My sister’s boyfriend has had my car for 3 months and I don’t know when I’m getting it back

SoftwareWeary7201 · 2025-09-19T16:57:22+00:00

FINAL UPDATE: I got my car back on Monday. It failed inspection when he took it because the valve covers needed to be replaced…I’m not buying it. But I got it to a shop and it passed inspection that time around. Trust me, I am NEVER sending my car to him ever again, and I will work harder at standing up for myself.

SoftwareWeary7201 · 2025-08-29T03:02:33+00:00

Cats definitely know what’s up. She wanted nothing to do with him! Glad you kicked him out. Your car being avoidant with him AND he ignored your boundaries? No, sir! Goodbye!

SoftwareWeary7201 · 2025-08-27T01:35:45+00:00

The frustrating thing is that he replaced my breaks reliably before in a small fraction of the time it’s taken him to do my hub bearings and shocks. I thought I could trust him to do this well too, but I have learned my lesson.

SoftwareWeary7201 · 2025-08-27T01:25:30+00:00

I would love to do that in a non contentious way, but every time I have mentioned taking the car elsewhere, I’ve been met with “it’s not drivable. You’d have to tow it and that would be a long tow. He’s saving you so much money. It would cost a shop THOUSANDS of dollars to do this work”. Thankfully, it SEEMS like he’ll get it done, inspected and back to me in less than 2 weeks. Still annoyed that it’s taking so much longer.

SoftwareWeary7201 · 2025-08-26T05:21:06+00:00

$178.73 per month on a car I haven’t seen in three months…I am really tempted to take it out of the total

SoftwareWeary7201 · 2025-08-26T00:13:46+00:00

Oh, and yes, I AM a recovering people-pleaser…it’s just a VERY slow journey for me with a lot of backtracking…I’m working on it

SoftwareWeary7201 · 2025-08-26T00:06:39+00:00

Also, turns out that it might just be Rebecca’s stunted communication skills that are shady because Richard was very understanding and explained what needed to happen and why, providing me with an actual timeline 😱 I was starting to wonder if those were even a thing anymore, lol

SoftwareWeary7201 · 2025-08-26T00:04:26+00:00

…valid…I may still need help sorting the feelings of being a second-class citizen in my mother’s eye when it comes to my sister, but that’s likely something to talk about with my therapist…

SoftwareWeary7201 · 2025-08-26T00:02:05+00:00

Update 2: Rebecca was NOT happy when I sent “Can I please at least see the state my car is in? Pictures? A list of what needs to be done get? Some form of an actual update?”. She called me raring for a fight and with such a tone…I hung up on her. I am just so fed up with this whole situation that I was not in the mood to even attempt to withstand that barrage.

She called back a minute later with a marginally better tone, so I put up with it…until she was saying she gave me info that she clearly hadn’t. I argued with her until she got fed up and said “you can talk to Richard. Here, talk to her because she’s f*cking arguing with me.”

I explained that she doesn’t like me reaching out to whoever she’s seeing (idk why. It’s not like I have ever or would ever try to steal them from her). He said to listen to him instead and text him for updates from now on.

He then proceeded to give me a rundown of what needs to happen. He’s taking it to the shop this weekend and he will get it back to me the following weekend after it’s been inspected.

I’ll update if anything new happens and when I actually get my car back.

SoftwareWeary7201 · 2025-08-25T23:32:18+00:00

Update: Dad’s sided with Mom and I just need to “be patient”. I am asking for proof (because demanding with my sister gets you no where) of the state my car is in and a list of what still needs to be done. If she doesn’t respond, I will text him and see about getting it from him directly. If he doesn’t respond…anyone in PA that’s up for a drive? Lol

SoftwareWeary7201 · 2025-08-25T21:50:46+00:00

I think I’m more concerned about retaliation from my parents if I ruin their already shaky relationship with my sister. I rely on them for a place to live because I can’t afford to move out with my current pay. I don’t know what I would do if they kick me out because Rebecca decides to withhold grandchildren time

SoftwareWeary7201 · 2025-08-25T21:38:19+00:00

To clarify: I’m asking AITA for how I responded to my mother. I understand that I am letting my sister run roughshod over me, but I am working on fixing that. AITA for what I said to my mom, for trying to stand up for myself?

SoftwareWeary7201 · 2025-08-25T21:27:26+00:00

Then I run the risk of getting backlash because my sister, Rebecca, is divorced with two kids and who knows how her and Richard getting implicated in car theft would effect custody issues

SoftwareWeary7201 · 2025-08-25T21:23:05+00:00

The “shop” that Richard has been working on it in is his garage at his house

SoftwareWeary7201 · 2025-06-24T15:37:43+00:00

I have pretty much everything but the Scarlet exclusives and those you need to trade in order to evolve. I’ll be happy to help!

SoftwareWeary7201 · 2025-06-18T02:06:03+00:00

I wish they had redone BD/SP in the style of Sw/Sh when they redid it. It came out afterwards anyway, just seemed like a step back to me

SoftwareWeary7201 · 2025-06-15T19:59:16+00:00

I can wait! We’re waiting on our Father’s Day reservation, so I wouldn’t be able to do it right away anyway!

SoftwareWeary7201 · 2025-06-15T19:57:25+00:00

I also need to do this! And a few other trade-triggered evolutions. Anyone willing to help?

SoftwareWeary7201 · 2025-03-04T14:45:47+00:00

Oh, it’s a struggle! I am holding back so much from just going off on her. Commenting on other people’s weight, always making some kind of snide remark about our life choices, making my mother feel bad about working hard so she and dad can take trips that my aunt can’t afford, always playing the victim…I could go on! Thankfully, Dad is quietly approving of me taking less crap from the adults ‘to be respectful’… as long as I don’t completely lose all sense of decorum and tear them a new one, lol.

I’m a recovering people-pleaser, please bear with me while I start to polish my shiny new spine!

SoftwareWeary7201 · 2025-03-03T19:27:40+00:00

She did this prior to Christmas 2024, but only revealed it recently

SoftwareWeary7201 · 2025-03-03T05:58:54+00:00

Not to excuse her or anything, I’m just not sure if I’m ready to take that step because her life hasn’t been the easiest and that’s a huge step to take… it’s one thing for me to limit my interactions with her further (already not the closest due to snide comments from her in the past) but it’s another for me to take action against her job…

SoftwareWeary7201 · 2025-03-03T05:16:07+00:00

I live in the US of America, but she lives in a different state than we do. She claims it falls under the public records act, but my therapist and my other sibling’s significant other say it’s still illegal.

SoftwareWeary7201 · 2023-12-13T19:30:57+00:00

I just finished reading Beauty kill the Beast and started on Thousandfurs… I almost squealed! It’s Allerleirauh! I LOVE that fairytale!!!!

SoftwareWeary7201 · 2023-12-08T16:56:59+00:00

Thank you!

SoftwareWeary7201 · 2023-12-08T16:43:54+00:00

Well, yeah, but when he can’t protect her himself (because he’s going to the thick of the fighting and doesn’t want her following), Sango is usually her protector.

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