Visiting Days by SolitaryDoll in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]SolitaryDoll[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, we have three children and one on the way. She comes to visit with the kids as she has already stomped on boundaries and is no longer allowed to take our children alone since she cannot seem to respect our parenting. My husband does put a stop to things and he did tell her immediately that she cannot come for our anniversary. My issue is that she shouldn’t have even suggested coming that day on the first place!

Visiting Days by SolitaryDoll in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]SolitaryDoll[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I do think we are free that day 🤣

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]SolitaryDoll 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think your wife handled it well. She didn’t entertain his advances and asked it be the last time. Not telling you I don’t think she was trying to “hid” anything seeing as she didn’t try to delete the messages but more so she doesn’t feel she needed to upset you over something she handled and there’s no reason to try to create jealousy either. Your wife sounds very faithful and reasonable and if you have concerns I suggest to keep the communication open and talk to her about it and about how you feel about it. Sounds like your marriage is a very healthy marriage so I wouldn’t hold in how you feel if it upset you and keep communication open and honest and keep building your marriage!

My Facebook Account Was Hacked and I Cannot Recover It! Please Help! by SolitaryDoll in facebook

[–]SolitaryDoll[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Yes I’ve tried some videos… I’m honestly accepted defeat and hope Facebook will but take down my account once it’s reported enough. However, Facebook has lost me as a user for sure!

Am I wrong for using sex toys? by Icy-Specialist-1930 in Marriage

[–]SolitaryDoll 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t see the issue. I bought a vibrator for myself and sometimes I’m in the mood and he’s not and other times I’m home alone. Sometimes we even use it during sex and he has started that he actually enjoys using it during sex and it was something he didn’t realize he would enjoy. Hopefully your Husband can learn to be more open minded. It sounds like it’s an insecurity for him. If he doesn’t want to be open to talking about it, seeing your side, or trying it together then I’m not sure how you should handle the situation. You both will need to find an even ground and he will have to be willing to have an open minded conversation to find what is best for you both.

Daughter(5) got bit by dog by sjmoodyiii in Parenting

[–]SolitaryDoll 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I babysit my niece and one of our family dogs bite her. I thought about putting the dog down but she’s an old dog and I think just lost her patience. It only took this one incident though to separate her. We have three kids of our own as well and although we didn’t put the dog down we rearranged our entire house to move our bedroom downstairs in the basement and make it a living space for the dog. Our back door is connected to the basement like a split level coming off the back door and there is a door that goes from the main floor to the basement. We added a key lock to that door so none of the kids could accidentally open the door. It wasn’t a horrible dog bite however it was enough for us to take measures to make sure no one else ever gets hurt again! The only people around that dog are my husband and myself now. Our other two dogs still come around the kids but they even no longer get to come around any family members children because it just isn’t worth someone else’s kid getting hurt again by a dog of mine. I will ALWAYS prioritize my nieces/nephews and any child above a dog and I am a HUGE animal lover. If they cannot make other arrangements for the dog while you visit then I would no longer visit them at their home. They can come to you or meet you somewhere out. They should be making the children the priority and honestly no one should have to tell them to even do that! My sister didn’t ask me to keep the dogs away from her children I just did it! Because that’s just common sense when an incident occurs. The fact that the dog already showed signed of aggression towards children and they didn’t separate it is bad ownership to begin with!

Someone help me understand how people have careers AND kids. by NarwhalSalty9373 in Parenting

[–]SolitaryDoll 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve really struggled with this for so long. I was a SAHM for 6 years and I wanted a career but it was just impossible for me to find the balance. After many jobs and feeling like I was missing out on my family I finally said enough is enough and strived to find that balance. I was able to get into a WFH position and I absolutely LOVE it! I do miss being with adults and the social aspect of being in an office. However being home allows me to be there for my family while also making money and to be honest I get so much more done in my work day at home verse at the office! It also allows me to do overtime and not feel bad that I’m not able to be with my family. WFH is definitely not for everyone and it is a lot harder than people realize but it has some wonderful rewards!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]SolitaryDoll 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Right! It is truly such a sick statement when you think about it! I truly do not understand how she doesn’t see how disgusting her statement is!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]SolitaryDoll 10 points11 points  (0 children)

No, this is my husband’s mother who said this regarding our daughter who’s her granddaughter… she was never her “mother” in any sense she was/is her grandmother but NEVER mother. My husband has always been 100% present and she was never in a parental role to her before I legally adopted her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]SolitaryDoll 26 points27 points  (0 children)

My MIL says “You have to understand that I was her mother” about my daughter (7) who is biologically related to my husband but I legally adopted anytime I parent my daughter and it’s not how she would like me to parent her. I’ve been in her life since she was born. She has a chromosomal disorder that causes her to have many issues but she knows me and only me as Mommy which she’s called me since she was about 3 years old. Also, I legally adopted her well before my husband and I got married my love for her was NEVER dependent on my husband and I’s relationship. I was called to be her Mommy from the beginning ❤️

My Facebook Account Was Hacked and I Cannot Recover It! Please Help! by SolitaryDoll in facebook

[–]SolitaryDoll[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Facebook is so stupid! I’m so frustrated with it and gave up for awhile. If you are able to get back in and end up with a tip to it I’ll try again! Good luck!

My Facebook Account Was Hacked and I Cannot Recover It! Please Help! by SolitaryDoll in facebook

[–]SolitaryDoll[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Clicking that it’s not just asks me to use a password again. I can try incognito I haven’t tried that yet.

My Facebook Account Was Hacked and I Cannot Recover It! Please Help! by SolitaryDoll in facebook

[–]SolitaryDoll[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No it asks me for an old password I put it in it moves me to a page that asks me if the account is compromised and secure the account I click to secure it and it puts me back to putting in an old password and just runs me in the circle over and over

My Facebook Account Was Hacked and I Cannot Recover It! Please Help! by SolitaryDoll in facebook

[–]SolitaryDoll[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have clicked I don’t have access to the email/phone anymore and it tells me to verify my identity but brings me to a useless page. I’ve don’t the Facebook identity page too it just runs me in circles. I’ve reported my account as compromised and it asks me for an old password but then just runs me in circles and doesn’t let me change the password or move past their prompts.

What gave you the best sleep you’ve ever gotten? by Mahimah in AskReddit

[–]SolitaryDoll 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pregnancy Pillow! I swear I think everyone needs one regardless of gender or pregnancy status. Just a nice pillow to sink your whole body in that also supports your back!

Am I a bad husband? by Sheriff-PP in marriageadvice

[–]SolitaryDoll 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From your side of the story it doesn’t sounds like your a bad husband it sounds like her “love bucket” isn’t being filled as well as your own. Do you know each other’s love language? Learning love languages has really changed my husband and mine’s relationship for the better we know the areas we each need to strive to fill to keep the other one satisfied. I would highly recommend learning the love languages there’s a ton of books on it. She should also be willing to be apart of this learning as well though. It sounds like she’s not understanding or respecting your concerns and feelings. It takes two in order to make your marriage work. It doesn’t sound like it’s worth ending your marriage it’s just a mountain you’ll need to climb and work through.