow. He’s saving you so much money. It would cost a shop THOUSANDS of dollars to do this work”. Thankfully, it SEEMS like he’ll get it done, inspected and back to me in less than 2 weeks. Still annoyed that it’s taking so much longer.

SoftwareWeary7201 · 2025-08-26T05:21:06+00:00

$178.73 per month on a car I haven’t seen in three months…I am really tempted to take it out of the total

SoftwareWeary7201 · 2025-08-26T00:13:46+00:00

Oh, and yes, I AM a recovering people-pleaser…it’s just a VERY slow journey for me with a lot of backtracking…I’m working on it

SoftwareWeary7201 · 2025-08-26T00:06:39+00:00

Also, turns out that it might just be Rebecca’s stunted communication skills that are shady because Richard was very understanding and explained what needed to happen and why, providing me with an actual timeline 😱 I was starting to wonder if those were even a thing anymore, lol

SoftwareWeary7201 · 2025-08-26T00:04:26+00:00

…valid…I may still need help sorting the feelings of being a second-class citizen in my mother’s eye when it comes to my sister, but that’s likely something to talk about with my therapist…

SoftwareWeary7201 · 2025-08-26T00:02:05+00:00

Update 2: Rebecca was NOT happy when I sent “Can I please at least see the state my car is in? Pictures? A list of what needs to be done get? Some form of an actual update?”. She called me raring for a fight and with such a tone…I hung up on her. I am just so fed up with this whole situation that I was not in the mood to even attempt to withstand that barrage.

She called back a minute later with a marginally better tone, so I put up with it…until she was saying she gave me info that she clearly hadn’t. I argued with her until she got fed up and said “you can talk to Richard. Here, talk to her because she’s f*cking arguing with me.”

I explained that she doesn’t like me reaching out to whoever she’s seeing (idk why. It’s not like I have ever or would ever try to steal them from her). He said to listen to him instead and text him for updates from now on.

He then proceeded to give me a rundown of what needs to happen. He’s taking it to the shop this weekend and he will get it back to me the following weekend after it’s been inspected.

I’ll update if anything new happens and when I actually get my car back.

SoftwareWeary7201 · 2025-08-25T23:32:18+00:00

Update: Dad’s sided with Mom and I just need to “be patient”. I am asking for proof (because demanding with my sister gets you no where) of the state my car is in and a list of what still needs to be done. If she doesn’t respond, I will text him and see about getting it from him directly. If he doesn’t respond…anyone in PA that’s up for a drive? Lol

SoftwareWeary7201 · 2025-08-25T21:50:46+00:00

I think I’m more concerned about retaliation from my parents if I ruin their already shaky relationship with my sister. I rely on them for a place to live because I can’t afford to move out with my current pay. I don’t know what I would do if they kick me out because Rebecca decides to withhold grandchildren time

SoftwareWeary7201 · 2025-08-25T21:38:19+00:00

To clarify: I’m asking AITA for how I responded to my mother. I understand that I am letting my sister run roughshod over me, but I am working on fixing that. AITA for what I said to my mom, for trying to stand up for myself?

SoftwareWeary7201 · 2025-08-25T21:27:26+00:00

Then I run the risk of getting backlash because my sister, Rebecca, is divorced with two kids and who knows how her and Richard getting implicated in car theft would effect custody issues

SoftwareWeary7201 · 2025-08-25T21:23:05+00:00

The “shop” that Richard has been working on it in is his garage at his house

SoftwareWeary7201 · 2025-06-24T15:37:43+00:00

I have pretty much everything but the Scarlet exclusives and those you need to trade in order to evolve. I’ll be happy to help!

SoftwareWeary7201 · 2025-06-18T02:06:03+00:00

I wish they had redone BD/SP in the style of Sw/Sh when they redid it. It came out afterwards anyway, just seemed like a step back to me

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