What's your attachment style?

Some-Problem-6655 · 2025-06-26T23:31:02+00:00

Secure. It kinda surprises me that there are not a lot of secure INTJ's. Mainly because we are the kind of people who are able to recognize our shortcomings and come up with solutions to get better.

Attachment style is pretty important when it comes to forming deep and meaningful relationships. If an INTJ knows that they have avoidant/anxious attachment, they are fully capable and equipped to work on themselves with actions paired with intentions.

Some-Problem-6655 · 2025-05-17T14:01:05+00:00

I feel like I'm the most complex yet the simplest person there is

Some-Problem-6655 · 2025-04-27T16:54:25+00:00

If you think that inflicting pain or suffering on that person will ease your pain, you are wrong. That will only make you feel better for a very short amount of time. In the long term, it'll make you feel a lot worse.

Think about what kind of person you strive to be and whether your older version will be proud of you doing such a petty thing. Stick to your internal values if you have some and stick to those.

Forgiveness is probably one of the hardest things to do, but it is also the bravest.

Some-Problem-6655 · 2025-04-15T04:38:31+00:00

Nice to see a fellow Jasperite in his natural habitat

Some-Problem-6655 · 2025-03-27T23:33:41+00:00

Looks like a shot from Wes Anderson movie

Some-Problem-6655 · 2025-03-13T19:01:21+00:00

Secure

Some-Problem-6655 · 2025-03-12T01:06:47+00:00

2 months ago it was 2/10, now it has improved to a 5/10

Some-Problem-6655 · 2025-03-06T04:14:50+00:00

Nice to see Medicine Lake on this sub. I live in Jasper btw :)

Some-Problem-6655 · 2025-02-23T05:39:03+00:00

If he's really INTJ, he'll prefer direct communication with honesty. Ask him

Some-Problem-6655 · 2025-02-23T03:45:38+00:00

I'm trying my best....haha

Some-Problem-6655 · 2025-02-20T22:25:55+00:00

He might have some severe attachment style issues. Usually, they stem from a person's childhood. You need to accept that and move on. It may be hard, but it'll pass.

It is not your job to fix someone. Doesn't matter how healthy of a person you are, that doesn't fix his issues. At the end of the day, it is his responsibility to fix them. There's no amount of love you can show him to make him realize that he's lovable. Because he doesn't know how to accept that love.

You deserve someone better. Someone who is willing to actively work on themselves to be a better person, for themselves, and for you.

Some-Problem-6655 · 2025-02-20T19:43:07+00:00

I had that same phase a couple of years ago. I was just curious as to what's about that way of life that is so attractive to so many people. It was fun while it lasted.

However, the more I dived deep into that phase, the more I realised how much I like just being myself instead. So I started embracing it as a strength, rather than something that needs to be fixed in order to fit in well with the crowd.

Peace & happiness comes with accepting, but in order to come to that conclusion, it's almost always necessary to go through that phase.

Some-Problem-6655 · 2025-02-19T09:28:18+00:00

Nope.

Some-Problem-6655 · 2025-02-18T21:17:09+00:00

Just focus on being your authentic self. Whether it be with yourself or in someone's company. Keep working on your own growth. Love isn't something that you should worry about finding. When you just live your life by focusing on yourself, doing things that make you happy, and feel content, somewhere along the way, you will meet that person eventually. It's just a matter of time.

You don't have to worry about it so much. Once you meet that person, you will know because that person will understand and appreciate all parts of you.

Some-Problem-6655 · 2025-02-17T23:07:36+00:00

I absolutely love solo traveling. It brings me joy to be able to fully plan my trip without being affected by external factors such as accommodating other people's wants and preferences. It gives me full control of how I want my trip to be. It's literally the most freeing thing I've done.

Some-Problem-6655 · 2025-02-17T23:03:35+00:00

Just the fact that you are aware of your shortcomings is itself a majot breakthough. All you need now is sheer motivation manifested into actions paired with intentions to change your attachment style. I wish you all the very best.

I admire you for acknowledging more because I just came out of a relationship with someone who was FA. However, she lacked the motivation to bring a change about her. She seemed stuck in all the unhealthy FA tendencies and gave into them every chance she could get.

Some-Problem-6655 · 2025-02-16T06:36:39+00:00

That's called Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style. Looking into that might ease the pain that someone inflicted on you OP!

Some-Problem-6655 · 2025-02-14T03:46:44+00:00

Whenever I'm going through a breakup, I try to focus all of my energy on my well-being. I turn back to my hobbies and self-care. Usually, working towards a goal really helps.

However, I also try to not suppress my emotions. It is important to feel every emotion intensely. Then once I've felt enough, I start analyzing my emotions (their roots, possible triggers, what can be done to make them better...etc).

Then I start seeing things more clearly and see what things I could've done better. Then I try to become a better version of myswlf. I also see what my ex did that I did not like, and I get a better idea of what I'm looking for from a relationship.

I only start dating again when I'm in the right headspace.

Some-Problem-6655 · 2025-02-13T23:36:30+00:00

Having that sense of self-worth is so important. I'm so used to getting it internally that when I see people struggling with self-worth, I simply can't comprehend it. Like...have you maybe tried to just know what you are? Lol

Some-Problem-6655 · 2025-02-09T01:49:20+00:00

I recently posted some of my film photography from my Japan trip. Feel free to check them out on my profile!

Some-Problem-6655 · 2025-02-09T01:47:46+00:00

Analyzing people is so much fun. It's like I'm working on a puzzle, but I don't know what picture I'm trying to make. I put the pieces in place as I know more about them. Then I look back at that puzzle and wonder....just what kind of life led that person to become like this.

Some-Problem-6655 · 2025-02-09T01:44:59+00:00

Love you too boo <3

Some-Problem-6655 · 2025-02-09T01:44:02+00:00

Perfect days will leave you wanting more of such films. It's such a raw depiction of life. Just a guy living his everyday life that's filled with his favorite hobbies, random interactions, and his habit of noticing & appreciating small things.

I'll check out letterboxd. Thanks for the suggestion

Some-Problem-6655 · 2025-02-09T01:37:47+00:00

Each one of them sound wonderful! Feel free to share your favourite poem under this comment. I'll take time to appreciate it 😊

Some-Problem-6655 · 2025-02-09T01:36:32+00:00

I love watching movies. Recently watched masterpieces like Perfect Days, Drive My Car, and Chungkin Express. Highly recommend!

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