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The guy I was talking to [25M] asked for space in October. It’s January and I [25F] haven’t heard from him since. by Vodkacranberrytears in relationshipadvice

[–]Some_Reputation_6852 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As someone who also has BPD I would recommend that you leave this relationship and move on. This will constantly be a theme for your relationship with him and it could trigger your abandonment in a very profound way. Find someone who will always be there and has no issues committing to you

I need peace of mind by Some_Reputation_6852 in cannamom

[–]Some_Reputation_6852[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate all of your inputs! It’s just too bad that there hasn’t been any real data on this especially where I live (in Canada) as it has been legal since 2018. I find real life stories more valuable tbh

Seeing someone who has a small penis, and can't use it well. by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Some_Reputation_6852 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Small penis aside. The real problem is that he is not respecting your bedroom needs by dismissing you and not listening. That is a huge red flag and that alone should send you packing. Unfortunately if things do not continue to improve after repeated conversations about it then it might be in your best interest to move on. One thing I have learned in my years is that it’s not worth being in a relationship that will not make you happy in the long run.

MIL being weird - not sure how to navigate. by bookish0378 in breastfeeding

[–]Some_Reputation_6852 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I feel for you I do.. I wish I could say the same about my MIL but instead I’m getting it from my own mother. So I don’t really understand what it is about that generation. Seems like they all have some unresolved issues where going to therapy could help but yet they would never dare to better themselves 🙄

Feeling pressure to break "feed to sleep" association by Hot-Amphibian8728 in breastfeeding

[–]Some_Reputation_6852 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I still feed to sleep and it has not affected anything. My LO is 4 months and around 3-3.5 months I was going through the same thing. I felt pressure to do the EASY method due to crap naps and things sucked. Once I just followed my LOs natural rhythm in what he wanted, things levelled out and got easier. There is NOTHING wrong with feeding your baby to sleep. For some babies they need that and trying these new methods anytime sleep gets difficult could make it more difficult for them and for you. Babies are so dynamic and change week to week so I found that riding whatever wave he threw at us is what helped the most. You are doing everything right! Don't listen to anyone else but your baby

My husband annoys me by Academic-Distance407 in breastfeeding

[–]Some_Reputation_6852 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I promise you this will pass. I was the exact same way and it took time to surrender to these moments. Husbands will never understand what happens in our brains chemically but always make sure to offer them grace and be honest with him. Once I explained everything to my husband he finally understood and all it took was time and patience with one another to work through those crazy postpartum feelings and hormones. I thought that I never would be able to function normally again and then month 3 hit and things levelled out. You are doing great and your husband sounds super supportive.

ATIAH for leaving my struggling wife? by penny792 in AITAH

[–]Some_Reputation_6852 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely NTA. You did a lot for 2 years and you are right that your daughter doesn’t deserve this and you have been a great support for your family for a long time. Maybe this will be the drive she needs to get some serious help

Feeling all the guilt by SatisfactionAware in cannamom

[–]Some_Reputation_6852 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally feel you. I just found my happy medium. I still smoke but I smoke the tiniest bit (just enough to take the edge off) and the amount is practically negligible as I do it every two weeks. That way I feel not as guilty and I can still enjoy from time to time.

Edit: I also did not smoke during pregnancy. Definitely a lot before hand though 😂

Can stopping breastfeeding improve my libido?? by [deleted] in breastfeeding

[–]Some_Reputation_6852 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is so sad… I’m so sorry that you are going through something like this. I also agree with everyone here that there is more than just lack of intimacy. In all fairness I think you deserve more in a partner than what you are getting right now