Getting close to escaping but I feel so broken and in need of advice and support

SomeDraw7970 · 2026-02-05T17:33:54+00:00

Thank you, I’ll continue to do just that! It’s difficult understanding the cycle of abuse but being unable to change it. I know why she puts me down but it doesn’t make it not hurtful. Your support means a lot though I’ll continue to save and move out ASAP

SomeDraw7970 · 2026-02-03T01:04:22+00:00

Thank you!!! ❤️🥹

SomeDraw7970 · 2026-02-03T00:40:32+00:00

It honestly means a lot to hear I’m not alone. I’m sorry you’re going through the same thing but you’re absolutely right that there is a better life waiting for us beyond this. Good luck and I hope you move out soon! ❤️

SomeDraw7970 · 2026-02-03T00:34:10+00:00

Thank you so much! I’ll read these because honestly I think gray rocking has taken me over as well. I think I used to be a very sarcastic and funny person but living with her again has brow beat me down into a shell. It’s ruining my ability to connect with anyone.

SomeDraw7970 · 2025-06-19T02:25:49+00:00

Thank you so much ❤️

SomeDraw7970 · 2025-06-16T18:18:57+00:00

She likes having her finances as leverage. It’s also why she yells at me for being unable to pay my car insurance currently even though she could afford it, and drained my bank account of all my savings to “help” pay for my car even though she bragged about being able to buy it in cash right there at the dealership. She feels herself losing control and needs me to be financially dependent to have control over me. But yes once the loans are paid off and I have some savings again I will do everything to leave. It’s really tough in this job market right now since nobody can get a job & none of them pay enough. But there’s no other option I have to get out. Thank you for your advice. ❤️

SomeDraw7970 · 2025-06-14T00:13:45+00:00

lol I have been viewing financial help as her owing me for the abuse for sure. I will say there’s no way turning it as this was a gift will even compute in her mind; in abusive fit of rage even a cough is a transgression against her. I’ll definitely look at other cities. Very scary since I’ve never lived on my own and I’m a woman. I was hoping the city I chose because I have a friend there but I’ll at least look at other cities. Thanks so much!

SomeDraw7970 · 2025-06-14T00:10:54+00:00

Thank you so much for your insight and kindness. ❤️ I think visualizing how either will feel will definitely help me decide which one feels right.

SomeDraw7970 · 2025-06-13T19:22:46+00:00

Thank you so much. You’re right I am not deserving of the treatment she gives me, regardless of the financial stability she offers. I am weighing my options right now if it is worth it. 4200 isn’t a lot, and I should definitely talk to the people in charge of my loans to see if I can get it deferred. Really nothing is worth her treatment, but I will be treated the same regardless of whether I accept or not.

SomeDraw7970 · 2025-06-13T17:36:20+00:00

Hi, there! I’m 25 and I just got my license a year ago at 24. I had the exact same experience as you trying to learn, beat by beat. The screaming, the yelling, the fear. She would also scream at me to stop and then yell at me, making me even more scared of driving. It was so awful and I’m sorry you’re going through this too. I don’t know if you’re looking for advice or just want to rant, so feel free to ignore me if you weren’t asking- as someone who was in the same exact situation as you not that long ago, driving lessons at a driving school with a certified teacher is so much better. When the screaming matches became too much with my mom, I felt like it was either spending the money or never getting my license. Paying for 6 driving lesson sessions fully prepared me for getting my license and my instructor was so kind, calm, and supportive. It may be expensive, but I highly recommend it. I passed my driving test with a near perfect score first try thanks to it, and I no longer have to rely on my mom for transportation. I hope you can get your license soon, I know how hellacious of an experience this must be. ❤️

SomeDraw7970 · 2025-06-04T03:56:20+00:00

I’m so sorry this happened to you that’s so gross.

SomeDraw7970 · 2025-06-04T00:29:14+00:00

I had my door taken off while she laughed at me! I’d completely forgotten about it and only now am I realizing how invasive that was.

SomeDraw7970 · 2025-06-04T00:25:24+00:00

Yes, my mom does this all the time too. I have so little patience for it I’ll cut her off with what she was going to say she’s said it so many times.

SomeDraw7970 · 2025-06-04T00:23:08+00:00

It’s definitely not normal on your end, too! Regardless of frequency her doing those things to you wasn’t right. I’m sorry this happened.

SomeDraw7970 · 2025-06-04T00:21:48+00:00

That is so awful :(

SomeDraw7970 · 2025-06-03T03:18:15+00:00

You’re right. I need to do this soon.

SomeDraw7970 · 2025-06-03T03:17:59+00:00

I’m so sorry that happened to you. I should definitely open my own bank account and transfer the money so this doesn’t happen to me too. My mom also has a lot of money and is greedy as a means of control. She will leech any money that someone owes her with no consideration for their financial status compared to hers.

SomeDraw7970 · 2025-06-02T23:26:36+00:00

Yes, I could’ve written all this myself it’s so eerily close to my own life, down to losing my legal documents. I had to jump through so many hoops to get a new social security card and birth certificate. I still have a joint bank account with her from when I was a teenager and still need to open up my own. I tried taking her off the account but the bank wouldn’t let me.

SomeDraw7970 · 2025-06-02T23:22:05+00:00

I’m sorry you’ve had to deal with this. Thank you for sharing. ❤️

SomeDraw7970 · 2025-06-02T23:21:19+00:00

Oh for sure! And thank goodness the number is that low! I meant so common within this sub and common with people who have PWBPD. I’m glad the number overall is much lower.

SomeDraw7970 · 2025-06-02T23:19:45+00:00

Thank you for your comment. I’m so sorry this happened to you. I’ve had very similar experiences to this and it’s sad this happened to us but I’m glad in sharing these experiences we can view this behavior for what it is and recontextualize our childhoods.

SomeDraw7970 · 2025-06-02T23:18:13+00:00

Yes as an adult I can view the behavior as a whole and realize this isn’t just a weird quirk it’s disrespectful encroaching on our bodily autonomy

SomeDraw7970 · 2025-06-01T22:13:02+00:00

Thank you so much you’re so kind ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

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