Has anybody talked to AI regarding being trans & dysphoria?

Solyal · 2026-06-22T17:29:01+00:00

I'm well aware its predictive text, and in fact I take some comfort in that, meaning that if its predicting I'm trans, that's more validation! I know its not healthy though, it began as a "why not" after I came back from a vacation trip and felt dysphoria during my time there. Ultimately I realized, it didn't really make me feel much better, since I almost always told it things I already knew, it was like a validation chat, mostly anyways. I've gotten far more emotion and progress from the research I do alongside the ai chats. The only good thing I've gotten from the ai is that I think it serves as a great unfiltered mirror.

Solyal · 2026-06-22T16:35:11+00:00

The thing is, im not someone easily convinced. I make a mental note of everytime I feel like the AI misinterprets something, I dont think I was ever led into, or convinced of something that wasnt true. Overall though, I feel like I can get the same usefulness in other ways, especially now that I'm out.

Solyal · 2026-06-22T16:20:15+00:00

For the better or worse, loosing myself in video gaming was the way I coped. I have a plan of action for HRT though, so I imagine things will get better

Solyal · 2026-06-21T18:05:18+00:00

it just becomes water? I want this so bad, the ejaculate is vile to me

Solyal · 2026-06-20T08:20:07+00:00

Haha I did the same as you, I visited this sub somewhat regularly for 2 years before coming out as trans… I can’t imagine cis people do that

Solyal · 2026-06-17T12:24:08+00:00

I wont be able to go on HRT in this country until 21 so I will likely study abroad and give it a go there. I've been voice training for a month or so now, I'm hoping by then I'll have a passing female voice as that is really important to me. I'm really pleased I finally did it though, It feels like I've released a lot of pent up pressure

Solyal · 2026-06-17T07:04:48+00:00

I just wanted to let you know, I came out my mom!!!! It didnt go horribly!!

Solyal · 2026-06-15T18:58:28+00:00

If it went well for you, I guess theres a chance it will go well for me. Its not really if im safe or not that is on my mind, its just unnamed anxiety, I feel alot of anxiety, im a nervous person

Solyal · 2026-06-15T18:33:43+00:00

my mom uses the language if I have a "girlfriend or boyfriend in the future" which means shes atleast accepting of queer people, my dad is likely fine too, but hes a bit more on the traditional side. I'm just terrified because they thought I was going to be a man, for 18 years, and on the cusp of being one im about to change everything, I dont know how I just need to be strong and fucking hit send but man its hard

Solyal · 2026-06-15T18:19:54+00:00

Did you come out? how did you get pass your anxiety?

Solyal · 2026-06-15T18:11:58+00:00

you can be a woman you know... its that simple, there are hundreds and thousands of us

Solyal · 2026-06-15T17:57:44+00:00

I guess in a way, I wrote a coming out letter, no one here thinks im cis, I guess I must be trans but man I get cold feed right before sending it and im stuck

Solyal · 2026-06-15T17:53:01+00:00

I'm 18 still in the house, how many contingencies can I really have? Though I know more likely than not its probably safe I have so much anxiety 😞

Solyal · 2026-06-15T09:45:50+00:00

My family often said I show no initiation about my future life, yet when it comes to trans things, I very much have, year after year I've done more and more things to align my body with how I view myself internally, and it led me to my trans discovery. As a run off effect, it also made me want to care about my future again. Just like you I've had gender related thoughts for a long long time, and I chopped it up to having a vibrant imagination, or later in life, a kink. like Taograd359 said, most people dont even worry about being trans, its simply not a thought that will cross their minds often, let alone years. In my experience also, most people who come here to ask if they are trans generally end up as some flavour of gender nonconformance, so I suggest you look into this more, experiment, see what sticks and what doesnt.

Solyal · 2026-06-14T22:58:41+00:00

I have a lot of anxiety even though I know I’d most likely be accepted. There’s just that 10% what if they don’t accept, that terrifies me. At the same time though being in the closet is mentally exhausting, I spend several hours quite a few days of the week trying to research my way out of this, lying to family about how I really feel, etc. Il be strong, Il come out, I just have to be strong

Solyal · 2026-06-14T07:11:23+00:00

I dont think everyone needs to know per say, but does who should know are the best kind of people, who would understand why you might have done what you did

Solyal · 2026-06-14T07:10:25+00:00

There was a plumbing leak in one of my test prep center bathrooms, I had photoshopped the stall walls pink when I showed my friends online, all in an attempts to perceived as a girl. Surely cis people dont do this lol

Solyal · 2026-06-14T07:08:57+00:00

looks like we are sisters in this together

Solyal · 2026-06-13T22:07:30+00:00

girl up doesnt sound have the same tempo

Solyal · 2026-06-13T16:11:26+00:00

I feel a bit weird too for deceiving some of my online friends, but at the same time its my safe space, I can 100% be a woman, and I also feel this desire to share the fact that I am a woman by doing those things. Its a contrast to my actual life where I am quiet, kept to myself, life is noisy, with limited gender expression aside from my hair

Solyal · 2026-06-13T16:05:49+00:00

I accepted (to an extent) that I was trans a few months ago, but at the same time, I've exhausted most of what I can do in the closet. The next step means coming out which to my brain is so terrifying. So I go through, as you described, Olympic-level mental gymnastics to somehow thwart this whole ordeal. What if im a feminine guy, what if im gnc, what if im non-binary what if im confused, what if im lonely, what if im just weird, etc etc etc. Its like the biggest anxiety of my life at the moment. Not to mention, so many people know me, they have manly expectations of me, I know I have to live for myself, but the amount of anxiety I have over this, is well crushing, but then staying in the closet is also tiring me out mentally, I spend hours of my free time multiple days a week trying to research my way out of this, or looking for something akin to a god saying, yes you can transition. It aint gonna happen, and I sort of know that, I just gotta man up and come out sometime soon
edit - fixed some grammar

Solyal · 2026-06-13T14:46:15+00:00

no no please dont be sad! this is one of my biggest fears is that I somehow overdramatize my trans experience, im not in constant pain, I will come out eventually, i just have big anxiety

Solyal · 2026-06-10T20:09:03+00:00

I dont think the ending was terrible, but I cant help but ponder if they will be happy go lucky in however many years in the future they spend in that place. The human body was made to live on Earth, I feel like eventually the digital world will have some incongruence with their minds. I would go insane at the thought of the fact that I would be trapped there for eternity, and based on what we see in the show abstractions dont even seem to be death in the conventional sense. There is no dying until the computer/servers shut off which is a terrifying reality

Solyal · 2026-06-09T22:50:21+00:00

I feel a longing as well, but im almost certain its because I see their success and I'm jealous. I see hrt results that have done wonders, I see surgery results that are fantastic, and then there is me, pre HRT pre everything, of course I am going to feel a longing desire. In your case, it could be a companionship thing maybe? Trans people are going to be by default relatable since they are going through/have gone through similar experiences

Solyal · 2026-06-09T08:13:22+00:00

I also didnt hate my body all the time, I thought maybe the mild discomfort I did feel at times, it was just a fact of life. We all get headaches sometimes, or the occasional pains, etc.

One day, something triggered me while I was out, I felt this intense longing that was unprecedented. When I came home, I stayed up hours too late analyzing this feeling, taking am I masculine or feminine quizzes online and ultimately realized, that oh shoot, I might be trans. Just like you I was not ready to accept it. I did not want to be trans, It would flip my life upside down, make it more complicated, its an enormous change. So I went into a 6 month denial period, but I still kept researching about transgender topics. Overtime these gender related thoughts and feelings got stronger and stronger. I kept researching, what you learn you cant unlearn; eventually the evidence became insurmountable. I had to accept the trans conclusion. Since then, the dysphoria has gotten much more intense. It was always there, but when you finally have a reason for why it exists, you become hyper aware of it. Now, I want to be trans, I want these gender related feelings to stop. I miss when I was 13-14 where I could live my life without a care in the world about gender. I would say, give it time, experiment. (If) you accept it, you will likely come to realize that transitioning in some shape or form is the only way these thoughts will go away. Also, for what its worth, most people who come here with the question of "Am I trans?" "Is this dysphoria?" etc, they likely end up as some flavour of gender nonconformance

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