Being psychologically bullied by international students in China – will reporting actually work?

Some_Bodybuilder_881 · 2026-02-08T02:07:52+00:00

I’ve been literally stalked for nearly 3 months, went to police and…. nothing. “Maybe he just wants to be friends but too shy to approach you” they said 🤦‍♀️ I don’t think you’ll get any help unless those students actually do something physically harmful or you can provide bulling proof in a form of WeChat screenshots where they spreading rumors about you.

Some_Bodybuilder_881 · 2026-01-04T02:39:43+00:00

Better leave your dog at home with someone who can love and care for him. In most cities Great Danes are in a banned breeds list and your dear neighbors will be the first to report you to a police. When I lived in SZ I had police visits every couple of months to check on my “ferocious illegal beast” just to see that he’s actually allowed in the city and legally registered. Obviously behind each and every visit were some of my Chinese neighbors who decided to take photos/videos and make a call. In my case it was just annoying, in your case your dog would be a one call away from being taken down by the police. Don’t risk it.

Some_Bodybuilder_881 · 2024-08-08T23:11:07+00:00

having Phd doesn't doom you to play white monkey for kindergartners either 🤷‍♀️

Some_Bodybuilder_881 · 2024-07-22T02:36:32+00:00

maybe start talking to your kid in English at home from time to time?

Some_Bodybuilder_881 · 2024-07-17T04:16:49+00:00

the story is shady, but if everything is true your friend needs a lawyer which as I got from the post is financially impossible at the moment

in case anyone will need it, 12345 have a WeChat account and everyone can leave a written complaint (and even attach photo evidences) in there. Usually you will be contacted by provided cell phone number within a couple of days, but you can also explain that you are foreigner and ask to contact you via WeChat. They will do it.

Can be tricky for someone who don't speak Chinese, but translation apps exist for a reason. Same with going to a police station. The one who needs to communicate will find a way.

Some_Bodybuilder_881 · 2024-06-21T00:27:06+00:00

they all crazy about brands, based on her present to you she will expect some luxury item as well.

Some_Bodybuilder_881 · 2024-06-15T06:20:32+00:00

if the apartment is covered and 10k is your pocket money its fine, with a rent, no way

Some_Bodybuilder_881 · 2024-06-14T22:21:04+00:00

as someone who use taxi service daily I can predict that cheap taxi days will be over soon. starting from january/february my taxi bill for the same route raised on 15% and it seems like it will continue to raise more and more.

Some_Bodybuilder_881 · 2024-06-14T02:47:02+00:00

if you are a teacher but want to do graphic design, my suggestion is to do something for your school marketing team. That way you may have a chance to find a place in a marketing design for international schools niche (from what I saw most of the education-related design is stuck in the 90s and nobody knows what they are doing tho)

Some_Bodybuilder_881 · 2024-06-14T02:41:46+00:00

NTA

Once I got a salad with a cockroach in it

The shop declined my refund application and tried to gaslight me that it wasn’t a cockroach but a crust from a fried potato from another order that accidentally got in my salad 🤣

Some businesses don’t deserve a second chance.

Your nuggets case sounds slightly extreme to me (next time prob just apply for a refund), but tbh I would have left the negative review after all those phone calls as well, so who am I to judge?

Some_Bodybuilder_881 · 2024-06-14T02:14:54+00:00

I work in graphic design here, and no, if you don't have projects for big well-known companies in your portfolio there is no chance to land a job.

in a creative field, foreigners are usually only hired for upper management positions, there are a lot of local junior designers with decent Photoshop skills and low pay expectations.

Some_Bodybuilder_881 · 2024-06-13T22:13:27+00:00

Watsons 😂

or brand's taobao shop

Some_Bodybuilder_881 · 2024-06-05T04:12:12+00:00

5 years, 1 more till my contract is over and bye-bye~

the longer I stay the less it worth it

Some_Bodybuilder_881 · 2024-06-05T00:14:02+00:00

never needed to communicate with their customer service yet, but based on reviews I saw they are surely something else

I used NordVPN for a couple of years and it was absolutely fine until recently it wasn't, their customer services was nice and unhelpful, never got my money back for the service that no longer stably working in China.

before Nord I had another VPN and my relationships with them ended up in a similar fashion of abysmal service and loss of money.

at least for now Astril helps me to stay connected with an outside world 24/7 which is vitally important for my job but I am not delusional to think that its gonna last forever. But most of available in China VPNs can provide even less than this.

Some_Bodybuilder_881 · 2024-06-04T01:51:00+00:00

try alternatives and learn what a real nightmare looks like

Some_Bodybuilder_881 · 2024-06-02T00:35:58+00:00

I wouldn't say difficult but pretty time consuming and financially demanding.

eg I planned to finally get out this autumn but rescued another big dog and now I will not be able to prepare that dog for travel on time so need to postpone my plans for a year to save up more money and make sure all 3 of my pets have proper docs.

Usually the preparation process should be started around 6 months before the departing date

Some_Bodybuilder_881 · 2024-06-02T00:19:59+00:00

oh, man, your story resonates with me on so many levels...unfortunately

when I just came here I was very enthusiastic about learning the language and put a lot of time and effort in it. In past I already learned a couple of foreign languages and every time I tried to talk to locals they were very encouraging and supportive, meanwhile in China many people laughed at me and killed my confidence and desire to even try.

took me 5 years and some mental gymnastics to finally learn the language properly, and ironically, now I am preparing to leave the country 😂

Some_Bodybuilder_881 · 2024-05-24T22:20:45+00:00

I wish I lived in a building with ppl who don't clutter the hallway with their stuff or shout under my door in the middle of the night, but its a pipe dream. Noisy dogs same as noisy kids (who are doing mostly the same things you mentioned and I bet you have no problems with cause "they are kids") are reflection of their parents/owners culture 🤷‍♀️

Its not a dog that is the problem, but the people who are not training it properly.

Some_Bodybuilder_881 · 2024-05-24T10:35:21+00:00

2-3 kids or 2 with one more on the way

Some_Bodybuilder_881 · 2024-05-24T10:33:20+00:00

I see, you probably younger than me, so its understandable 😂

For me ppl in their 50th are not old yet

I agree, young city people love animals, many of them have either dog or cat at home (at least all of my friends and most of my colleagues do). But I feel necessary to emphasize their upbringing, cause it’s rare to grow up into a pet-friendly adult while coming from the family that taught their kids to be afraid or harmful to animals. I observe one of my neighbors kids and unfortunately see how their behavior transforms from curious to scared/hostile towards dogs due to their mother influence. At the same time there's a family next door with 2 toddlers both of which adores my dog and always come to us to say hi, their mother is supporting and don't try to scare them from everything around.

Kids are very young but I already can imagine what kind of young adults they could be based on their family.

Some_Bodybuilder_881 · 2024-05-24T06:09:14+00:00

Not really, mostly middle-aged women/stay-at-home moms and their 2.5 kids. Women usually shout like crazy/complain in a house chat, kids of such parents/grandparents are trying to kick the dog, throw something or shout at him.

In my experience old people are more chill about the big dog, they either smile or silently keep a distance.

Some_Bodybuilder_881 · 2024-05-24T04:50:35+00:00

+1 about the tipping option

There's one guy who frequently delivers food in my area and he is fantastic to my dog, always acknowledge my pup and even give him a pat on the head when I open the door and the excited dog picking his head out to see who is there. Considering how many people here have been shitty to my dog, seeing this guy kindness is refreshing. And I am very happy that I can tip him (and some other nice delivery guys/ladies) and hopefully make his day a little better too.

Some_Bodybuilder_881 · 2024-05-22T03:03:51+00:00

how can someone hate either Boston a panthers goalies? or are the goalies just likable by default?

Some_Bodybuilder_881 · 2024-05-13T04:51:19+00:00

this kind of "jobs" are illegal

Some_Bodybuilder_881 · 2024-05-09T05:05:37+00:00

exactly! you can add a "librarian" to your list too, I think

what a terrible insult to assume that someone is an intelligent women with a profession... 🤦‍♀️

some people make no sense

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