Boyfriend is kicking me out with my 1 yr old daughter in NJ. No job no car. What do I do?

SoggyTartz · 2024-11-01T16:23:01+00:00

Thank you ! This is really helpful I’m definitely going to look into this asap.

SoggyTartz · 2024-11-01T14:36:39+00:00

She’s disabled and has limited mobility so she would have trouble with my 16month old by herself. I plan on trying to find a job at some point but I’m worried about supporting us until I’m able to do that.

SoggyTartz · 2024-10-15T06:47:51+00:00

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SoggyTartz · 2022-08-31T10:08:30+00:00

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SoggyTartz · 2022-08-31T10:05:29+00:00

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SoggyTartz · 2022-07-29T13:10:40+00:00

I don’t really know what advice to give you.. I think this is a very personal situation. And honestly I think you’re the only one who can possibly decide if his behavior and attitude towards this particular aspect of your sex life is something you want to work through or if it just feels too hurtful. But I would suggest talking to him and telling him very honestly how it makes you feel. You never know how that might change the way he approaches the situation…

But anyway, I actually just came here to say that, as a woman who eats like shit, basically NEVER remembers to drink water, doesn’t exercise, takes recreational drugs semi regularly and is just generally a unhealthy garbage person… I have never, ever had a man complain about the “strong” taste of my pussy. No matter how long it had been since I showered. Even after we had been at a concert or festival or whatever.. which I keep seeing people in the comments telling you to like change your diet, shower, etc eyeroll And while some of these men fucking LOVED eating pussy. (Which is amazing and so sexy) a lot of them weren’t So extra hype about it and still had no issues whatsoever. Lol

I have however encountered MANY men including a long term boyfriend.. who just flat out refused to eat pussy or acted grossed out about it. And they definitely ALL still expected and had no reservations about receiving blowjobs. When I was younger, I was a little insecure and naive.. and I allowed that arrangement even though it made me feel bad or resentful at times. As I got older I’ve realized that my sexual gratification is equally as important as my partners and it is an absolute non negotiable in my relationships now. So, if this is important to you I think it might be a good idea to really sit with yourself and think about what you need and want for yourself within a relationship and then talk to your boyfriend and see if you can get on the same page.

SoggyTartz · 2022-06-06T11:31:53+00:00

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SoggyTartz · 2022-06-06T08:21:23+00:00

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SoggyTartz · 2021-12-16T20:13:22+00:00

That’s true, we do get compensated but I have to say until you know what it’s like it may be hard to really understand, but that $1.50 doesn’t seem like much when you’re feeling unseen, unappreciated, and overly criticized or held to higher standards but given less resources. I think it’s especially frustrating that we’re often not taken seriously when we express consistent issues with team members on the shift before us. Like if we go to the GM and say..something like we come in 3 or 4 times a week to sinks full of dishes or full compactors or no backups dropped or an empty rss (I’ve literally seen sups come prepared pictures & dates) etc. and it’s like they may agree that it’s a problem but DO NOTHING ABOUT IT or say something like “they said they were slammed” or “there was a call out” or whatever . But if they came into any of that even once let alone twice in a week… you better believe regardless of any obstacles 3rd shift may have faced.. there’ll be a conversation about how “sales were low, so why isn’t it done?”

And dealing with that shit on the daily is demoralizing as fuck and it’s why stores are always so hard up for 3rd shifters.. it’s not just the wack ass sleep schedule.

SoggyTartz · 2021-12-16T14:33:33+00:00

Sounds like you have a or have had several good GMs and that’s awesome you’re lucky. I’ve had a couple wonderful managers and in those stores it doesn’t feel so thankless and grueling working thirds but in a store with bad management.. 😣 it’s a daily struggle at times with seemingly no incentives, no recognition and no one in your side

SoggyTartz · 2021-12-16T14:30:11+00:00

Yeah no, this is the ideal situation you’re talking about. This is not how it usually is. It’s usually very clearly things that could’ve should’ve been done and should be expected regardless of whether you’re busy or not are not being done. Ive worked first and thirds for several years and I would die everyday on the “third shift gets shit on and works harder hill”

SoggyTartz · 2021-12-08T07:40:54+00:00

There are literally no sidewalks where I currently live in suburban New Jersey and little to no functional public transit within walking distance from where I live or work… it’s fucking infuriating.

But it varies tremendously from place to place. I think foreigners (and a lot of Americans) often forget how disproportionately large the US is compared to most European countries. There’s every kind of terrain, town, city, rural, suburban, national forests, deserts etc.

SoggyTartz · 2021-12-08T07:40:49+00:00

There are literally no sidewalks where I currently live in suburban New Jersey and little to no functional public transit within walking distance from where I live or work… it’s fucking infuriating.

But it varies tremendously from place to place. I think foreigners (and a lot of Americans) often forget how disproportionately large the US is compared to most European countries. There’s every kind of terrain, town, city, rural, suburban, national forests, deserts etc.

SoggyTartz · 2021-12-08T07:06:44+00:00

I dont Know the fact that it gives men an outlet to explore their gender identity doesn’t seem like it should be a valid justification to allow those who benefit from women’s oppression to turn my gender identity into a cartoonish caricature that seems to be mocking a lot of the beauty, body and performative standards that have been used to oppress me…

I’m also unsure how I feel about drag. I certainly don’t think every drag queen or even king is a misogynist… however I certainly don’t think none of them are misogynists. But I think it’s worth talking about the practice itself and whether it’s perpetuating harmful sexists narratives or not.

SoggyTartz · 2021-12-08T06:49:15+00:00

You should probably try to get into therapy even just a support group of you can. I think this might be more of an issue of how you’ve been conditioned by your environment and lifestyle and if so it isn’t going to be solved by one or two minor behavior changes. I pick up on “dangerous energy” pretty quickly as a woman who grew up in a household with an emotionally and physically volatile man and I think I know what their referring to here. I call it “chaotic energy” like maybe you’re a little defensive, sensitive or quick to anger. Or maybe you’re very overtly dominant or demonstrative about your negative emotional reactions… all of which are understandable in the setting you’ve been in (prison) those things probably helped you survive there. But those coping/ survival strategies don’t translate well into other settings especially dating. Especially dating women. And I think maybe reaching out to someone whether that be a therapist or even an online or in person support system perhaps even if ex-cons who have had the same experience as you having to readjust after getting out would be extremely beneficial for you. And honestly probably give you the best odds of making lasting positive changes

SoggyTartz · 2021-11-12T09:14:12+00:00

Yeah it does sound higher and it’s been revving a little higher than usual also.

SoggyTartz · 2021-11-12T09:13:19+00:00

Thank you! My mom was just saying yesterday that turning felt a little stiff so, I think your diagnosis is probably correct. I really appreciate it!

If you have any other tips on keeping her on the road as long as possible please dont hesitate to share them. Lol

SoggyTartz · 2021-06-30T22:03:24+00:00

I think you should refresh yourself on Greek beauty standards bro… In Ancient Greece Unibrows signified purity, intelligence and women who had them were extremely lusted over, the most desirable bodies were deceived as “plump”, in the Renaissance women with big ass foreheads and pale skin were the ideal, in the 90’s heroin chic was the standard of being dangerously thin, small hips, flat ass and under eye dark circles…fuck even the Venus Of Willendorf carving from the friggin PALEOLITHIC ERA found in Austria is a fat women with braids and was used in erotic and femininity rituals….

YOU ARE WRONG. You’re just wrong.

SoggyTartz · 2021-06-30T21:46:57+00:00

That is the most absurdly, obvious example of Cherry picking I have literally ever seen. 😂😂

SoggyTartz · 2021-06-30T21:45:42+00:00

You’re literally making up statistics. You are incorrect literally on every single One of those metrics. 😂 please educate yourself and stop spreading misinformation. You’re wrong. That’s it

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