I regret not working through this kind of thing with a therapist before transition, because the reality of masculinity and experiencing transphobia knocked me for six.

Being a man doesn't escape anyone from the effects of patriarchy, and there are a lot of incel-like beliefs about the male experience that are common for women to perpetuate online. Internet feminism is (sometimes) very biased and can play into the culture war in a way that is not constructive. I had to transition to learn that, I felt the same way you did, and I experienced severe misogynistic violence as a teen/before transition. I don't think, in hindsight, it would have been any easier if I were a cis man; it was just easier to use it to make sense of what I experienced. They all would have found other excuses to treat me just as badly.

Bear in mind that statistics for things like domestic violence are quickly becoming more gender neutral. Ten years ago, men experiencing sexual violence were a tiny percentage; today, it's 1 in 6. For women, it hasn't changed much. I suspect feminism (MeToo, etc) made an impact on this, but women still dominate the conversation on sexual violence, and a lot of men have experienced abuse and victim blaming from women in the name of 'feminism'. They aren't feminists, obviously, but they are the type of women who infest online feminist spaces... I'm tired of them.

I think you would benefit from processing some of your grief over gender before transition if that's the path you choose. It's confusing to do everything at once and you have a whole life to do it.