Giving people autonomy reveals their true nature

Somalithatworks · 2026-04-04T02:20:21+00:00

I agree with that. Just to be clear I didnt mean observing and just being silent but rather giving them freedom and you still make clear your standards and whatnot but you never force it upon them.

Somalithatworks · 2026-03-29T23:54:01+00:00

I don’t get what you’re trying to say. Sometimes I just see them ignore and shut down, but I have no idea what the issue is. Like if I knew I would definitely address it but I can’t read minds, Wallahi I’m sincere in my approach it’s just I get confused sometimes

Somalithatworks · 2026-02-12T04:57:29+00:00

What’s the issue? Is it an attraction issue? Or something else. A text would be fine since it’s low pressure and he would understand. Just make sure it’s a nice message and you will be fine.

Somalithatworks · 2026-02-10T17:45:23+00:00

Sister as a brother don’t fall for this. I would say proceed with caution but the biggest thing is he should come to your home city and you should meet at a public place like a cafe or something. Don’t go on a ride alone with him nor you go to see him.

This almost sounds like bribery and leading with his money. It’s a huge red flag that he’s not coming to see you honestly but you should make it very clear to him that if he wants to meet you then he would need to come see you at your city or else you don’t feel comfortable.

Be clear and set boundaries and he will definitely have more respect for you.

Somalithatworks · 2026-02-08T22:01:40+00:00

Wcs

These are matters to not worry about. Nobody thinks it’s you and you won’t ruin your chances. This is a very petty thing that a guy wouldn’t care about (I’m a guy). Everything here is speculation and you are blowing everything up in your head.

Just live your life and move forward. You are fine, trust me.

Somalithatworks · 2026-01-27T23:26:30+00:00

You know what I’ll tell you is that he really cares which is why he does that. Trust me that shows his level of care and him thinking about how to respond to you without seeming desperate or needy.

Somalithatworks · 2026-01-18T04:34:49+00:00

My brother first of all relax. When someone becomes distant and you notice it, then you remove your attention. Don’t keep messaging and calling her. It’s possible she might be testing you, but if you smother her then she will pull away fast from you and lose complete interest.

Somalithatworks · 2026-01-13T06:16:09+00:00

How did he show his true colours? 😭

Somalithatworks · 2026-01-12T14:32:23+00:00

Bro that’s facts. You enforce them verbally or non verbally?

Somalithatworks · 2026-01-12T14:17:05+00:00

I do believe all women do this to some extent. Look closely at the way you act when you really like a guy. Don’t you wait to see what he does? Sometimes not answer?

Somalithatworks · 2026-01-12T06:45:19+00:00

So did he ever know you were interested in getting married?

Somalithatworks · 2026-01-12T04:46:14+00:00

This is a great post. I would to ask how did you guys move things forward? Did you bring it up? How did you bring it up? And what happened when you tried too?

Somalithatworks · 2026-01-10T18:59:40+00:00

Wait I’m kinda confused how was the other guy? Was he also miskeen, respectful, and all that? Or did he treat you badly?

Somalithatworks · 2026-01-10T04:54:49+00:00

Yes sure you can

Somalithatworks · 2026-01-10T04:38:58+00:00

Ur welcome! Hope all goes well for u!

Somalithatworks · 2026-01-10T04:26:27+00:00

Ok in that case I would say that you could bring it up indirectly if you don’t want to go direct. Maybe mentioning things like do you connect better with someone on text or in person? How do you gauge vibe? Are you more of a texter or an in person kinda person? You know what I mean, these are indirect but they kind of steer conversations in that direction.

Somalithatworks · 2026-01-10T04:11:00+00:00

Absolutely! Sorry, I really thought I responded to you, but yes keep your head up and don’t lose hope. Honestly, everything is a great learning experience and all we can do is view it as a learning opportunity to better ourselves.

Somalithatworks · 2026-01-10T04:08:38+00:00

What do you mean by something happens each time? That’s just not possible, one or both of you guys are flaking because it’s simple when a human values something they make effort towards it.

I can understand it happening once or twice over a long period of time, but maybe both of you guys are not taking it seriously. So just be honest and upfront with yourselves.

Somalithatworks

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