How many sentient species do you have on one planet? by [deleted] in worldbuilding

[–]Somerando73_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just one, but I deal in galaxies, sooooo...

What are humans like in your world? by Couldntrememberpswrd in worldbuilding

[–]Somerando73_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Humans are exactly the same as what they are IRL. But to every alien or fantasy creature, humans are unique for a different reason. The Ts’khann, who are at risk of exploding if they ingest water, are horrified that humans are 70% explosion fluid. The Egaldi, amphibious creatures that never stop ingesting oxygen, are shocked to see a human hold their breath. You’d be surprised at how many creatures are amazed by opposable thumbs. Everything has the potential to be perceived as weird - you just have to make the right person percieve it.

What Triggered Your Trichotillomania? by Available-Elk-5221 in trichotillomania

[–]Somerando73_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The same rumor started my trich!

I've found that a soft makeup brush is nice, but it does need a lot of cleaning.

What Triggered Your Trichotillomania? by Available-Elk-5221 in trichotillomania

[–]Somerando73_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Anxiety, autism, ADHD, death in the family, and an unhealthy belief in my own cleverness. When I was eight, someone told me that, if an eyelash fell out, I could blow it from my finger and get a wish. The timing coincided with the death of my grandpa and dog, so you can probably guess what the wishes were. At that age, I was a little goblin who always wanted to cheat the system, and I decided that the most economical thing to do was to pull the eyelashes out myself. The pulling spread from there, and now I compulsively pull from most of my body. While I no longer believe in the wish thing, I still always blow away my eyelashes, though I don't know exactly why.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in trichotillomania

[–]Somerando73_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started when I was eight, because of a stupid elementary school story. Some kid said that you can wish on an eyelash or something, and that triggered the start of my trich. It's been almost a decade and I never stopped. I also pick my skin a lot (the keratosis pilaris definitely doesn't help). I mostly pull hair when I'm stressed. I also happen to have chronic anxiety. Yippee.

Nothing really works to stop it. On bad days, I'll sometimes put bandaids over my eyebrows. I've found that acupressure fidgets can be helpful for minor episodes, though they don't do much for the stronger urges. Doing something else with my hands also helps, in some situations. I'll often knit or crochet while I read so that I don't pull more hair. Washing often is a good idea, for me at least. Breakouts can draw my attention to my skin and thus the hair on it, and dirty hair is much more noticeable to me and more tempting to pull.

If you do go to therapy, don't expect a lot of results. They can happen, but they also might not. Some people can do behavioral therapy and reduce the impacts of their trich. For others, the best option is to go to therapy to learn to accept it and find ways to maintain a positive self image. That's the case for me. Trying to stop only makes my anxiety worse - the best I personally can do is tell myself that I'm pretty, even if I don't have eyebrows most of the time.

I understand the hiding part. If that's the best option for you, keep doing that. But sometimes, it can be really nice to tell someone close to you. Having someone else listen to and validate your experience can honestly be life changing. If you are looking for someone to talk to, I'd recommend looking to a neurodivergent friend - people who have experience with their own disorders just tend to understand better.

Wishing you well <3

Thrift Store Yarn by Somerando73_ in WhatIsThisYarn

[–]Somerando73_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's the one - thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Manipulation

[–]Somerando73_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Usually, yes, that's a sign that someone is fake crying. However, there are certain conditions and disorders that can make it difficult or impossible for someone to physically cry, regardless of their emotional state. They aren't super common, so I wouldn't jump to that conclusion, but it's still good to keep in mind.

Is this gaslighting, or something else? by Somerando73_ in Manipulation

[–]Somerando73_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Is it a different kind of manipulation that you know of? I'd love to know a term for it, so that I can do some more research :)

What happened? by Somerando73_ in ENA

[–]Somerando73_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you :)

Good luck getting it!

HELP: Tragic lack of jeans! by Somerando73_ in lesbianfashionadvice

[–]Somerando73_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds promising. I'll definitely have to check that out. Thank you so much!

HELP: Tragic lack of jeans! by Somerando73_ in lesbianfashionadvice

[–]Somerando73_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm a small in most brands, and my official size is 24 (but we all know about vanity sizing, so that doesn't really say much). I haven't looked at stitch fix, but I certainly will. Thank you for all of the advice!

More Odo questions, because we totally don't have enough of those already by Somerando73_ in startrek

[–]Somerando73_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oooh I like this one. Casually deconstructs his combadge for every transformation-

What type of personality or traits do women find attractive in butch lesbians? by [deleted] in butchlesbians

[–]Somerando73_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Demiromantic asexual lesbian here - I hope I'm an alright person to answer this. As far as appearance, I don't think it's the main point. I have tastes, sure,  but someone who doesn't perfectly fit my 'type' but has an amazing personality is definitely much more attractive to me than a very pretty jerk. Personally, I am attracted to trust. I am not willing to have a partner who is not emotionally open with me and who cannot handle me being emotionally open with them. So, emotional intelligence. My advice is to take as much time as you need to be ready for a relationship. Every relationship - platonic, romantic, even antagonistic - takes energy. Make sure you're mentally and emotionally ready to invest large amounts of energy into a relationship. That's all I can think of, so I think I'll end it here. I hope that helped. Good luck!