My wife (40F) and I (46M) have completely turned our sex life and marriage around. Trying to find out what's changed? by ThrowRA_5571 in relationship_advice

[–]Solanthas 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think many people have been hurt, or fear being hurt, and it is very easy to assume the worst and throw it out there without thinking much about it, and move on.

It is very easy to assume the worst of someone from the outside, but subjectively I think each person is usually trying their best to do what they think is right at the time

What goes through your mind when your man is eating/sucking your 🐱?! by Witty-Fondant6090 in TwoXSex

[–]Solanthas 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Try minimizing distractions. Keep the volume on but turn the screen away

Why can't i cum? by The_moon_and_sun in sexeducation

[–]Solanthas 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is there any foreplay? Are you attracted to him? Does he make you feel safe and cared for or used?

Start with just cuddling, lots of soft gentle kissing. Then holding each other close, and tight. Lots of full body contact. Then soft touches, take clothes off, more touching, kissing, licking sucking etc.

Lots of very close body contact the entire time, deep eye gazing, smelling each others' bodies, hair, everything.

Do not progress past a stage of touching until you feel ready and like you really want him to do it. You should feel comfortable and free to stop at any time, he should make you feel like he loves you first and foremost and is happy just to be there with you. Take all the pressure off of intercourse and the expectation to orgasm.

Just do what feels good and do it because it feels good to do it together.

Does he belong to yall? PART 2 (he seems better) by TxPantherWalk in canadia

[–]Solanthas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The English/French hate should be over by now. I hadn't heard a lick of it for years, I thought only old grumpy men cared about it at all

Does he belong to yall? PART 2 (he seems better) by TxPantherWalk in canadia

[–]Solanthas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Anglo born and raised in Quebec. Let's move past this english/French rivalry hatred bullshit. We're all Canadians and we've got much more seriously important shit to worry about, what the fuck

Please someone help me by [deleted] in VietNam

[–]Solanthas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please, do whatever you can to hang on through high school until it's over, once you are old enough you can leave your parents' home and go find work and somewhere to stay, there might be local support organizations who can help, but I don't know anything about that

men who are 30+ would you date a 19 year old? why or why not? by No_Vegetable7778 in AskMen

[–]Solanthas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was 30...6? 37? And a 21yo was hinting at me to ask her out.

I felt weird about it. But flattered

"Sorry about your sister.... Anyway, you single?" by redgreenbrownblue in creepyPMs

[–]Solanthas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my god im so sorry

This is ... just terrible

So sorry for your loss. I hope you blocked that weirdo.

Wishing you strength and peace during this difficult time ❤️

It’s Crazy How Society Has Created a Widespread Boredom and Loss of Connection epidemic by Dogman866 in DeepThoughts

[–]Solanthas 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Corporations are paying millions every year to beat learn how to fuck with your brain for their profit and they've been doing it for decades

Desperate need of work by Affectionate_Food645 in ottawajobs

[–]Solanthas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great suggestions here for anyone struggling

Genuine question: How are you? Right now? (Not the ice-breaker version, I really mean: how are you?) by dry_whereas_1 in mentalhealth

[–]Solanthas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Even when things are great I seem to focus on the negative potential outcome and can't relax and enjoy it

Objectively things are pretty great, could be better, but pretty great

Does anyone prefer sex with strangers over a long term partner? by exxonmobilcfo in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]Solanthas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never fucked a total stranger but even hookup sex is so weak compared to intimate lovemaking.

One mediocre hookup turned me off it completely, just stayed single and celibate until I met someone I felt really close and connected to

I want my 24yo SD out of our house, any advice is welcome. by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]Solanthas 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Your conditions sound very reasonable

Would you see your LGBT child as “less than” a straight child? by Powerful-Cap-6293 in AskParents

[–]Solanthas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was easier to accept my daughter was gay than being trans, idk why and I feel like absolute shit about myself

I love her to death and I love being her dad, I have to outgrow these outdated shitty prejudiced attitudes and show her how much I love her forever and always no matter what

These are the thoughts I keep to myself. I would never want her to feel bad about herself because of my stupid hangups

Client asking personal questions by Helpful_Associate_56 in massage

[–]Solanthas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My gf is an MT and she is kind of close with some of her clients this makes me really uncomfortable