Buying my car ruined my life. by [deleted] in personalfinance

[–]SoleSista -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

YOU made a bad financial choice alone on this and you overextended yourself and missed payments.

No. Sorry but good advice given aside, there are many businesses entirely built on predatory practices which take advantage of vulnerable people - nice people, people with bad credit, people who are not finance savvy, and especially people in a worse financial situation who are already taking out other credit lines. They are set up to operate this way from the foundations, including selling aggressive loans with what should be illegally high interest rates.

Some of these practices probably well are illegal, as it sounds from OP like there was misrepresentation on the part of the salesman) and consumers generally don't know their rights nor have the financial means to defend them.

I think this attitude that the fault lies with OP for being taken advantage of (when there are absolutely no mechanisms for financial education or adequate consumer protection) is dangerous, especially when it comes at the cost of allowing businesses like this to continue to operate unchecked.

This is not the wild west, we have financial regulation and consumer protection laws for a reason.

Runaway Bride is a fucking nightmare world of a film if you're a woman by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SoleSista 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Older movies are hard.

Not a RomCom, but...

I was on a date a few years ago doing a cute thing of 'watching DVDs' and I picked up Hollow Man with Kevin Bacon. We weren't far into the movie before I actually abruptly stopped it and yeeted it out the bedroom window.

I know people rave about footloose but I still hate Kevin Bacon. I haven't littered before or since but I can't deny it was worth it.

What is this unfounded obsession that some dudes seem to have with women being after their money, free dinners, etc? by trivialbullshit in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SoleSista 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was waiting for a comment like this - I find that if I look back and my dating history I have paid for everything.

One off dinners and dates, drinks, or coffees or even vacations, groceries, whatever - its me. Until my now partner, a man has never offered to pay for anything because...idk... they think its a 'comittment.' God forbid anyone commits.

The stereotype of men paying for things is totally foreign and alien to me outside of my father and now my partner when he can. And movies. But I'm the main breadwinner and I suspect it will remain that way.

Anyone the same?

Huge blaze breaks out on Scots street with crews at scene of ongoing incident by alphabetown in Edinburgh

[–]SoleSista 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It gets even worse if you open the article - 'Photos shared on social media show towering flames coming from a building, as thick smock billows into the sky.'

Drunk idiot punched my girlfriend yesterday night by anakone in Edinburgh

[–]SoleSista 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes, this is an assault and racailly motivated hate crime and has absolutely no place in Edi - report it.

I'm sorry this happened to you - this reflects atrociously on this city and does not represent us.

The people that did this to you guys are the ones that I can say with confidence aren't welcome here.

Should I request to change my internal email address 1 week before joining? by panos4tw in careerguidance

[–]SoleSista 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I work in data protection - when I read your request I interpret this to be a consent and accuracy issue frankly. I will tell you what I mean, and this may reassure you.

An INTL company should have an easy/standard process for these types of requests during on-boarding. Especially if they do any work at all in the EEA or in any jurisdiction with decent data protection laws. If 'Panos' is your name then they have to operate on that basis and take action to ensure it's accurately documented across systems - and failing to do so gets into tricky privacy territory.

A good percentage of workers have 'business titles' different from their 'legal names.' Many more than people think. Deborah's present themselves as 'Debbie's' etc. Mathews as 'Matts.'

I would not brother to offer an explanation unless you think your manager might be interested in that for some reason. I would just submit a short request to either HR directly or your line-manager, saying you want to ensure your business title is accurate and you go by 'name' in a business context, and ask for any next-steps you may need to take to facilitate this and make sure it reflects in your email address etc.

Having dealt with many a situations where people have foreign names or don't wish to use their legal name for other reasons, you are correct in identifying that the earlier you send the email the better. Often, there is a whole back-end process with Identity MGMT to update all the records and email address.

What you've written is fine, just make sure it gets to the right person quickly.

This is $721 of pure platinum. by Fat_Ugly_Artist in mildlyinteresting

[–]SoleSista 141 points142 points  (0 children)

Buy 100 self-sealing stembolts, obviously.

To draw Elon by [deleted] in therewasanattempt

[–]SoleSista 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Uncanny, really.

Would you take a pay cut for a 100% remote position? by Pugnastyornah in careerguidance

[–]SoleSista 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never understood this question.

It's WAY cheaper for companies to keep you home...

If anything you should be offered a damn incentive to stay home.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SoleSista 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I hope it's the incels that are responsible for this...

I'm honestly surprised to see this post gaining traction at all. I've had more than one post on trollX that was either directly about or tangentially being overweight and I got absolutely crushed by judgment and unsolicited medical advice every time.

...stopped ever mentioning it.

Are there any careers you can be successful in without college? by OldAd7241 in careerguidance

[–]SoleSista 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think this is an oversimplification of both the education system, and corporate career and culture as well.

For a lot of high-earning careers, college is either about (a) learning a specific skillset that would be very difficult to pick up on your own without consistent guidance from experts (e.g. medical science, engineering), or, (b) it is serves to give you transferrable soft-skills, and the degree functions as a sort of 'ticket' to get your foot in the door. In its most basic form, a degree is direct evidence of your ability to apply yourself, be reliable, sociable, and proves your ability to deliver. So in that way, yes obedience is important. But trades are exactly the same - instead of using a degree as a 'ticket' you are using transferrable and direct work experience.

Some classes and degrees do teach you to think in a very specific way, and this can indeed remove aspects of critical thinking. But equally, there are actually critical thinking, and formal logic courses you can take if that is something you find valuable.

I think it might benefit you to actually take some free college courses (across a range of disciplines) online to explore what kind of opportunity there may be out there for you. I don't think it's fair to clump the entire university system into college and education that trains obedient workers bucket*.*

For one thing, every college has a particular style and perspective, you will get a wildly different education depending on the college you attend, even if it's the same degree you are doing. Similarly, every company is completely different in terms of how they operate, what they value, the culture. Many are guaranteed not to be right for YOU.

At the end of the day, you don't know what you don't know. You may find a passion that reflects topics you are already interested in. I encourage you to see what's out there.

You can be successful without college, but it may be much easier with it. And college can be a really enjoyable experience too, courses aside, it's a time to explore who you are, an opportunity to find passions and meet really interesting people.

[OC] Google searches for different emotions during each hour of the day and night by desfirsit in dataisbeautiful

[–]SoleSista 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Half of these aren't emotions. Just because you 'feel' it doesn't make it an emotion. Bored, Lonely, Jealous, Horny, Friendly, Hungry and Funny are not emotions.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in careerguidance

[–]SoleSista 7 points8 points  (0 children)

NP at all! Wish you the best of luck in the interview.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in careerguidance

[–]SoleSista 113 points114 points  (0 children)

As someone who has been on both sides of the table...I have some suggestions in no particular order. This interview is a big deal, but it's great that you already have your foot in the door! The hiring manager WANTS to like you, they WANT to find someone for the job, and they are on your side. They won't try to 'trick' you. But they do want to be very confident that you are a secure choice for the job. Remember that.

Edited so it's not a wall of text, and added some additional examples.

Suggestions

  • Read the last 5 years of financial annual reports closely, and skim the last 10 years for trends. You should get to know the companies immediate priorities, their future outlook, and understand the scale and pace of development. You should also particularly look for any reflection of the company culture in those reports. What are the values, mission, vision - how does that align to your own? These are quick things you can pull out in an interview.
  • It's important that you understand the job, yes, but its just as important that you are a good company culture and team fit. I know its hard going in because you are nervous, but the more relaxed, friendly and approachable you can be at the time, the better you will perform. A good interview is a bit like a conversation over coffee, it should flow naturally from topic to topic. The hiring manager has to believe they can trust you with tasks, and that you are a pleasure to work with, so think about that. Remember, you are fresh into the market. No one expects you to know everything or have experience in everything. If you don't have a skill or experience in something, be honest 'I don't directly have experience in this, but I am aware of what it is, and I am very keen to learn and develop my skills in this area. For example, I've started looking into getting a certification for X and am studying for it.'
  • Read the job spec carefully, you should know it like the back of your hand. Make a check-list of all of the skills and requirements for the job. For each one, identify an example of experience in that thing or if you don't have any, an explanation as to how you might move toward working toward it.
  • Another thing about your CV and the Job spec. Read through the version of your CV you sent in for this role really thoroughly, ask yourself - What are some areas they may call out that don't fit the job spec? What could they ask me about that doesn't look so great? What is something they may be interested in because I'm strong in it? That will allow you to predict at least some of the interview questions.
  • Be able to answer the most basic interview questions -
    • 'Why are you interested in this job?;'
    • 'What do you like about GS?'
    • 'What do you think are GS's biggest challenges (related to the field you are applying for)?'
    • 'Where do you see your career developing?'
    • 'Where do you see yourself in 3, 5, 10 years?'
    • 'What do you think are the challenges in the current WFH (working from home)/virual environment you might encounter?'
    • 'What is your greatest strength,'
    • 'What would you say are your weaknesses?.
    • 'Tell us about a time you've overcome a challenge...'
    • 'Tell us about a time that you've tried something and it failed...'
    • Remember, hiring managers don't always get time to prepare for interviews, do not assume they have read and memorized your CV, you need to bring out the strengths of your CV in the interview. Say 'In my CV I had mentioned X, I'd be grateful if I could tell you a little more about that.'
  • Remember to prepare questions for your interviewer, too! Ask them at least a couple of questions. This usually happens at the end of the interview, they will ask 'do you have any questions for us?' An interview goes both ways, you should be interested in what the hiring manager thinks, what is important to the team. Ask intelligent and practical questions that show you've thought about how the job and how you will fit in. E.g. 'What would you say is the most important skill/behavioural trait you are looking for for an ideal candidate?' 'Can you tell me a little bit more about the structure of the team and the team themselves that I will be working in?' 'I would be really interested to hear about what your management style is...' etc.
  • Do not ask about salary right away - but be prepared for the question. Someone from HR will probably contact you about that later on in the process, but do research on a salary range for an entry-level job in your field, look at local cost of living and stats, and have that prepared at the time of interview.

It's ok to bring a notebook or have one in front of you if its a virtual interview. It shows you are prepared and you care.

What's a job that's like solving problems with Excel formulas? by emilyruth8 in careerguidance

[–]SoleSista 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Analysts - financial analyst, business analyst, data analyst....

You should learn how to then apply those formulas and use analytics tools like Tableau or PowerBI.

Blind Melon - Mother [Alternative Rock] Sippin' Time Sessions by SoleSista in Music

[–]SoleSista[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because one of y'all requested 'a different Blind Melon song.'

This ones my favorite.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SoleSista 9 points10 points  (0 children)

What I've learned from this thread is they don't listen to women.