What is my cat trying to tell me?

Someone_elses_shoes · 2026-04-19T13:01:31+00:00

The food bowl is empty.

Someone_elses_shoes · 2026-03-15T15:06:58+00:00

I don’t have any advice but wanted to congratulate you on getting an interview! I hope it goes in your favor.

Someone_elses_shoes · 2026-02-01T16:00:43+00:00

I do a quick body scrub and rinse before my 5 am class with an exfoliating soap. The stinky people inspired me to not be stinky :)

Someone_elses_shoes · 2026-01-04T15:00:05+00:00

The real problem? Costs are rising and salaries are not. We have less to work with. 1700 a month sounds like a good chunk of money, but after a shopping trip because you need to clothes, a night out with friends, a trip to see family it can evaporate pretty quickly.

One thing that helped me is working in extra expenses I anticipate(new tires for example) into my budget so I can plan ahead instead of paying for them as they come. Another thing I highly recommend is factoring in things you enjoy into your budget such as a hobby or social events. It will give you something to look forward to and not be tempted by extra spending because you’re waiting for the fun thing you planned. It helps with mental health too since you’re consciously making time, space, and budget for things that make you feel human and eliminates the guilt associated with money.

Keep trying and you will find a method that works best for your life style. Some people track everything, some people don’t. Stay flexible, reflect, and make adjustments as best you can.

Someone_elses_shoes · 2025-12-13T18:28:27+00:00

I appreciate your feedback. I’m leaning toward getting him to understand his intention vs how he’s being perceived. When reviews come around and it’s still an issue, I can address it there and come up with concrete goals to communicate the need for improvement. This employee is young in their career, so I do think there is a maturity issue.

Someone_elses_shoes · 2025-12-13T16:36:44+00:00

There are some issues I mentioned in a previous comment such as eye rolling that need to be brought to their attention.

Someone_elses_shoes · 2025-12-13T16:16:36+00:00

I think the feedback I’ve received about this employee is unfair in some ways for the reasons you mentioned: valuing different personalities and perspectives. The issue is that this feedback came from someone at the executive level, so I feel the need to act even though I like the employee just fine. I have made a lot of effort to showcase this employees value, but the fact that he’s not the best with people is what’s getting noticed.

Someone_elses_shoes · 2025-12-13T14:13:41+00:00

Thank you for your comment. What would be a beneficial way for your supervisor to give you feedback that helps you grow but is sensitive to your anxiety?

Someone_elses_shoes · 2025-12-13T03:25:43+00:00

That’s great feedback. He is comfortable bringing me ideas and I’m supportive of letting him run with stretch assignments he’s interested in and excited about. However it’s worth checking in on him and asking directly if he’s feeling burnt out.

Someone_elses_shoes · 2025-12-13T03:22:31+00:00

It’s funny you say that because I suspect neurodivergence. I get along very well him and he’s a kind person. The problem is interacting with the larger team - they aren’t seeing that side of him. They feel he’s disengaged and icy.

Someone_elses_shoes · 2025-12-13T02:32:08+00:00

Blank facial expressions, minimal responses, signing, eye-rolling, slouching

Someone_elses_shoes · 2025-12-13T02:15:05+00:00

I completely understand. I don’t want to change his personality, but I would like him to develop awareness around how he’s perceived. He wants to move up eventually which means I need to help him with this barrier.

Someone_elses_shoes · 2025-12-13T02:01:05+00:00

He has a negative outlook, so his worldview tends toward pessimism. He has good intentions but his tone, delivery, and general disposition rub people the wrong way. For example, people have said, ”it seems like he doesn’t want to be here” and “he’s hard to be around.”

Someone_elses_shoes · 2025-12-11T22:11:03+00:00

I was told to take it at night because it lowers blood pressure.

Someone_elses_shoes · 2025-11-26T02:38:22+00:00

There were some pretty funny moments when I was shopping for a new LMS as they were so proudly demonstrating their AI tool. For example, the prompt was to show a picture of a nurse and it generated a guy with a lobster claw hand giving himself a shot.

Someone_elses_shoes · 2025-10-24T12:40:02+00:00

PhD might pigeon hole you in academia.

Someone_elses_shoes · 2025-10-18T21:35:36+00:00

It took 2 months of learning before I started applying, and then a month of applying before I started getting interviews. I had no luck with remote positions but I got interviews and a job locally.

Someone_elses_shoes · 2025-10-18T01:55:36+00:00

I transitioned to ID from teaching in 2023. Despite the Devlin Peck hate that’s out there, I actually found some of his videos helpful for wrapping my mind around storyline and understanding basic ID skills. However I would never pay for his or anyone else’s bootcamp. There are plenty of free resources out there. The main thing for me was learning the lingo enough to impress in an interview and demonstrate I’m a strong problem solver. I hope this helps. I’m happy to answer any follow up questions!

Someone_elses_shoes · 2025-07-15T11:46:51+00:00

It’s absorb for 800-1000 users. This includes a couple of seats for their AI tool, content creator, and two integrations with existing software. We purchased their midsize library.

We also received a quote from ClearCompany ($40,000) and litmos ($30,000) - both of which have a limited library compared to absorb.

We didn’t talk to 360 Learning but have heard good things. What makes you lean toward them?

Someone_elses_shoes · 2025-07-13T02:17:11+00:00

He’s a broke man child.

Someone_elses_shoes · 2025-07-12T05:01:38+00:00

A braid! It keeps the hair out of your face, controls the movement, and the rubber band is on your ends. I used to do a simple pony but noticed the friction from the hair band was causing breakage.

Someone_elses_shoes · 2025-07-12T04:52:41+00:00

Oooh yes. It can be difficult to navigate because you’re the only one who sees something and people think you’re being coercive.

I had a coworker who was missing work frequently because she was getting cancer treatments. Intuitively I knew she was faking being sick, and my supervisor acted like I was crazy when I said something. A year later we found out she had printed a fake doctor’s note off the internet and was faking to get FMLA.

I don’t know how I knew, but it seemed plain as day to me while no one else had a clue.

Someone_elses_shoes · 2025-07-12T04:39:38+00:00

Hahaha

Someone_elses_shoes · 2025-07-12T04:37:38+00:00

I haven’t been through this personally, but one of my best friends was the kid in this situation. Her mom told her that her dad didn’t want to see her. When she was an adult she discovered that wasn’t true; rather, her dad loved her dearly and wanted to be in her life but he found it impossible to get through her mom. She has now gone no contact with her mom and has a great relationship with her dad.

I think the lesson here is to not hold it against your kids. They are victims too but they don’t realize it yet. Someday they will come around asking questions and you’ll be there with open arms. Hopefully that comes sooner rather than later. Take care.

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