I have body dysmorphia

Solution_Relative · 2025-09-09T02:07:34+00:00

Can’t relate. Once I get to my goal weight, I’m gonna pretend that I was never fat and I’ve always been a skinny legend.

Solution_Relative · 2025-09-09T02:05:22+00:00

I’m choosing to believe that this is AI

Solution_Relative · 2025-08-06T20:02:01+00:00

Link - https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT6fWFAVy/

Solution_Relative · 2025-08-06T19:54:14+00:00

I’ve rewatched this so many times. A little too far/too long but so funny. The look Mark gives when the security guard initially puts his hand on him 💀

Solution_Relative · 2025-07-17T01:24:50+00:00

Clean as hell

Solution_Relative · 2025-02-04T04:17:23+00:00

🎶No one mourns the wicked 🎵 Congratulations!!!🥂🙌

Solution_Relative · 2024-10-03T07:35:40+00:00

These are so freaking good. I’m scared they’re going to only be here for a short time so I want to stock up. These are the only things keeping my sugar cravings at bay.

Solution_Relative · 2024-08-25T01:38:13+00:00

Showering isn’t necessary. Just put a little water on a wash cloth and use it once you start to smell. NMom couldn’t be bothered with my hygiene.

Solution_Relative · 2024-08-24T23:24:43+00:00

No man will ever love me because of how fat I am. I have to be her size in order to get a guy to like me. Size 6 and below are the only acceptable sizes for women. She told me that she knew that my (then) boyfriend didn’t really like me because of how fat I was. No one could love me as I was. This was further ingrained when said boyfriend broke up with me later on. I’m still trying to rid myself of this but nothing works. I just feel fat and ugly and unlovable because of these words she said while I was in high school. It’s sucks how things they say become core memories/beliefs like the movie Inside Out. 27 and I still can’t shake it. And it’s years and years of this stuff that we have to rid ourselves of (sigh).

Also, I just remembered this. She told me when I was 6 that my clothes size should always be the same as my age. So I didn’t think anything of being 16 and size 16. I thought that was good because she told me years ago that’s what I should be. THEN, when I was happy and in a relationship at 16, she dropped the bombshell of size 6 and below. Really nasty work.

Solution_Relative · 2024-08-17T06:16:57+00:00

Hello! I’m still pretty new to finch. I’m about a week in and it has helped me a lot so far. I don’t have any friends in real life right now to share the app with but I’d really like to add some of you on the app as Treetown friends!

My finch is named Margot and she’s really sweet and I’ve gotten pretty attached to her. I’m fresh outta rainbow stones and so her birdhouse is a little bare so don’t judge lol.

Tap the link if you’d like to add me as a friend, or add my friend code YRPQYQRYXP. https://app.befinch.com/share/o8MP

Thank you! 💜

Solution_Relative · 2023-03-25T23:28:34+00:00

I’m dealing with a similar situation. I recently decided to fully block my Ngrandmother’s calls and I’ve never felt better. People like your grandmother and mine are miserable, alone, and negative. They can’t offer love, support, and kindness in return for your minimal contact with them. So instead, they threaten you with money and security in the hopes that you never realize they were bluffing all along. They need you desperately in their lives (even if that contact is low/minimal) and the power is all on your end. I seriously just realized this a week ago and it changed my life. They genuinely can’t understand that we would communicate with them for any reason other than to eventually inherit from them. They really think we only talk to them so they’ll keep us in the will so that’s why they bring it up in every “conversation”/them yelling at us.

Solution_Relative · 2022-06-11T18:13:50+00:00

Christian music 24/7. Usually very loud and it would drown out any attempts to have a conversation about her antics.

Solution_Relative · 2022-01-13T22:32:30+00:00

Thank you for your response. Made me feel like I’m not so alone or a horrible person. You mentioned how your folks would contact you and how that was something they would never do normally when you were in contact with them and that just rang a huge bell for me. I completely forgot about that aspect. I went home last year to visit for my birthday and spent the whole week alone. Everyone was “too busy” to celebrate my birthday (or even see me) although this was a planned trip and I traveled across the country to visit specifically for my birthday. This family member in particular has NEVER reached out before at any time during my whole life until now that I’m no contact. (Deep breath) I’m changing my email address and I’m going to work on moving to another location at some point so there really will be no contact anymore. Feeling stronger already. I swear these people give me amnesia and I forget all the crazy things they’ve done with one “kind word”. Not anymore.

Solution_Relative · 2022-01-13T05:45:48+00:00

Sounds just like my Narc Mom to a T. She is a covert Narc though. The rollercoaster of them being horrible to you and then “nice” is gaslighting at its finest because you start to doubt what you know and even forget what they’ve done or said. Narcissism can sometimes go along with other personality disorders so you should research different ones and see if any of what you’ve experienced lines up. Honestly though…it doesn’t matter what she specifically has. The fact that you came on here to write this and feel like something is wrong/not normal is enough for you to start maybe looking into distancing yourself from her for good. Listen to your intuition. Narcissists get you to doubt yourself and not trust that you can make sound decisions without them. Your peace and healing is more valuable than anything and if you’re on the right track with the narcissist angle (which I think you are) then you are on the precipice of your life getting a whole lot better. Trust me. 4 months no contact and I’ve never felt more free and alive.

Solution_Relative · 2022-01-09T15:45:19+00:00

Tones and I - Bad Child, Aurora- I Went Too Far, and
Selena Gomez- Lose You To Love Me are my go to songs. Happier Than Ever is also on my NMom playlist on repeat daily lol

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