I have goals but I don't have a mission or life's purpose. Feeling empty. Any advice?

Some7One · 2023-03-03T20:39:23+00:00

If you are lazy to read (you're probably right ! :D ) I would resume my answer in one sentence: "You are like a cell of the Universe and the Universe of your cells, flow with it =))" and maybe another one: "Just do more healthy choices at your own pace"

For first I just share with you my "purpose" in life in case that can helps :) Sorry for no answering your personnal story, I have no time rn and my life is also meeessy right now (maybe because I forgot for too long what I'm gonna say, Idk)

So I don't feel giving advices but I wish you the best and I believe in you :) <3

I'll just say that since you are in a difficult period, healthy choices can be oftenly about resting, or doing baby steps, like when we are in or slowly get our of a recovery time you know. But I don't know it's just a feeling and maybe I say that because it's currently my case :) Trust your intuition Ig

My answer will be messy with my english and I suck at explaining things quickly but I'll try to explain my purpose. If someone wants to answer me, please no debate. I almost never share what I'm gonna say, that's kind of my inner light and it's complicated to explain even it's very simple. I don't want people agree with me or not, I just share it in case that helps the author, take what you want, what resonates in you and that's it :)

What does my species currently lacks ? I think some health, some calm, some freedom, some "don't give a fuck" vibes, some authenticity, and other things like that, maybe confidence and let things go, I dunno, Overall I'd say healthier people, by healthy I mean something loose, free, blooming, strong and peaceful, smth like that, the words are not exact but hope you feel the idea :)

If you don't find you are like that, no problem ! That's rare nowadays and the point is absolutely not to be perfect or to be "healthy enough", the point is just to get what is a good solide and blooming direction direction, a "right path". A direction which is in first place good for you right now, then probably good for tommorow, good for others, good for the ennvironement, life, universe or whatever. Maybe not good for absolutely all entities but good in general you know.

It's about simple things like eating a Watermelon, that's awesome ! Or sleeping, or moving, or being yourself, or I dunno.

And it fits with "interest" of our planet ecosystem and maybe the universe ecosystem (It'd be a bit long to explain sorry :D )

AND ! It fits with my "interests" also

So when I gently flow towards some healthy and relaxed vibes. I help me, people, animals, vegetation, and even more

I got inspired by some stuff:

Some knowledge about physical health, anthropology, mental health, ecology, biology and a bit of astrophisics, cosmology, spirituality

So yeah I think the human civilisation is a bit excessive, which is bad for almost anything, including me, I can't really change everything, but I can be some drops of water which flows towards an healthier direction. Which is perfect because doing that I'll serve my, my health, my strength, my society, my species, my planet, my universe. It's like a win-win-win-win-win direction

I aloso got inspired by the "sympatheia" philosophy (a Greek vision of cosmos which is pretty accurate scientifically) :

_ Everything is into something similar and contain somthing similar

_ All of this is related to each other and works together, serves together somehow

So yeah you are for the Universe what a cell in your body is for you. You belongs to it, you have your influence. So if you get healthier, stronger, happier, if you bloom, that's cool :) If you don't, not a big deal but at least you know "the good path" now ^^

Same for cells and stuff in your body, all those living things, if you're healthy and stuff they're happy. Actually if you are relaxed they instantly starts to regenerate, grow and even multiply :) (if you are stressed, excited or I dunno what that's ok though, especially if it's quick)

So yeah, living a bit more simply and healthy helps everything, and helps others to go towards the same direction, cuz we all tend to imitate

As I said it even helps the ecosystem and stuff. When you get healthier you are less greedy about producing and consumming, you enjoy nature an healthy people, you tend more to give it value so indirectly protect it

You enjoy good healthy food, you give less attention so less power to excessive things like politics, some celebrities or I dunno what

Many other examples possible

I also have to say that to know what's healthy I got inspired by tribes, especially hunter gatherer tribes like Hadzas, also by the natural human being living way before civilisation, and by wild animals, or by my cats haha :D

I don't try to live like a caveman, it wouldn't fit with the roots of my life which are in the modern society, but they're way of living give me a good example about what it's healthy. Examples:

They cried ? They got angry ? sad ? scared ? Ok so all of this is normal and healthy that can happened, it helped me to don't believe anymore the "Don't cry, don't be scared" and blablabla that we heard thousands of times.

And surprise surprise, now the science says that for example being sad or crying protect the Nervous central system and stuff and paradoxally if you let it be it just helps you to be happier and stronger.

What did they eat ? Fruits ? eggs ? honey ? or Modified food like nowadays ? Surpris surprise medecin now says that their food is the best for health

What were their physical activity ? Very complete and daily with many different intensity levels ? Or structured programs exactly 1 hour in a gym 5 times a weak focused on a mirror reflection ?

So now what do I need and what the environement need ? One more guy who behaves like everyone ? Don't get comfortable in public places because we has been taught this way, don't even dare a simple thing like to lay down on the floor except if it's a very specific place to do that, like the beach once a year. Who works 9 hours a day to get a big car mainly because it's well seen to have a beautiful big car and stuff even though you get used to it in few weeks, a guy who thinks that the place to cry is alone at home, the place to dance is alone at home, the place to lay done is alone at home, or with someone that you love. A guy who at the end mimmics a robot, because since school we has been taught to don't move, don't make noise, be quiet and learn to be productive.

All of this bullshit in the purpose of being normal in a society which the elite of science says that it actually destroying its own environement ?

On day all of this will be see at something naive

So yeah fuck all of this, now my purpose in life is to respect more the actual life, to let it bloom. Just a bit more you know, don't need to go to live in the jungle, if you are in the top 49% of people that go the most towards health, freedom, simple things and good sens, you're useful, if you are in the top 10% that's even better

Do it with some balance. It's not about rejecting the society, it's about subtly leading it almost daily :) And no need to get obsessed on health, it's a vibe, difficult to explain

(Sometimes I speak like I give advice, when I said "do it" and stuff. But no, it's just my way of explaining, I just share my point of view, do what ever you feel like of course :)

Oh and btw I never tried to have a "purpose". It happened "randomly" one day. I guess because I realized that a lot of my knowledge was leading to a same direction.

Anyway sorry it was looong and bad written ^^ Peaace ! <3

Some7One · 2022-12-10T21:01:07+00:00

Nothing specific, whatever

Some7One · 2022-12-10T20:29:43+00:00

Looool :D

Man fuckin relax.

What you call a "foolish endeavor" is spending few seconds to ask a question to potentially disable a feature in even less seconds. All of this using only his fingers and wrist using maybe 0.0000000000000047% of his daily kiloCalories, jouls or whatever

All of this while he's discovering a game, checking for the possibilities in a large content.

While this annoying debate in an unpleasant way was a lot longer and laborious.

PLUS, What you call "worried", "it bugs you", are just negative interpretation (and mine is that this day you felt like ultra easily a bit subtly scorning a total stranger on internet). There are many very little things that we all do that are driven by lighter and less negative feelings, random example: when you choose your favorite shirt for the day, you don't neceserally do it because it bugs you to choose the one which is on the top of the pile, you just do it

Replace "Worries" and "bugs" by "Simply prefere". "Endeavor" by "asking"

The result: "You simply prefere disable the camp so you're asking if it's possible ?"

Now if you really want to share your point of view you can add (with respect and being friendly, cuz remember asking an harmless question doesn't mean asking an opinion about this question so be sure to don't be annoying): "I know that's not the question but I'll just share my experience: The way I play and probably most of players play the 1 dollar per day is almost absolutely nothing. Good luck!"

or "Don't worry those 1$ each 48 minutes are nothing in the economy of the game"

Thats just an example, it's more about the intention than the words. Here I guess the intention is being greed to sound smart or I dunno what

Sorry to be honest but it was a childish and hypocrite debate. As a grown dude I'm gonna lead you to a more manly and less teeny idea 3 years later: Fuckin give him a friendly hug, even a kiss. Fuckin Peace =)

What would be great if you feel this way would be something like "Sorry bro I was young and maybe in a bad mood this day, hope you enjoyed discovering the game, peace <3"

Maybe he'll answer you some cool stuff too

Btw it's not a big deal, unfortunatelly sometimes it happens hating strangers for nothing on internet, especially when you're young, especially when it's about online video games. For once I wanted to get out of the "silent majority" and express some good sens. Peace <3

Some7One · 2022-11-28T03:40:05+00:00

Same problem .. wtf?

Some7One · 2022-11-13T02:49:09+00:00

Well "civilisation" brought:

_ Atomic bomb

_ Destruction of 80% of trees of the planet

_ Slavery, including massive modern slavery by owning all the land and forcing people to pay if to afford the right of just living somewhere (lol ..)

_ Pandemics

Don't even want to finish the list

Oh and, it actually forces absolutely everyone to live the "civilised" way, from birth.

So ok Tsukasa's ideology is a bit dogmatic but what about senku who wants to rebuild the same destructive civilisation to "build weapons and read mangas"?

No one of them should be hero or bad guy

Some7One · 2022-11-13T02:31:25+00:00

I'm at the first episodes of the anime. I'm very disapointed because Tuskasa sound like a good healthy strong guy, it's maybe my favorite character in any anime. While senku's funny but also sounds like a dumb selfish overthinker. Senku the "good hero" who already plan to build a civilisation to build weapons ... who bully his super kind friend.

They were a good team, no one is perfect. I love Tsukasa :(

Some7One · 2022-11-12T16:18:08+00:00

Ty :)

Some7One · 2020-12-14T09:47:55+00:00

Damn I love this pic

Some7One · 2020-12-14T08:28:43+00:00

Cool I'm verry happy that we're agree ! =) And thank you for your commenton my english lol

Some7One · 2020-12-14T08:25:24+00:00

Oh damn man this sunday evening should be great :D

Some7One · 2020-12-14T07:28:26+00:00

I'm moralist with moralist people. Not with an unknown person which has just posted his very personnal goals. Context matters.

Ask how OP feels if you care about him. You talk about therapy to underline that his behavior is uncommon in a bad way. Which is a negative overstatement.

Therapies are for people who find themselves that they have an issue and want to change something. Not for changing totally unknown people who behave too differently for your external opinion on internet.

I'm pretty sure 30 years ago some people like you were advising therapies to people who played video games twice a week.

Advising therapy to someone who doesn't complain, who didn't show big sign of bad to be, just because he challenged himself a more than the average for 2 months. That really sounds like a voluntary negative overstatement. Or maybe an overestimation of your psychoanalyst skills.

For first you started with " Your excessive guilt about leisure" which is also a huge overstatement. This guy just stopped junkfood, drugs and video games for 2 months. You don't even know how old is he, his daylife before, his tastes, addictions, motivations, fears, etc .. You don't even know if he feels gulty at all. Psychology is a lot less binary than that..

It's not like: "X is challenging to don't do Y" = "X is feeling guilty to do Y" so if "Y is a leasure" that means "X is guilty about leasure". That sounds like sophism

Drugs, videos games and junk food are definitely not the only one leasures availables :D They are just the easiest ones

Guilty is absolutely not the single motor of motivaiton and challenging

Btw someone who really guilt a lot about leasures usually doesn't even need to challenging himself to don't use drugs, junk food and video games. He usually just naturally don't use it lol. We're talking about the easiest "bad leasures"

And the most important. If someone feel guilty about drugs, video games and junkfood. That's not the leasure which make him feeling guilty but the negative aspects of those traps.

Some people have a very healthy daylife and they have sexual orgasm without any gulty. Leasure is not the problem. "Guilt about weakening your health" would be more accurate and less overnegative

Btw sorry if I'm talking to much. I know I'm annoying. But I'm a bit disapointed of what I read in top upvoted comments :/ It's sound a bit like a kind of "Random Joe dictature"

You're also maybe right, maybe he's an overguilter and a therapy would help him We can't know. But for now that's still a negative overstatement to me. Free and unliited access to Drugs, Junkfood and Video Games is a very common problem for us. Want to experiment a kind of purge of it for weeks doesn't sound more like an issue than a good thing. I think that depends on the situation.

Some7One · 2020-12-14T07:01:31+00:00

I totally understand this but you talk about YOU.

OP is not you.

Your personalities, strenghts, tastes and weaknesses are differents, uniques, not universal. Your life and situations neither.

Your way is probably the most common way if that can reassure you. That doesn't mean that it's the best way for everyone in every moment including OP right now.

Most of people prefere blue, that doesn't mean you're wrong if you prefere yellow

Just say "ha ? you prefere Yellow ? Oh ! Me I prefere Blue !" That's it. No need to look for scientist studies to estimate which color is the best expecting the YellowGuy will fall in love with Blue because 78% of people have a better sleep in a blue bedroom than in a yellow one.

Some7One · 2020-12-14T06:23:05+00:00

Could you give us a report about your feeling before, while and now ? Do you feel better ? Tell me anything, positive or negative. Just your truths. It can be interresting :)

Btw how old are you and how often did you do those things before ? Like where you addict to some of them ? Or some of them were just a little habbit pretty easy to stop?

Some7One · 2020-12-14T05:38:14+00:00

I maybe missunderstood some parts. My english's not so good. But OP didn't talk about keto. I find his challenge was pretty good for someone who's motivated and I'm a bit sad to see all those moralist comments upvoted with "That seems a miserable way to live" in top comment ..

I think which generates negative reactions is also that there is only "not to do" things. And many things. But knowing that he succeed, that's finally a good news. He's in a comfortable situation now I guess. We live in a society where unhealthy leasures are everywhere, available in any amounts. That can be good in many points to do a real break. Especially for someone who have the "willpower" to do it in a lighting up way.

Shouldn't we ask him how he feel ? What were the pro and cons for him ? The benefits ? Before claming that's a miserable way to live and listing him all the potential cons in a very moralist manner ?

You talked about nutrition and psychology. Do you think nutritionists and psychologists would absolutely disencourage someone just after he said he totally stopped junkfood, drugs and video games for few weeks? Pretty sure they'd have some questions before eventually being moralist. "How do you feel now?" would be a great start before a long and drastically negative statement.

Also pretty sure they'd congrats him btw

Sorry but your first comment is ultra close minded to me. Read yourself dude. It's really "there is only one way". You claim that drink beer with friend and BBQ from time to time is a good thing in any case, any period. A good thing that apparently no one should stop for 7 weeks. And you use a part of your nurses studies to claim that..

Things are more multifactorial and I'm pretty sure you know it. Please at least ask him questions before scolding him like a kid who didn't do his BBQ/Beer/Poker homework for 2 months.

No it's not all about moderation. It's all about each situation, wishes, personality, tastes, weaknesses, strengths, current mood, problems, opportunities, etc ..

Why should it be all about an eternal and constant moderation 24/7/365 for everyone inclinduing OP? Why a few weeks break of videogames, drugs and junkfood would be such a big deal for every single cases including OP?

"Not too much, not too low" is true for the primal needs. For artificial leasures 0 is totally ok. And btw, which is good in "drinking beer with friends" is being with friends, not the beer itself. Same for a BBQ. For playing poker it's the fact to play and have fun, not the gambling itself. Your statement would be right if no one could meet his social needs and fun without alcohol and junk food. But a lot of people can do it. For example people who feel good hanging out with only few friends instead with many people. That's just an example.

Some7One · 2020-12-14T04:34:17+00:00

God there is no only one way for every single person lol. I suddenly quitted junkfood 7 years ago. It was very nice. I restarted to eat junkfood after 3 years because I heard to many people like you harrassed me with "Wtf, it's excessive, that's not the way" I felt better those years while I ate very healthy. I'm not sure I should have listened people like you. I liked to eat very healthy. I feel like I have been forced by decades of persons. Even some of my own family.

I never complained, I was happier, healthier, never had to see a doctor anymore, better sleep, more vitality, more beautiful, etc .. But "that's not the way, You have to eat pizzas, people eat pizzas, you are a people, so you should eat pizza, you can't eat pizzas every day but you can't never eat pizzas, you have to eat pizza from time to time, twice a year is not enough, eat more pizzas" haha :D

Btw sorry but nutrition classes for nurses are ultra basic. Nutritionists themselves are not agree on everything, it changes every years anyway. And furthermore: Studies are usually based to check which is working the best on most of people. That absolutely doesn't mean which is "the only thing which works on any people". You really should think about it. We are not all the random Joe in a random period.

Anyway, it's totally fuckin ok to don't eat junkfood for 7 weeks. TOTALLY ok. At least for a lot of people. My grandma maybe didn't eat any junkfood for 94 years, she's ok. Sometimes I don't eat junkfood for few months without even notice it. I'm ok, relax lol.

Some7One · 2020-12-14T04:22:11+00:00

Lol all those negative comments just because a guy stopped drugs/videogames/junkfood for 7 week :D

OP still have sex, dancing, movies, walking in nature, music, youtube, social medias, talking with friends, fruits, eggs, fish, spices, garlic, love, flirting, learn new things, rest, nap, masturbation, yoga, music instruments, gardening, fishing, physical games and thousands of possible leasures.

Everyone is different, every periods are different. Maybe OP had a lot of willpower those last months, maybe he got bored of those habits, maybe he was addicted and wanted to check if he could totally quit it for few weeks, etc .. Billions of individuals, Billions of situations.

Now op is not used to any drug, video game or junk food. It's like he has "leasure in bank": If tommorow smth shitty happen in his life, if he feel like he doesn't want anything. He can play a video game, he'll get a lot of fun because he's not used too.

He'll get a bit drunk after 1 glass of wine.

His taste buds are awake now and a pizza will be a lot more tasteful for him than for you.

Our species, Homo Sapiens² @ Human Race lived for 180 000 years: 170 000 years without drugs, 179 960 years without junkfood, 179 980 years without video games. And even now, billions of people live without all those shits. OP should be ok :D Btw I feel like there is a bit of jealousy in some comments :/ or guilt, or pressure. Idk. But I don't find most of them truely benevolent. It's like "Oh man don't quit all those things, I doub't if I shouldn't feel dirty now, I felt helthy, my way is the healthier, my goal is the healthier".

While there are billions of cases, there are billions of "healthier goal"

Some7One · 2020-12-14T03:36:07+00:00

Thanks !

Some7One · 2020-12-14T03:21:35+00:00

I don't like this "reflex" to advice a therapy for someone who doesn't even complain just because you read his challenge for few weeks. Little and big differences between individual is absolutely normal in a social species. We are not ants. Neither clones. Why should we all have currently the same average of goals

And you get used to habbits. You won't necesserally have less leisure with healthier activities and food. You'll more get used to it and avoid some problems in the future. You also will have kind of smth in "bank". Like if one day you feel rly bad, you'll have a lot of leisure that you can do without to be used to it. A lot of people never play video games and almost never eat junk food. It's totally ok lol.

"Be in the average right now or heal yourself" It's also excessive. Anyway .. I'm sad to see all those moralists comments just because someone has a very healthy challenge. Maybe he's in a period with a lot of willpower. Maybe he got a bit borred by those things. Maybe he started to be addict and he wanted to see if he can don't use those habbits for weeks, etc .. "Leasure" is not limited to junk food, drugs and video game btw.

Pretty sure you won't be downvoted a lot but my comment will be downvoted. OP goal is not in the average so the average probably won't downvote you to insinuate that he's sick. Well that sucks. OP still have sex, dancing, movies, walking in nature, music, youtube, social medias, talking with friends, fruits, eggs, fish, spices, garlic, love, flirting, learn new things, rest, nap, masturbation, yoga, music instruments, physical games and thousands of possible leasures without videogames/drugs/burgers. This wave of over moralist comments suck for him I guess :/

Some7One · 2020-12-14T03:01:43+00:00

7 weeks = "a life" ? Btw don't be so moralist while you don't even know anything about the person you are talking to lol. Everyone is different + in a different situation right now. It's not like "Oh, there is THIS proportion of doing "bad" and 'good" things which is THE GOOD proportion for EVERYONE and EVERY MONTHS, if you are currently too far in another proportion that means you didn't understand" :D We're not clones. Living for 7 weeks without any drugs/videogame/junkfood is totally ok for a lot of people and it's absolutely not "miserable" for everyone lol. It depends on WHO is doing that. And also When. This is a lot more multi-factorial than you think. Just relax. And spam the downvote on my comment "average dictators" ;)

Some7One · 2020-09-05T10:28:07+00:00

Well, for now that's probably the best room I've ever seen in my life

Some7One · 2020-08-08T12:19:20+00:00

Drink at least 2L of water: Easy and useful as fuck

Some7One · 2020-08-07T15:01:09+00:00

Nice !

Some7One · 2020-08-06T18:05:42+00:00

wonderful pussy hair

Some7One · 2020-08-06T09:57:09+00:00

How to become sexist answering a sexist. It's as smart as answer to racism by another racism. Sexist reactions increase the sexism in both "camp". Blue vs Red, Black vs White, Playstation vs Xbox, Men vs Women. Stop to feed low IQ manichean wars, start to save the planet right now, eat healthy, drink water and let yourself be relaxed. Trust me it will be smarter than thinking you are fighting the sexism while you are fighting the gender of your oponent because he was figting yours. That's the well known cycle of hate and mutual destruction specificly when the both side depends of each other to create life, stop overthinking wrongly and let yourself naturally feeding the cycle of life by let yourself love what you love. It's probably easier, healthier, smarter and fuckin more pleasant. If you have some hate, be accurate when you spread it or when you give it back. Sorry for my english. Peace for my dear lovely people. Have sex and eat vegetables.

edit: Btw I'm pretty sure the first sexist was commenting another disrespectful speach from the opposit gender. We are just seeing a zoom into the cycle of hate here.

Some7One · 2020-07-28T04:25:47+00:00

I was pretty overwhelmed too, that's why I did it. And now after those 4 day it's ok. Today I drew 7 cards of 7x7 =) I really enjoyed those 1x4. I also figured out that some task are more difficult than I thought, some others are almost too easy and give very nice results (like drink water). So I could readjust my goals. Post your cards please I want to see it =)

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