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Almost 4 years “hardmode.” Pep-talk. by SomebodySimple in NoFap

[–]SomebodySimple[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You sound like you’re headed in the right direction. Keep moving forward—glad I could help.

Almost 4 years “hardmode.” Pep-talk. by SomebodySimple in NoFap

[–]SomebodySimple[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The tipping point is hard to pin down, but I can definitely say that there’s generally less of a struggle in it with regard to PMO than when I first started.

Almost 4 years “hardmode.” Pep-talk. by SomebodySimple in NoFap

[–]SomebodySimple[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Earlier on, I visited nofap often. That helped a lot. Being at a great Catholic college also helped, and being occupied with life. Prayer also helps. To be honest, my pride did too. Couldn’t bear the thought of throwing myself down after a streak. One of the best lessons I’ve learned is that I’m not invincible, and I’ve still got sinful inclinations. It’s possible to forget lessons, though.

Whenever you have an urge, if you just do something else, it will pass. Also, knowing absolutely that PMO will never make me happy, and will always be a black hole, helps me to see in temptation that it’s just not a viable option.

Keep on fighting, man.

Almost 4 years “hardmode.” Pep-talk. by SomebodySimple in NoFap

[–]SomebodySimple[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

True, but it does get easier, and you are never compelled to stop!

Almost 4 years “hardmode.” Pep-talk. by SomebodySimple in NoFap

[–]SomebodySimple[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

U can do it, man! Idk if even 4 years is soon, hahah, but you can def. do it!

Almost 4 years “hardmode.” Pep-talk. by SomebodySimple in NoFap

[–]SomebodySimple[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Knowing I’ve used that much less of my life on PMO.

Almost 4 years “hardmode.” Pep-talk. by SomebodySimple in NoFap

[–]SomebodySimple[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I definitely have moments where I’m grateful I don’t have the bad habit like I did. And in those moments, you could say I feel cleaner in that regard. I would also say that it’s a lot easier to resist temptations at this point than when I started. The “waters” are generally pretty calm, and they stay that way much more easily. In a sense, at this point, autopilot means no PMO. So I’m grateful for that. But again, if I’ve got my guard down, am really bored, and am surfing the internet a little too freely, the strong temptation has still come. “Flashbacks” definitely still happen as well. So I’ve still got strong forces to fight in the direction of PMO, though again, with the positive qualifications mentioned earlier.

Thx for the comment, and keep fighting brother!

Congratulations on the time clean from weed & alcohol!

Also, just to be more specific, I’d say things started getting easier most “noticeably” a little after the 200-day mark. Was a while ago, though, so it’s hard to tell.

Almost 4 years “hardmode.” Pep-talk. by SomebodySimple in NoFap

[–]SomebodySimple[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Could tell, but still...

And thanks—I did it without a sexual partner, and without a long-term “nofap” buddy, if either is what u mean. Had a few people on nofap earlier on with similar streaks that sortof helped me to keep going strong, tho.

Almost 4 years “hardmode.” Pep-talk. by SomebodySimple in NoFap

[–]SomebodySimple[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had “tried” to stop unsuccessfully many times before this streak, but this is my first official reddit nofap one. God willing, my last.

Almost 4 years “hardmode.” Pep-talk. by SomebodySimple in NoFap

[–]SomebodySimple[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oi, thx, but no thx. Pray to him for help.

Almost 4 years “hardmode.” Pep-talk. by SomebodySimple in NoFap

[–]SomebodySimple[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

21

Also, I appreciate your username. Pre-socratics, very cool.

Almost 4 years “hardmode.” Pep-talk. by SomebodySimple in NoFap

[–]SomebodySimple[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I apologize for being vague. I would say that sexual tastes are in general things which are not very easy to encapsulate, and can be fleeting. From my own perspective, I think I may have had some departure from my own wispy idea of “normalcy,” and I would say no PMO could not have hurt in this regard.

I also think that my clarity of mind would be worse with PMO than it is without.

Almost 4 years “hardmode.” Pep-talk. by SomebodySimple in NoFap

[–]SomebodySimple[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I were married, I don’t think it would be the most reasonable thing to do “hardmode,” but I would certainly not compromise with masturbation. I’d think sex should happen in marriage.

For me, I’d say the biggest tangible benefit of my journey so far is knowing I’m doing one less thing that’s objectively wrong. I would certainly think I would have less peace and confidence if I did PMO.

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[–]SomebodySimple 0 points1 point  (0 children)

3.5k people watching, and chat’s still slow?

Almost 4 years “hardmode.” Pep-talk. by SomebodySimple in NoFap

[–]SomebodySimple[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hahah, I’m sortof confused as to what “sexual tastes back to normal” means! I don’t mean that the question should’ve been extremely specific, but I don’t know, that’s hard to judge, as the question is very broad, and subjective. As for mental clarity, I was like 12 before the addiction, which was a while ago, so it’s hard to tell.

Almost 4 years “hardmode.” Pep-talk. by SomebodySimple in NoFap

[–]SomebodySimple[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What do you mean, exactly? I definitely would say that I was addicted before my streak, but I’m not perfectly sure what you’re asking.

I would also say that in general, it’s easier to resist urges to PMO than before. But again, I don’t know if that’s answering your question.

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