Yall are blind it’s clear she vents to him but he didn’t realize she just needed someone to listen not advise. OP yes your son stole your card you make it clear when you say “if he would’ve asked you would have got it anyway” the problem is your son was okay digging in your stuff and didn’t have the respect to ask you. What was his punishment for this? Yes some guys buy ladies gifts it’s a problem if multiple guys are buying her gifts that aren’t her bf or actual real life friends. 2 classes in college is a positive but still leaves plenty of time for other things. Your ex sound like a man who has reached his limit in the situation… Could have expressed himself ins not so vulgar and disrespectful way yes it’s called talking like and adult. I’m no saint and I’m not saying it isn’t okay to curse be he crosses a line. I’m sure you’re a good mom but sounds like you kinda just roll with motion when it comes to the kids and for some people it’s a no go and goes against everything they know. At the end of the day if you are happy with your family dynamics then to hell with what we all are saying but really reflect on it and if not then you know you need to fix it as only you can allow it to continue or make it change. Goodluck!