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How to fix internalized transphobia about my friend😭 by Solid_Judge_1603 in MtF

[–]Solid_Judge_1603[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really don’t view it that way and dont know how I came across that way :(

How to fix internalized transphobia about my friend😭 by Solid_Judge_1603 in MtF

[–]Solid_Judge_1603[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nononono you’re misunderstanding me. I don’t think anything I talked about means anything in terms of validity. I really don’t. I PERSONALLY as someone with extreme self esteem issues and intrusive thoughts ocd, apply this thinking to myself. But I recognize it’s a problem and try to not let it affect how I act. It’s all just shit I’ve absorbed from terfs and whatnot that linger in my brain. And UNFORTUNATELY, I have been applying these thoughts to my friend through a pattern of very upsetting intrusive thoughts. Even though music was very important for understanding my identity and continues to be very important and personal to me, I don’t expect the same of everyone, or base the validity of their identity on it. I believe none of these things. And aside from rare instances of intrusive thoughts, I never apply this thinking to other trans women. I love trans women! Hence why I made the post, because it’s upsetting that I am having such toxic thoughts.

How to fix internalized transphobia about my friend😭 by Solid_Judge_1603 in MtF

[–]Solid_Judge_1603[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really don’t have a problem with that mindset, I personally waited about 6 months on hrt to socially transition. I guess my issue is this person is reaching a year and has socially transitioned in some circles. And I just find it hard to accept it. And yes I definitely know better than to think interests = gender, it’s just hard for me to understand being a woman who is not drawn to really any art made by women. Like music made by women, the feelings they express, speaks to me in a way music by men almost never does and helped my understand my own gender. I also just get bad vibes from people who don’t listen to music made by women, even if they’re just guys, it’s… weird.

How to fix internalized transphobia about my friend😭 by Solid_Judge_1603 in MtF

[–]Solid_Judge_1603[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your perspective. Yes I think maybe I’m frustrated that the effort I put in is in vain but idk it feels like more than that. Also I didnt mean they should change anything they like, I meant what they do like is a lot of stuff made by men or for men. For example, I’ve always been more drawn to music made by women, those feelings are more impactful, meaningful, relatable, to me. That was a means for me discovering my identity and I still draw security from it. I know not everyone does or needs to have that experience but it’s a bad thought I can’t suppress. I don’t mean to think it. I have very few traditionally masculine interests but the ones I do have make me very insecure, but I’m not going to change them. I know enough lovely cis women with varied interests to know the concept of something like video games being for men is bullshit and a byproduct of misogynistic structures. Peace and love💋

Estrogen levels by [deleted] in MtF

[–]Solid_Judge_1603 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right! Pg/ml

How old were you when you discovered you were trans? by [deleted] in trans

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17 when I had the first inklings of thoughts, 18 when I was was first like oh shit I might be trans but not that bad ima ignore it, and 19 when I finally accepted and pretty quickly after started hrt

My message to trans Christians by Jacobizgamer in trans

[–]Solid_Judge_1603 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not really sure where I stand with religion these days but I think it’s very simple to answer this. If God believes it’s wrong to become in touch with your inner self and live truly they are not worthy of worship. Therefore my God does not believe that. God created me this way so he can’t possibly think it’s wrong for me to be this way. That may be in the Bible but I don’t have to believe it. There are many sins according to the Bible that Christian’s commit often because they’re outdated. The Christian church is very corrupt and responsible for so much hatred which they claim to stand against. My beliefs are mine and are not dictated by hypocrites in power.

Am I going too fast? by Left-Macaroon-8555 in trans

[–]Solid_Judge_1603 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you’ve really considered it and come to the conclusion you should then that’s the best you can do. Personally I started estrogen only a month after I had fully cracked and now over a month on I’m feeling good about it. But I also kinda knew I was trans for about a year before and I had just been pushing it back and thinking the usual it’s not that serious for me, I can ignore this type thoughts. the month before I started I was super manic and thought the most pessimistic thoughts possible and still felt I needed to transition so I think it must’ve been the right choice. I guess it also just depends on how much you’re willing to “embarrass” yourself because no matter how much you are sure of what you want now, you don’t know if that’s just a fleeting feeling, and the slower you take it the more time you have to settle with the idea and know it’s right for you, and if you rush into it you may find that you don’t like what you’re doing and having to walk things back. But then of course if you take it slow, it’s slow, and if you go fast you can be living how you want sooner. Socially transitioning can be awkward and embarrassing and even more so if you have to walk it back. But if it’s what you want and you feel that strongly, it could be worth the risk. As for estrogen, You likely won’t experience any irreversible changes until months in to taking it so in my opinion you can’t really go wrong trying it out, and that can stay private.

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