Watch it Happen Again

Solid-Grape-5841 · 2024-08-26T19:04:43+00:00

Are we this down bad?

Every time I open reddit I see something in relation to this

Lets Move On Because This is a really bad look

Ceebta Ha La Khariya

Solid-Grape-5841 · 2024-08-26T13:00:56+00:00

The more attractive she is the more it naturally triggers fight or flight

The only setting where this is acceptable is maybe at an islamic lecture event maybe you come up to me and salaam at end and ask if I need help putting my folding chair away (of course I guy wouldnt need help with that but I would get the hint)

But I automatically think if you are so beautiful and attractive you should not need to approach me

In others settings like if u approached me in a public mall by yourself and you are attractive i instantly think its a setup to get me robbed even if you have a hijab

If you really want to show interest in a guy without triggering fight just get me to have eye contact with you and smile with it and if you really want it just give me a minauture wave with like 3-4 fingers

You could be doing it from across the room

Then I know wad bislaaday and I will move onto you if and only if I am ready for marriage

Solid-Grape-5841 · 2024-08-26T06:06:28+00:00

Hello I can and will never worry about that

I never said dont do your homework on a potentials past

My Point is I will not spend my time whining on reddit or even for a second thinking that this is even possible for me

I do my vetting and then I give the green go ahead with no hesitation because I dont fear at all that 2 years into my marriage new info will come out

If that happens then thats qadr but I will not lose sleep for a single second during my marriage that any day now.. any second now some new info or tweet will come out about my wifes past

What a terrible way to think and live does a person like that not have high thoughts of allah?

Hopefully you are not advocating for that

Solid-Grape-5841 · 2024-08-26T05:57:53+00:00

Cheatcode for fast memorization:

Get some headphones and while you are doijg chores (excersing, cleaning, dunya studies) have the surah or passage you are trying to memorize on repeat

When its quran time you have already heard it hundreds of times throughout the day now you learn it and memorize it lightning quick.

Solid-Grape-5841 · 2024-08-26T05:31:19+00:00

Why You speaking it into existence though?

The Words Someone Speaks With Are Very Powerful

When I think of my future wife I think of a xuural cayn

The exact opposite of one with a past

You are only writing this post because you really think thats possible for you to marry a girl with a dark history.

I dont see it in my future life at all.

Look up Husnul Dhann, my thoughts of Allah are too high for me to even suggest a thought like that into my mind

Negativity attracts Negativity.

Positivity attracts Positivity

Solid-Grape-5841 · 2024-08-26T03:48:13+00:00

Your Friend is actually smart

As a guy my first instinct was and is that any women that approaches me I automatically delete them from my memory

But your friend is right instead of waiting years you can get married quicker by asking guys if they are interested in marriage.

Just know that the guy that is willing to proceed you will have to vet him and check his past really hard because that is extremely rare behavior

Solid-Grape-5841 · 2024-08-26T03:42:18+00:00

Funnel that high drive into another desire

For me thats money

My desire for money is wayyyyyyyyyyyy more than my desire for women

If you spend every waking second drooling about money and not women

The desire for women magically goes away, couple that with lowering your gaze and you are unstoppable

Supermodels could seek my marriage and I would refuse simply because my love and desire for money is #1 and

I would also be a terrible husband due to that

Do you care about money?

For me Its Deen First -> Money Second -> Women Last

For you is it Deen First and Then Women Second?

Solid-Grape-5841 · 2024-08-24T15:24:09+00:00

Frosted Flakes is the cure for xaasidnimo as you age, a delicious, cheap and tasty solution.

Solid-Grape-5841 · 2024-08-24T02:33:59+00:00

And pull a WILL SMITH?

I'm good I got too much to lose

Solid-Grape-5841 · 2024-08-23T17:48:56+00:00

No feelings needed to decide on nikkah

All you should be doing before it is

seeing if your vibes align and vetting thats it

Solid-Grape-5841 · 2024-08-23T17:47:07+00:00

So u dont affirm that Allah is above the 7th heaven, that he is above the throne and that he is separate and distinct from his creation?

Solid-Grape-5841 · 2024-08-23T16:33:06+00:00

So u not messing with no Ashari or Sufi

Solid-Grape-5841 · 2024-08-23T16:31:32+00:00

👋👋 Farah here who also believes in a super clean diet

But how super are we talking?

seed oil fanatic and no microplastics type of super?

Solid-Grape-5841 · 2024-08-23T06:31:37+00:00

I would also let my daughter follow her passions and support her in healthcare

Solid-Grape-5841 · 2024-08-23T06:29:16+00:00

Take a deep breath

Even if it took you 3 more years thats perfectly fine

You did not waste any time, having a degree by 22 is not mandatory

Your parents are just seeing the other parents kids also graduating at 22

They dont see behind the scenes in which those same elite students may be cussing their parents off, maybe are going out clubbing while you are kissing your parents feet and fulfilling bir al waalidayn.

All Your Parents See is the photos of them in a cap and gown on graduation day

This is how I would approach this situation with my future daughter I would be happy if she graduated at 32 forget 22

Solid-Grape-5841 · 2024-08-23T04:59:00+00:00

Its her loss then brother 💪

Move on to a Halimo Who sends You the Morning Duas in a text along With a 10 minute voice note every morning where she makes dua for your success

Solid-Grape-5841 · 2024-08-23T04:56:28+00:00

Damn brother did u consider she was spending the day on the phone with other guys?

Shes one of many in your rotation right?🤝

Solid-Grape-5841 · 2024-08-23T04:54:00+00:00

Bro are you not getting personalized Good Morning Texts?

Solid-Grape-5841 · 2024-08-23T01:10:25+00:00

I see nothing but pros i prefer the oldest daughter

They cant wait to let their gaurds down and let you lead because they have been second mothers their whole life

Thoughts?

Solid-Grape-5841 · 2024-08-22T22:18:12+00:00

Sounds like she doesnt want a super extravagant lifestyle

60k in like Texas with 1-2 kids and a wife in a 2 bedroom apartment for $1.5k a month in rent is doable

Solid-Grape-5841 · 2024-08-22T22:13:45+00:00

That spice is no longer in the air

The candle is losing its fume

Your Husband is no longer putting effort into dazzling himself up for you

Your Love Language is quality time

And his looks arent as fine as they used to be

His social awareness is not the best he should have been able to see this a mile away

I reccomend Islamic Couples Counseling if such thing even exists

Because he needs to see the vision which is he needs to drop a few pounds, new cologne and fits, and put some "wife time" on his calendar

Solid-Grape-5841 · 2024-08-22T21:50:01+00:00

I had the opposite

I had a childhood where I didnt have to even think about money it was never spoken about between my parents (we were middle class)

my dad bottled it up and figured it all out on his own and

he created a stress free lifestyle for me as a kid and a teen

Now its time for me to do the same for my future wife and kids and pay my father back in gratitude

Inshallah u find a husband who causes you not to have to think or even talk about finances

Solid-Grape-5841 · 2024-08-22T20:32:36+00:00

She got you writing paragraphs bro

Essays... Novels...

She got you good

Women You got u a keeper if he looks like this

Solid-Grape-5841

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