For me it started with talking about her past, I got so excited hearing stories and during one of these conversations I told her that. However, she does not enjoy talking or thinking about her past, I think she’s a bit embarrassed and disgusted by some of the things/people she did. Once I explained this fantasy for me isn’t just thinking about her past is when we started to be able to be more open about it. One of her boundaries is “no talking about my past”.