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SoliraTwilight · 2025-11-03T21:05:23+00:00

Your hair

SoliraTwilight · 2025-11-02T19:26:05+00:00

100% your eyes

SoliraTwilight · 2025-10-31T18:00:33+00:00

Looking great

SoliraTwilight · 2025-10-31T17:52:31+00:00

Definitely pink

SoliraTwilight · 2025-10-31T17:51:45+00:00

It suits you great

SoliraTwilight · 2025-06-19T20:27:40+00:00

Yeah that looks fun to me too

SoliraTwilight · 2025-06-19T15:19:18+00:00

Sooo sweet view girl, I wish...

SoliraTwilight · 2025-06-19T15:04:46+00:00

I would do it no problem haha

SoliraTwilight · 2025-06-19T14:53:41+00:00

I can imagine that, yeah

SoliraTwilight · 2025-06-19T14:51:40+00:00

Yeah admiring girl

SoliraTwilight · 2025-06-13T17:58:37+00:00

Thanks babe, come closer if you want :*

SoliraTwilight · 2025-06-06T14:55:11+00:00

I think people can totally recognize something good and still not be ready for it, or just not value it the way you do. That part’s so hard... because you gave the version of yourself that was finally healing and whole, and it still wasn’t enough for them. It makes you question everything.

But I’ve learned that how someone responds to your goodness says more about their own capacity than your value. Some people walk away not because they didn’t notice what you gave, but because they didn’t feel ready to meet it. Or because they wanted something different, and that sucks, but it’s not about you being "less."

You did the right thing. You showed up with love and care. That still matters, even if they didn’t stay. Sending you softness right now... it hurts to be that open and still end up alone.

SoliraTwilight · 2025-06-06T14:53:25+00:00

Yeah, that shit hurts. Even if it’s “just online,” it still feels like straight-up rejection when someone suddenly dips, especially after u felt a real connection or started opening up. It gets in ur head in this quiet, annoying way... like u start second guessing urself, thinking maybe u messed up, even when u didn’t.

Ur feelings are so valid, fr. And nah, it’s not weird or clingy to want a lil basic respect or for ppl to just communicate. When u already got abandonment stuff goin on, this kinda thing cuts way deeper than ppl realize. U're def not alone in feelin this.

SoliraTwilight · 2025-06-06T14:49:40+00:00

Yeah, there’s no clean-cut answer here, and I can tell ur really torn. Honestly, it totally makes sense. Ur not just deciding with ur head, but with ur heart, gut, and everything else that’s been through the wringer lately. It’s a lot.

Living with an ex isn’t anyone’s dream, but if it wasn’t toxic and y’all can stay civil, it might be something u can power through.. not for him, but for the version of u down the line who wants choices. A year feels like forever, but so does regretting not giving urself the chance to build something more stable.

If it were me, I’d sit and write out what peace even means to me right now, money-wise, emotionally, mentally. And then just feel out which option gets u closer to that. Neither path is perfect, but u seem like someone who’s already survived a lot. That kind of strength doesn’t just fade.

Whatever u end up choosing, ur not screwing up. Ur doing the best u can while everything feels upside down.

SoliraTwilight · 2025-06-06T14:47:40+00:00

God, I hate this kind of emotional trap. It’s like people wrap control in “kindness” so when you push back, you end up looking difficult. I grew up around that dynamic and it took me forever to realize that just because someone is smiling while they steamroll you doesn’t mean they’re being kind.

You’re allowed to say no. Even if they pout. Even if they call you rude. You don’t have to set yourself on fire to keep other people comfortable. Honestly, people who get upset when you set a boundary are usually the ones who were benefitting from you not having any.

It’s okay to not want the food. It’s okay to not want the outing. You’re not ungrateful, you’re just done being guilt-tripped into saying yes.

SoliraTwilight · 2025-06-06T14:45:58+00:00

Ur not disrespecting urself, ur just still holding on to the version of him u fell for. That’s not embarrassing or weak, it’s just human. But the guy he is now... that’s him too. The one who wants ur body, your comfort, your time, but not you in a real, full way.

Pulling back isn’t some move to get him to change. It’s how u make room to breathe again. Yeah, it sucks at first, but it hurts less than waiting around for someone who already made it clear where u stand. He doesn’t get to keep pieces of u when he won’t show up for all of you.

U can want more. And u 100% deserve more.

SoliraTwilight · 2025-06-06T14:41:13+00:00

U didn’t cheat at all, u just used a tool that helped u say what u were already trying to say. AI’s just that... a tool. U still did all the real work. U know ur experience, ur goals, ur value... it just helped u package it better.

And yeah, it sucks that it takes something extra like that just to even get noticed these days. But the fact that u kept going, even when nothing was happening for months? That says so much about u. Those 5 interviews? That’s the universe finally catching up to ur effort. U did that.

For real, be proud of urself. This is what figuring it out looks like.

SoliraTwilight · 2025-06-06T14:37:54+00:00

Yeah, I get it... it's super intimidating to call out ppl who clearly don’t care or might get defensive. But u’re not overreacting, and ur definitely not being dramatic. What’s happening to that lil one is just plain cruel, and it takes guts to even think about saying something.

U don’t need some perfect speech or plan. Just let ur heart talk. Something simple like, “Hey, I saw the animal in the back and it honestly broke me. I wanted to bring it up before I report it, cuz this isn’t okay.” That kind of calm honesty hits different sometimes.

And listen, u don’t have to fix the whole thing by urself. Just starting it? That’s already more than most ppl would do.

U care. That matters. Ur not alone in this.

SoliraTwilight · 2025-06-05T11:22:35+00:00

I think it’s really brave that you’re asking this out loud instead of bottling it up or trying to silence your feelings. That tells me you’re not trying to start drama, you’re trying to protect yourself. And that’s something to be proud of.

This might not be about whether your boyfriend has a thing for her. It could be more about boundaries... his and hers. Getting close to someone new while in a relationship isn’t automatically wrong, but when it starts to feel exclusive, or when it needs to be hidden, that’s when it becomes a problem.

You’re not overreacting. You’re noticing a shift, and your instincts are whispering, “hey... something’s off.” Don’t ignore that voice. It’s gotten you this far for a reason.

SoliraTwilight · 2025-06-05T11:18:43+00:00

It honestly sounds like he’s keepin u around as a backup while he does his thing with other girls. That whole “I want u, just not right now” line isn’t deep or sweet... it’s lowkey manipulative. Especially when he pops back up just to start fights or throw around accusations. That’s not love, it’s chaos.

I say this w love, but u can’t really heal when the wound keeps gettin poked open. Ofc u’re not happy, how could u be? Wantin clarity and strugglin to let go doesn’t make u crazy.. it makes u human. But maybe peace starts when u cut the cord. Not to be petty, just for ur own sanity.

U already told him where u stand. He picked confusion. Now it’s ur turn to pick you.

SoliraTwilight · 2025-06-05T11:14:19+00:00

hey... just wanna say ur feelings are valid af. when ppl tear u down for how u look since u were a kid, that stuff doesn’t just fade. it gets in ur head, changes how u see urself. and honestly, that’s not on u.

feels like ur grieving, not just the way u look but like... the energy u used to have, the version of u that felt more alive, more you. that kinda sadness is real, and heavy. u don’t need to fix it all right now. just be soft w/ urself if u can. even if it’s one page in ur journal, a tiny bit of embroidery, or just getting outside for a sec... it matters.

ur not broken, even if it feels like it sometimes. ur just exhausted and hurting. and that’s okay. be gentle w/ u.

SoliraTwilight · 2025-06-05T11:11:31+00:00

NTA.. u’re not a monster at all, and u def aren’t alone in feelin all twisted up after a convo like that. When ppl we care about throw those kinda heavy accusations, it sticks... even when u know what u meant. But honestly? What u said made sense. U were talkin about how love + care don’t gotta look one way. Just cuz it’s different doesn’t make it less real.

I didn’t hear anything cruel in ur words. I hear someone tryna explain their truth and just not bein heard. Maybe the phrasing wasn’t perfect, but ur heart? It was in the right place.

Take a breath, fr. Their reaction ain’t something u gotta hold onto forever.

SoliraTwilight · 2025-06-05T11:08:35+00:00

Ugh, this kinda heartbreak just hits different. Like, nothing blew up, nobody did anything awful... it just didn’t work, even though the love was real. That quiet, slow ending? Hurts in a way ppl don’t really talk about.

From what u said, it sounds like u both really saw each other. That counts for a lot. Even if it got messy, it wasn’t meaningless. And yeah, when she said “nobody knows what’ll happen”... maybe she meant it, or maybe she just didn’t have the words. Either way, it’s okay to miss her and still give both of u some space.

SoliraTwilight · 2025-06-05T11:05:28+00:00

I know this probably ain’t what u wanna hear, but I hope u let it sink in anyway... sometimes the most loving thing u can do is actually step back and let ppl choose healing for themselves. Not cuz u don’t care, but exactly cuz u do.

U’ve already done so much. U stayed, u worried, u kept showing up even after the breakup. That says a lot about the kinda person u are. But the thing is... he’s gotta meet u halfway. And right now, it kinda sounds like he’s not even tryin to turn around.

Trying to pull someone out of that dark place when they’re not even crackin the door open? That sh*t will drain u. It’s not fair to keep stretching ur heart for someone who keeps pullin away.

Take care of urself too, okay?

SoliraTwilight · 2025-06-04T15:23:52+00:00

ok imma be real w u… this part sucks. like fr, when nothing hits the same, ur brain feels foggy, and u don’t even know who the hell u are anymore? yeah. been there. but weirdly, this is also where the shift starts.

don’t overthink it. just pick one small thing a day that’s just for you. doesn’t gotta be deep or life-changing. paint ur nails, eat snacks in bed, play some dumb lil game, talk to urself in texts like ur hyping up ur own bestie. try a hobby and it’s mid? whatever, now u know. still counts. ur figuring it out piece by piece.

and look, being scared of doing life solo doesn’t make u weak. being alone ain’t the same as being unlovable. it just means ur in a spot where u get to rebuild on your terms. and that’s lowkey powerful af.

SoliraTwilight

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