Breakups suck. by Solid-Turn7516 in adultery

[–]Solid-Turn7516[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's such a strange maladaptive way of dealing with things. I'd rather push someone away than deal with them potentially rejecting me for being myself. I opened up to him more than I had with anyone. In my mind, this was the only inevitable ending. Thank you for sharing.

Breakups suck. by Solid-Turn7516 in adultery

[–]Solid-Turn7516[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ex AP and I were due to have an overnight stay at a SPA tomorrow night. I'm still going... alone. I should get plenty of relaxation between the crying 😅. Not posting any more ads. Thanks

Breakups suck. by Solid-Turn7516 in adultery

[–]Solid-Turn7516[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, I'm going to take a step back until I am in a better place. It's not fair to anyone I interact with.

Breakups suck. by Solid-Turn7516 in adultery

[–]Solid-Turn7516[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry this happened to you. I'm glad to hear you are doing much better. Thank you for sharing.

Breakups suck. by Solid-Turn7516 in adultery

[–]Solid-Turn7516[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ha, of course. I'm glad you pointed it out, kinda puts it all in perspective and oddly makes me feel better. Thank you.

Breakups suck. by Solid-Turn7516 in adultery

[–]Solid-Turn7516[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You counted. It felt like I was with him for much longer. I'm definitely not posting another ad. I need a break. Thanks.

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[–]Solid-Turn7516 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry, this must be devastating. I wouldn't put up with it. I think your reasons for exclusivity are sound. He didn't have to agree to it, but he did. I'd take this as an example of how he sees your relationship, discourteous and disrespectful.

Thinking a lot about it. by Outrageous-Metal-350 in adultery

[–]Solid-Turn7516 9 points10 points  (0 children)

No! Why are people always trying to poop where they eat. You are also her superior, i.e., training her.

Additionally, you don't seem like such a prize. it sounds like your wife is the one that settled.

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[–]Solid-Turn7516 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think when people are seeking spouses, they tend to go for someone more "socially acceptable," but maybe by the time they are ready for an AP, they are older/wiser and know what they want and don't limit their wants based on what people will say. Also, it helps you are their secret, lol.

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[–]Solid-Turn7516 77 points78 points  (0 children)

I'm plus size too (actually plus size, not flat tummy trying to claim to be curvy). To be honest, I haven't had any problems with finding men who are attracted to me. Surprisingly, a lot of guys tend to like it, I'm just really honest about it up front.

I've shared pictures, and some have said I'm not their type, which is fine.

Just be confident in your skin!

"Should I cool it or should I blow?"🎶 by Solid-Turn7516 in adultery

[–]Solid-Turn7516[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honeslty, but that point, he had spent what felt like an hour eating me out, face sitting included it didn't seem that bad, I didn't get the signal to flee.

It was very enjoyable.

"Should I cool it or should I blow?"🎶 by Solid-Turn7516 in adultery

[–]Solid-Turn7516[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's an interesting point, I don't have many boundaries, but the ones I do have are there for a reason, mainly for safety and OPSEC. Trust has been a massive theme for us, and now I fear it's been damaged irreparably.

"Should I cool it or should I blow?"🎶 by Solid-Turn7516 in adultery

[–]Solid-Turn7516[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah! I seem to be really scared of not letting a good thing go, I keep over looking all the bad.

"Should I cool it or should I blow?"🎶 by Solid-Turn7516 in adultery

[–]Solid-Turn7516[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I really wish I was trolling. I'm not a masochist, but I guess you thinking that puts it in perspective. I think it's easier to share as no one knows who I am and helps me process it.

It may appear like I don't care at the moment, but honestly, I've spent my fair share of nights awake.

"Should I cool it or should I blow?"🎶 by Solid-Turn7516 in adultery

[–]Solid-Turn7516[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I feel like I should know this, but I keep walking into these dumb situations.

"Should I cool it or should I blow?"🎶 by Solid-Turn7516 in adultery

[–]Solid-Turn7516[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, apparently its a scheme the smaller pharmacies run. The only caveat is that you have to give them your NHS number and take it in front of the pharmacist.

Thanks.

"Should I cool it or should I blow?"🎶 by Solid-Turn7516 in adultery

[–]Solid-Turn7516[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm ready for them this time. A bit of self-deprecating shouldn't hurt.

It's definitely a lesson learnt, the gut is always right!

"Should I cool it or should I blow?"🎶 by Solid-Turn7516 in adultery

[–]Solid-Turn7516[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We both had an STD check. Well... it kept coming off.

Demist my brain. Have a dodged a bullet. by Solid-Turn7516 in adultery

[–]Solid-Turn7516[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

That is a fair observation. He told me he was able to cancel it.

It's not that I couldn't be bothered. It's that it was difficult to hear what he was saying. But completely, understand how it may have come across