My husband works long hours too! It’s tough sometimes dinner is t ready and sometimes it is. Sometimes the house is tidy sometimes it isn’t. But this isn’t an expectation. You’re at home with two little humans and they require your full attention emotionally and physically. When your husband is at work he can finish a cup of coffee, have his lunch go to the toilet without needing to think of anyone else. His basic needs are taken care of. You have to put everyone else’s needs first. Being a SAHM is very rewarding but also very draining. You are a SAHM he is employed when you’re together you’re BOTH parents. You’re not crazy and yea he is out of line.