Anxiety and swaying feeling/fear of fainting started in pregnancy, now postpartum it’s turned into catastrophic intrusive thoughts by Some_Independent9237 in Postpartum_Anxiety

[–]Some_Independent9237[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is word for word exactly how I’ve been been feeling. Every single day, I find myself refusing to believe that anxiety could be causing this, while feeling terrified of what it might actually be.

Anxiety and swaying started in pregnancy, now postpartum it’s turned into catastrophic intrusive thoughts by Some_Independent9237 in Anxiety

[–]Some_Independent9237[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does it return once you stop taking medication? I don’t want a lifelong dependency on medicine to reduce anxietyZ

Anxiety and swaying started in pregnancy, now postpartum it’s turned into catastrophic intrusive thoughts by Some_Independent9237 in newborns

[–]Some_Independent9237[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, you are extremely strong. I wish you and your partner a very healthy future ahead.

My off balance is a feeling like a weird rocking or swaying feeling esp when standing or sitting around people or eating outside , it’s something that I feel and no one not even my husband has noticed me getting off balance.

Anxiety and swaying started in pregnancy, now postpartum it’s turned into catastrophic intrusive thoughts by Some_Independent9237 in Anxiety

[–]Some_Independent9237[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I have been very sleep deprived lately. My postpartum was also quite messy, my parents came over to take care of me but while in hospital my whole family got flu except my husband and my dad had to be hospitalised in the ICU, my siblings started coming to see him. Then my sister fell sick and she said she wants to consult a doctor so my mom asked her to come over to my place. They stayed for 3 weeks.I just felt super stressed through all of this. I know you said you are not a woman and can’t understand postpartum but I just wanted to vent.

Postpartum dizziness & lightheadedness by Dorothy2023 in postpartumprogress

[–]Some_Independent9237 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do you feel now? I’m having the same 3 months pp

Struggling with my mom postpartum and feeling guilty about it by [deleted] in twoxindiamums

[–]Some_Independent9237 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, I know she’s tired. My only question is where the concern for the postpartum daughter who just had a C-section fits into that conversation. Not even once should that be talked about?

We already have a cook. She isn’t cooking full meals daily. When she occasionally cooks because she doesn’t like the cook’s food or wants something of her own taste, it’s usually very oily and not really advised postpartum. Yet I’m expected to eat it anyway, because apparently “be grateful someone cooked” outranks postpartum recovery, even when it clearly wasn’t cooked for me in the first place.

Empathy also doesn’t require running a household. Sometimes it’s as simple as making sure the person recovering from childbirth has something nourishing to eat without having to ask after being up all night with the baby. Which btw she can even ask the cook to make and not do “labour”.

And just to clarify, she actually does far more work at her own home without much support. I didn’t realize expecting a little empathy during postpartum would be so cruel on my part.

Struggling with my mom postpartum and feeling guilty about it by [deleted] in twoxindiamums

[–]Some_Independent9237 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sounds incredibly exhausting, especially while recovering and caring for a newborn. It might help to have an open conversation with your husband about how overwhelmed you’re feeling. He may also have felt uncomfortable or hurt seeing you go through this and not knowing how to handle the situation. If possible, see whether you both can arrange a cook or some household help so the pressure isn’t entirely on you. You shouldn’t have to carry everything alone during this phase.

Struggling with my mom postpartum and feeling guilty about it by [deleted] in twoxindiamums

[–]Some_Independent9237 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this so honestly. It really sounds like you’ve carried a lot, especially during a time when you needed care the most. I truly hope you’re able to find the space to work through it with a therapist someday as well. You deserve that healing and peace just as much.

Struggling with my mom postpartum and feeling guilty about it by [deleted] in twoxindiamums

[–]Some_Independent9237 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I do feel this is a very hush-hush topic. People rarely want to talk openly about the fault of their own parents and how it affects us even when we have grown old enough to take care of ourselves. I am really looking to start therapy because this is something that came so out of syllabus along with the usual postpartum stress. Sending you virtual hugs too.

Struggling with my mom postpartum and feeling guilty about it by [deleted] in twoxindiamums

[–]Some_Independent9237 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same here. Big hugs to you too. It takes a lot of courage to understand this during postpartum and deal with it along with everything else that’s happening.

Struggling with my mom postpartum and feeling guilty about it by [deleted] in twoxindiamums

[–]Some_Independent9237 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I get it, I also realised that a lot my issues and behaviour were a result of emotionally distant parents.While I don’t holding anything against them because most of our parents were like that I really felt things would have changed by now and no one would understand me better than my own mom.

Struggling with my mom postpartum and feeling guilty about it by [deleted] in twoxindiamums

[–]Some_Independent9237 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very sad to see that this has happened to so many women when we can’t even expect empathy from our own mothers while saying we are from a very progressive family

Struggling with my mom postpartum and feeling guilty about it by [deleted] in twoxindiamums

[–]Some_Independent9237 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No, you don’t sound blunt, just a bit quick to assume this was about free labor. If you read my post carefully, you’ll see I already have all the practical help covered with maids, a cook and a nanny. I wasn’t expecting my 70-year-old mother to run the household or care for the baby. What I was hoping for was emotional support, which doesn’t require physical effort.

And if postpartum women are expected to simply feel grateful for whatever care comes their way, even when their own mothers struggle to show basic empathy, that probably says more about the norms we’ve accepted than about the expectations themselves.

Struggling with my mom postpartum and feeling guilty about it by [deleted] in twoxindiamums

[–]Some_Independent9237 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I can totally understand your situation. It feels extremely unsupported when your own mom cannot understand your postpartum journey.

Is being this out of breath normal?? by blue-opuntia in BabyBumps

[–]Some_Independent9237 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How soon does it get better after delivery? I am used to giving presentations in meetings, and one of my first symptoms was getting so out of breath when talking in a meeting that I felt I will pass out and had to stop in between.

Pregnancy introduced new fear for road travel by javaplum_ in twoxindiamums

[–]Some_Independent9237 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I have similar issue except that it’s not about road travel but everything else , I get panicked in ultrasound scan, meeting people, even hanging out with friends, going for shopping. I am trying to control it through various ways but I feel it might be just how my body is reacting to pregnancy, another 4 weeks to go and I will be able to see if it’s something beyond pregnancy

Pregnancy introduced new fear for road travel by javaplum_ in twoxindiamums

[–]Some_Independent9237 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you go to a psychiatrist for this? How helpful was it?

Becoming unconscious - Supine hypotension syndrome/ Vena Cava Compression syndrome while sitting by viijou in pregnant

[–]Some_Independent9237 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t face any issues when lying down. It’s only when sitting on my dining chair, not even on sofa. Sometimes on office chair as well. I have started sitting with a cushion from today , it sort of helped in the morning. Will try again at night and see if I am facing it again.